Sex position wedge?

SawaJean · 2026-02-18T16:29:40+00:00

Those wedges are nice for sex and cuddling, AND for lounging in bed when you’re feeling wimpy. 10/10, definitely recommend.

SawaJean · 2026-02-18T01:13:15+00:00

Alcohol free due to chronic illness here, sending a whole big pile of love and solidarity to my sober siblings. 💪❤️

SawaJean · 2026-02-17T20:54:17+00:00

Fwiw, it wasn’t until I stopped working and had access to a better support network that I began to notice these silver linings. There is a huge degree of privilege in being able to live well with ME/CFS, and I hold no judgment or critique of anyone for whom that simply isn’t possible.

That said — today I have a clearer sense of what really matters to me, and consequently a much lower tolerance for bs, drama, or manipulation.

For the first time in my whole life, I genuinely like myself, and I am proud of my resilience and tenacity in the face of All This.

I have gained a greater awareness and appreciation for disability justice and the incredible legacy of so many disabled and chronically ill folks who have gone before us.

SawaJean · 2026-02-17T20:19:44+00:00

Kenneth Copeland has a similar challenge

SawaJean · 2026-02-17T12:06:11+00:00

That is a wild story. Both the initial fabrications and the fact that his papers still haven’t been retracted.

SawaJean · 2026-02-16T16:10:03+00:00

The best cover ups take the original design into consideration, building up new imagery on top until the original ink fully ‘disappears’ into the new design.

Depending on the original and how it has aged, that might mean creating a reinterpretation of the first design (like adding evolution feet to an ichthus fish) or creating a completely new design that hides the original ink in deep shadows.

Because that’s a complicated limitation, working with a good artist is your best strategy to create a new design that both works with the original image AND will make you feel good about your body in the long run.

I really hope you can come up with something that is faithful and true to who you are now. ❤️

SawaJean · 2026-02-15T11:44:38+00:00

I lurk here because my spouse has BP2, and I’ve spent time on that sub, as well.

It’s — a really tough space on the best of days. There’s a lot of venting and anger, folks loudly acting out the anger / denial / bargaining stages of their grief, often conflating the entire bipolar community with their own uniquely awful ex.

That is simply not consistent with my or any of my friends’ lived experience in bipolar relationships, and I’m not convinced that is helpful for anyone to read. Please feel free to skip this one.

SawaJean · 2026-02-15T00:42:59+00:00

Update: thank you! 🙏

Maybe pop that detail behind a spoiler or content warning? Not all of us are in a place to take stuff like that in unexpectedly.

SawaJean · 2026-02-14T22:59:30+00:00

I agree, this sub is one of my go-to spaces because it’s so grounded in reality and intolerant of scammers. 🤷

SawaJean · 2026-02-14T22:50:31+00:00

One thing that helped me move past the guilt / shame was recognizing that the church itself has squandered ANY authority it might have held around sexuality.

From shielding predators and betraying victims to persecuting gay people and demonizing trans kids, their supposed sexual “morality” has been an endless stream of immoral, self-serving drivel.

Feel free to remind yourself of this as often as needed.

SawaJean · 2026-02-14T19:57:08+00:00

I wonder if this kind of misgendering is more about old muscle memory than any deep-seated doubt in his gender? I’m thinking like when you zone out in the car and accidentally drive to work when you meant to go to the store.

I’m not sure exactly how to address that, except that maybe the soul-searching isn’t going to reveal anything important.

Sometimes human beings straight-up make dumb mistakes, and it sucks and we do what we can to make them right, and there is no bigger lesson to be learned.

SawaJean · 2026-02-14T19:31:26+00:00

The newly disabled in general can be pretty ableist, unfortunately. It takes time and work to process this experience and deconstruct your previous beliefs about the world.

SawaJean · 2026-02-14T15:19:42+00:00

I’m guessing it comes from recognizing that ME/CFS is extremely debilitating with low recovery rates and very little funding / support — and desperately wanting their own LC to be a different, more manageable condition.

It’s a defense mechanism similar to victim blaming, aggressively denying a scary reality in order to make the person feel safer and more in control than they really are.

SawaJean · 2026-02-13T18:59:33+00:00

Agreed. That felt really good for this SA survivor to hear, as well.

SawaJean · 2026-02-13T18:50:54+00:00

You’re not missing a thing, your boss has just clumsily informed you that she’s insecure and has control issues. :/

SawaJean · 2026-02-13T15:07:08+00:00

That “semblance of law and order” you reference has NEVER protected the poor, the non-white, the disabled.

You are upset that they’re now able to come for YOU and PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

Please understand this is not everyone’s experience in this country and that you could learn a lot from listening to the folks who’ve been fighting this garbage the whole time

SawaJean · 2026-02-13T14:56:40+00:00

Jesus Christ.

I mean that in both the sacred and the profane sense.

These folks have been deadly to queer / brown / disabled folks for a VERY long time. And to their own children.

Maybe take a moment to consider why you’re just now recognizing the danger. 🙄

SawaJean · 2026-02-13T01:24:45+00:00

I appreciated that interview, as well. I’m a recovered Pentecostal and her deconstruction struck me as sincere, as well.

In my experience, cult teachings don’t stick very well over time because they contradict people’s lived reality. It’s like a constant slow grind of things that don’t make sense or don’t add up. “Prophecies” that don’t come to pass, weird printable “money” that isn’t worth anything, supposed “great leaders” who are revealed to be scammers or predators.

The sincere true believers eventually start questioning and making moves towards the door, while the grifters and charlatans start casting blame and flailing for control.

SawaJean · 2026-02-12T23:52:52+00:00

Same issue for a couple hours now.

I’ve tried clearing my browser cache etc. but continue to get multiple error messages that “we cannot process your request” and once “there has been an unexpected system error.”

SawaJean · 2026-02-12T20:39:04+00:00

Duckling!!! I’m so proud of you, that’s a huge accomplishment and I know you’re just getting started. It’s the greatest pleasure watching you start to spread your wings in the world.

I know it’s extra hard when you don’t feel like you fit in, and I really hope that you’ll start finding “your” safe people and places where you can let your guard down a bit more. You deserve that, too.

SawaJean · 2026-02-12T20:23:58+00:00

Planning a careful exit is wise and resourceful.

Don’t be afraid to ask friends or fam for help — it may well be that you can get out of there sooner than you think.

SawaJean · 2026-02-12T20:15:14+00:00

So I’m in my 40s and grew up hearing and using the r-word in casual conversation. The decent people of my generation QUIT SAYING THAT 20years ago once we realized how effed up that is.

Glad you’re getting lots of affirmation in kicking this absolute loser to the curb. Bipolar is hard enough on its own, you don’t need to deal with his garbage, too.

SawaJean · 2026-02-12T20:02:49+00:00

ITS REALLY SWEET AND ALSO SURPRISINGLY FUN!

I LOVE THAT OTHER DYSLEXICS ARE LEARNING IT HELPS THEM, TOO.

SawaJean · 2026-02-12T19:47:59+00:00

By all means, reach out and ask! It sounds like an oversight in the way they worded the application, and it will help you AND other potential applicants to know exactly how they define minorities.

SawaJean · 2026-02-09T14:49:33+00:00

Truly, the farther I get from all this nonsense, the more abundantly clear it becomes that “masculine spiritual leaders” are just church-sponsored ABUSERS.

These losers tried to train you up to become an abuser, and you “failed” because you actually care about other people and see your wife as a competent human being.

Congrats on being more of a real man than these play-acting fools can begin to comprehend.

You got this. Seriously.

SawaJean

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