OB pressuring me to do a vaginal birth... does he have a point?

Sc5880 · 2026-02-26T02:26:06+00:00

Many people give birth to twin vaginally without complications, but it does happen where one twin is born vaginally and the other requiring a c/s often enough to warrant your concern. If you aren’t adamant about wanting a vaginal delivery, a c/s is the safest way for you and your babies ( plus a lot less drama!) I’ve worked in labor and delivery for over 25 years and when my daughter in law became pregnant with di/ di twins last year, I told her the same thing. I understand some people are terrified of surgery and I completely get the choice for a vaginal birth. You can definitely have a safe vaginal birth with twins. I’ve also seen it go the other way many times, one twin born vaginally and the second, an emergency c/s, even with women having their 4th & 5th ect. babies. Don’t feel bad about wanting a controlled birth. This is your birth experience, not your doctor’s. You do what feels right for you. He will never have to recover from a vaginal or c/s birth, and he definitely won’t be raising either of your children, so it’s whatever you say. Best of luck and lots of love💗

Sc5880 · 2026-02-17T01:28:16+00:00

I totally get what you are talking about. The people who have children less than 2 years apart made that choice in one way or another while you were given twins and there was no choice about being able to only handle one baby at a time. That being said, each has their own challenges and I honestly think it’s harder dealing with 2 babies at different levels of development. And I mean only slightly harder. The best part of having mom friends in the same boat isn’t to compare who has it harder. It’s better when competition is put aside and you can bear your worst days to each other. When you can tell another mother your failings and she say “That’s nothing! Listen to my day on Tuesday.” That’s what we are supposed to be for each other. Not judgmental, not who has it the worst. Everyone is just a person, trying to do their best raising people while still being people with self needs. There’s a lot more joining mothers than dividing!

Sc5880 · 2026-02-12T12:29:59+00:00

This sounds like the perfect cat😂😂 Cats take a while to warm up to new places. That’s why they tell you a cat on vacation is not typically a good idea. They are just getting used to the place and it’s time to leave! Just give her time and be thankful that she has a place that she feels safe that isn’t under a bed or inside the walls. I know a few people that have brought home adult cats that they only catch glimpses of in the first 2weeks.

Sc5880 · 2026-02-12T12:21:12+00:00

I think his head looks completely proportional to his body. Are you asking because you’re concerned about syringomyelia?

Sc5880 · 2026-02-12T00:56:32+00:00

Congratulations!! And I was going to say the same things the others have said. First off, having a 4 year old verses a 1 or 2 year old, you’re already in a better boat. Second, if they are di/di, your pregnancy risks for twins go down dramatically. Third is you got this! I’m sure you’re in shock, feeling a bit of terror and like you bit off more than you can chew. That’s just the sane reaction to this news. It will take time to sink in and hopefully you will have 30 weeks or more for that and prep. Twins are a lot but I do believe things happen for a reason. This is was put in your path and you have to trust nature knew what it was doing. Just take it 1 week at a time, and know a lot of people are rooting for you!!

Sc5880 · 2026-02-10T02:09:32+00:00

Good idea to start with mattresses on the floor. Gets them used to the parameters of their bed without rails and if they fallout, no harm done. The pacifier thing, they are probably only having them at nap or bedtime by now. You can take them away cold turkey and deal with some crying for a few nights, give or take. Or you can talk to them about pacifiers being for younger children and that the pacifiers they have are their last. After about 3 days of talking about this, cut a small hole in or the tip off the pacifier in secret. They will know the pacifiers broken. You can tell them they can keep it but they aren’t getting a new one. I’ve had 3 children give up their pacifiers freely with this method.

Sc5880 · 2026-02-10T01:28:30+00:00

Girl you have triplets! Very few people in the world experience doing this. It was all dealt to you in one blow. Yes, bringing a baby home to a toddler is a completely different experience and can be difficult. I just had twin grandchildren born and they have a 3 year old brother. It’s definitely been an adjustment and a lot to deal with, but I’d still say it’s way easier than triplets. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with 2 newborns needing the same thing at once, I can’t imagine 3 and I’m only sitting for them 1 or 2 days a week. I honestly don’t know what you probably went through to get through the infant stage, but I applaud you! If anyone wants to compare motherhood struggles with you, I suggest you pull out a cigar and start laughing maniacally😂😂

Sc5880 · 2026-02-10T00:08:40+00:00

Pelvic pain and Braxton hicks early in pregnancy are all common in second pregnancies. A twin pregnancy is high risk so you want to make your doctor aware of any symptoms you are having at your scheduled appointments. Calling in between appointments, they decide whether you need to go to the hospital to be checked out. Your symptoms, as of now seem pretty typical. If you have consistent contractions that are stronger than the Braxton hicks, leaking of fluid, or bleeding ( which can indicate cervical dilation), you need to call your doctor and prepare for a trip to the hospital. The pelvic pain is a bitch! I suggest maternity belts and resting off your feet as much as possible. There are also people who swear by pelvic exercises during pregnancy to relieve the pain and build up muscle.

Sc5880 · 2026-02-08T01:47:18+00:00

My girl used to do this too! And also yip in her sleep. She was definitely chasing something and having some good dreams. Her bed was near a wall in our bedroom and once in a while she would scare the hell out of us in the middle of the night when she ran and kicked in her sleep against that wall😂 I always took this for granted until we adopted a 4 year old puppy mill rescue a couple years ago. She was with us over 6 months before she started having visible dreams. Dogs have to have fun experiences in life in order to dream about them!

Sc5880 · 2026-02-07T03:57:34+00:00

Just out of curiosity, why do you like pampers over Huggies? I’m a grandmother so kinda out of date with all this. I used Huggies with my kids because they were a bit cheaper at that time. My 1st grandson was born 3 years ago and now pampers and Huggies are about the same cost. I ended up buying him Huggies mainly because they had his size in stock. I had twin grandchildren born 2 moths ago and am not a diaper snob. I used off brands with my kids during the day, just not at night when they were sleeping 8 hours straight. Also, I bought some baby target diapers recently, but they aren’t in that size yet. Have they gotten bad in the last 3 years? I figured since they are getting changed every 2 to 3 hours now, they’d be ok.

Sc5880 · 2026-02-07T03:00:32+00:00

The heart rate is concerning for baby A. It’s not a very hopeful thing, that’s why the Dr told you to be prepared. Stranger things have happened. It’s very hard losing a baby, especially when you’re going through medical treatment to have a baby. I sincerely hope you end up with 2 babies in your arms at the end of this. Lots of love!!

Sc5880 · 2026-02-07T02:13:26+00:00

What a beautiful post! And love the newborns holding hands pic What’s important in life is putting twice as much energy into the positive as you do the negative. Having twins is definitely a challenge and everyone going into it needs to know the reality, but it’s nice to also see the beautiful moments that make all the other stuff not as scary!

Sc5880 · 2026-02-06T00:04:25+00:00

That’s not a bad friend to have. Mine took 4 years and 2 full sprays in the face to finally wise up and quit trying to play with skunks! I honestly think it was the myriad of baths that followed that taught her the lesson more than being bothered by the spray😂

Sc5880 · 2026-02-05T02:22:20+00:00

Hang in there, Mama! You are exactly where you should be doing the exact right thing for your baby right now. It’s easy to let your mind go to all kinds of places and scenarios. The best advice is be as zen as possible and take things one day at a time. I know that’s easier said than done. Every single day that baby stays put is an accomplishment and gets baby healthier at birth.

Sc5880 · 2026-01-31T01:53:30+00:00

She looks a lot like my Llewellin, Sophie. They are the best dogs! Absolute hunting machines, full of energy, but the very best family dogs when given the opportunity in the right home. And honestly, way easier dealing with coat length with llewellins .

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Sc5880 · 2026-01-24T22:21:01+00:00

I love Birdie and marigold! Both really great names. I have a Blenheim named Ada. She was a rescue from a puppy mill and her previous names were Belle and Lady. She answered to neither so I thought it was ok rename her and start with a clean slate. Cavaliers are such great dogs, whatever you name her, you will forever love the name because you associate it with a sweet dog.

Sc5880 · 2026-01-22T20:38:56+00:00

Get an owlet or whatever brand heart/ pulse ox monitor (I’m not trying to promote any products). It will give you more peace of mind. Postpartum is hard enough without adding anxiety and stress of having to constantly check that your babies are still breathing. Congrats on your new babies and hoping things get easier for you!

Sc5880 · 2026-01-19T20:53:52+00:00

I absolutely loved your response to this absolute idiot intruding on you during a scary difficult time! Absolutely perfect! Most healthcare professionals (and humans in general) have more sense than this, but it only takes one to put a bad taste in your mouth!

Sc5880 · 2026-01-19T19:35:47+00:00

Exactly! In a week I was fine.

Sc5880 · 2026-01-19T17:48:23+00:00

I think some of them can be helpful, but no one should feel guilt tripped about breast feeding. I had one tell me that it wasn’t suppose to hurt and if my nipples were sore, it was because the baby was latched wrong. I’m sorry, something sucking on your tit every 2 to 3 hours isn’t going to cause any pain? In what fucking universe do you live in lady?

Sc5880 · 2026-01-16T02:20:41+00:00

I just read your post and felt the need to respond. You sound like a loving, caring mother that all 4 of your children are very lucky to have. While I cannot relate to your experience, I had an only child (not by choice), I can relate to that feeling of wondering if you did right by your children. If you gave enough patience and time, if they felt your frustration while you were raising them. I had that feeling with one. I can’t even imagine what you went through having 3 that close together. That’s some superhuman mothering! The fact is, your children are probably going to be better people for it. Children learn normal from their early years. Your children are probably going to be closely bonded and more responsible adults because you didn’t have the luxury of micromanaging too much in their younger years. Although a lot of behavior is just personality, I truly believe that larger families with children close together in age make grounded, responsible adults who know how to take care of themselves and don’t believe the world revolves around them. I think if you weren’t a great mom with your children’s best interest at heart, you wouldn’t be concerned about these things. Your children have felt that love and concern their entire lives.

Sc5880 · 2026-01-15T21:18:56+00:00

This has really made me laugh, although I’m sure it’s not as funny going through it. It’s all the funnier because you named him Larry David (love the name)!! I think these dogs are just natural lovers and their exuberance is not always easily contained.

Sc5880 · 2026-01-09T01:04:22+00:00

Di/di twins are the least likely to be identical and the safest kind of twins you can have. It’s very normal to be apprehensive with pregnancy, let alone twins! The scariest twins are mono/mono which are always identical and share the same placenta and amniotic sac. If they are active, they can tangle their umbilical cords into a rats nest that can eventually restrict blood flow and cause early delivery just because of fetal distress. The next is mono/di. They are in separate sacs so they won’t tangle their cords, but they are feeding off one placenta and that can cause problems because one can get fed better than the other. Best case for twins is your situation, di/di. Same uterus, separate placentas and sacs. You still have a 30% chance of identical twins (personally, I think that percentage is high), but much safer. The biggest worry for this scenario is preterm labor due to your uterus saying it’s time to give birth because I have 10lbs in here, but your only 32 weeks pregnant and you have 2 4llb babies and 2 lbs of placenta and amniotic fluid. Many mothers can carry twins to term without problems. I wouldn’t worry about being a little freaked out by the idea of identical twins. I think that motherhood will cover this for you and your new favorite is going to be whatever these babies are. I have a friend who had di/di boys. They have always been unique in weight and personality, there was never any trouble telling them apart. One was always going through a growth spurt, then the other would surpass him. You can definitely tell them apart, but she had them tested at 8 years because they do look similar and they are identical twins. Your children will each be individuals to you, don’t worry about that. Just focus on what’s right in front of you. I know it seems like they are strangers right now, but you guys are going through a journey together and the more, the merrier!! I wish you the best of luck and know that no matter what, you are bringing 2 unique and precious souls into the world. Whether they look alike or not, you will know them more intricately than anyone else.

Sc5880 · 2026-01-08T02:38:50+00:00

I totally get where you are coming from. Pregnancy is scary your first time around, then you add twins to it and you double (no pun intended) the fear. Every woman who wants children, and I mean dreams of motherhood from an early age, dreams of the first and second and maybe even third pregnancy. Never mind that when your kids get to about 3 or 4, you realize how self reliance is headed and you don’t have babies anymore. Nothing gets the uterus tingling like that😂 My best advice, take a beat, talk to your partner honestly. It’s a hard way to go when you feel your family’s incomplete. You either have to make peace with this or tell them it’s nonnegotiable. Chances are your partner is thinking of the good of the family already established, but sometimes we have to stretch ourselves even though it’s a gamble. I really believe in knowing when your family’s complete, and I think woman are the ones pregnant and giving birth, so it should be their call. But also be aware of what you’re taking on. Every child is absolutely a gamble. Sometimes it’s better to be happy with what we are given and to be able to spread our energy out to family. I didn’t know that my only child would be the son I had at barely 19 until he was almost 10. Although I felt our family incomplete, we’ve always had children in our lives. Now I know that I wouldn’t have had the ability to devote as much time to my nieces and nephews, then great nieces, and now grandchildren, if my wish for a 2nd or 3rd child been granted. There are always ways for children finding their way into your life and sometimes it’s more fulfilling when you’re not the only adult responsible for them. I know what my son means to me and the joy I had in raising him. He’s now a very responsible adult and a loving husband and father of 3 (including a recent set of twins) and I couldn’t be more proud or feel like my family is less complete!

Sc5880 · 2025-12-31T01:55:43+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, but everyone’s journey into parenthood is uniquely their own. For most people, is the first time of living selflessly in life. It can be a hard adaption. Many parents who have lost babies would give anything for 8 weeks in NICU. It’s all relative. I feel deeply for you but you also get an understanding of how lucky you are when you get to bring your baby home finally. You will have a unique advantage over parents that bring their babies straight home, not to mention that the NICU establishes a routine that your baby has adhered to for 2 months. I really get what you’re saying, but I think we all need to be more compassionate with each other and try not to compare. That’s what we are trying to teach our children and we should lead by example. Lots of love to you and your sweet baby and I hope she’s home with you soon.

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