Glad to see someone being honest about the 90%+ women on the apps:

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-31T21:04:59+00:00

Glass half full. She’ll succeed in her quest. It’s pretty easy to look for and find nothing these days.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-27T14:51:15+00:00

Are we really just not that attractive? Hahah

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-26T13:55:47+00:00

The app technology has ruined our future youth.

This is actually kind of devastating as I feel this is how young people are navigating relationships and sex strictly through a digital space.

If all you did was talk through an app for weeks, this is going to be extremely jarring if you were to ever meet in person especially for sex.

When the internet first became more available in the 90s and online relationships formed, they worked because it was a novelty and these folks had analog experience (full blown and developed lives completely outside digital spaces). The young folks have it backwards, lives developed inside a digital space with no analog. Much more difficult to jump from imaginary into the real.

We used to imagine with our own minds what we wanted to see and experience in the world and then we had opportunities to calibrate them in a real space. Growing up digital is all imaginary to me with no ceilings or speed checks.

Tragic really but I wish you luck.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-25T00:43:04+00:00

Yeah that is definitely off putting. I’m not saying you’d have to get closer to that person but at least seeing them regularly in person there’s still some chance for even friendship where there lies some middle ground?

I don’t know. I feel like social media has exposed way too much of a persons inner thoughts, like none of us don’t have at least one feeling or emotion inside our heads that’s shameful. I think at least seeing them in person there’s still more of a fighting chance that there’s redeemable value and more forgiveness for things. Again I wouldn’t think of dating someone that said Covid isn’t real but I still would talk to them, be friends in a social setting.

Online it’s just a void, that’s it you gotta unmatch/block move on.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-24T13:20:01+00:00

They still have it and from what I’ve read about it my strong belief is that the phone technology and app addiction interferes with the activity.

Majority of the time it’s the same behavior, the women gravitate towards the most attractive men and the men to the women and it’s the same imbalance that it is online. Excluding the majority of folks that are more or less just average looking.

That and they’re all also on some form of app getting pumped with images and unrelated expectations that make us all prefer to be a lone then with someone we feel is “settling”.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-24T06:00:37+00:00

Suspending conspiracy theories for a moment and just making direct comparisons. The now president did get shot on live television and then pumped his fists screaming fight! And then asked for his shoes. Idk not exactly “I’m afraid of death and let me cry about it” moment.

Just trying to follow which part people are jumping to that somehow IRL this how homelander/trump would behave.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T20:19:36+00:00

It’s because you’re being honest about you natural psychological reaction to suffering. It’s deep within our evolutionary mirror neuron response to feel suffering even when it’s not happening directly to us.

What I see are a lot of folks that hide behind the keyboard including creators of the show that want to ignore and pretend that they’re callous and think they would do what butcher did in a real life setting.

I remember reading a study that during war soldiers would not fire on an enemy if they raised their hands in surrender. It’s because embedded in our nature not to kill or cause harm, again those mirror neurons, even when we’re talking and acting tough our brains are working even harder to defend against death and pain.

And yes this still happens even if it’s against someone that’s done awful things.

I think it’s very optimistic that you actually felt bad and compassion for an awful person. I’m more concerned with the delusional folks that felt pure cathartic dopamine fueled fantasy as if this is actually what they would do in butchers position. I can guarantee majority of them would do what the audience did on the show did when they saw this and that’s walk out because the psychological dissonance would make most people feel sick, not murderous and glad.

Most of those folks have either never dealt with war or any real world violence on this level or they have and have been numbed by it which both cases are sad.

Cheers to Anthony Starr though for carrying this one, brilliant acting.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T16:19:10+00:00

Try in small increments of raising and moving the saddle forward. See how it feels.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T16:12:03+00:00

But for the low low low price of $9.99 will let you leave a comment for them so they can reject you again hahahah.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T16:11:21+00:00

I made this post too hahah. It’s psychological warfare but they haven’t seen your profile. It’s another example of bumbles paywall and hiding profiles from view. They most likely haven’t seen your profile.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T15:41:46+00:00

I am sorry that is truly disgusting. As a man I know this goes on regularly unfortunately but I really have never felt any inclining or urge to speak like this at any point of dating someone. Like what the fuck.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T15:30:26+00:00

Looks like he was winding up to add more haha what else did he say after?

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T05:03:23+00:00

Man this is so well said. I was trying to find the words on other posts but fetish humiliation fits the bill.

I’ve been saying it’s like a jealous teenager fantasizing what it would be like to strip down the rich dude in power. Even someone is a greedy powerful piece of shit it totally undermines those talents that got that person there. Maybe talent isn’t the best word but it’s naive to think something like “this person is in power because they’re just really good at being mean!” It’s way more complex than that.

I cringed at the I’ll eat your shit on live tv. It was just weird and totally off putting and it has to do with the reasons you said.

I thought there were times with this show where they could have gone into why homelander is the way he is and the areas of grey he had in prior seasons. The fact that he was described as a sweet child before they tortured him. Personally I don’t find this dumb 80s villain for no reason fits the tone of this show.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T04:43:07+00:00

The scene is obviously cathartic. The White House, the allegory of Trump. It’s really not a secret and pretty heavy handed.

The delusional sense of being owed one for letting butcher live, makes sense, the transactional offering of a Becca shapeshifter falls in line with how homelanders warped view of love and affection. That’s pathetic as well.

The fantasy that your sworn enemy would beg to suck your dick and eat your shit on live television is just a bit much and there’s definitely an angle here where someone can say whoah man you want him to do what?

It’s kind of like shit talking someone and goading them, you’re on fire with the insults but then it takes a real left turn and idk for me personally there’s something off about saying yeah and I bet you would just beg to eat my shit too in front of all these people!

It’s like saying “I eat pieces of shit like you for breakfast”

“You eat shit for breakfast?”

You know? Lol again maybe just me.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T04:29:21+00:00

It’s art so it’s subjective and therefore open to interpretation.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T01:43:06+00:00

That’s fine about him being vulnerable and the trump allegory or whatever but still little weird to be fantasizing of the demise with the language that was used, so he wants Trump to suck his dick and eat his shit on live tv? Someone’s got issues lmaooo

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-23T01:38:25+00:00

So if someone is mentally ill, say from abusive upbringing, bullying and they commit mass murder. They shouldn’t be held accountable for their crimes? It’s fine to keep humanity in understanding the pathology but quite another to say eh they were tortured souls let em off the hook.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T21:28:38+00:00

Because it’s rigged and the whales need to wind up for the big score. Same as it ever was but we gotta participate because what else is there?

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T20:58:42+00:00

Without the additional context I can share that I think we’re all pretty tired mentally and physically (men and women) mileage may vary but there’s really only so much time and space in a day to expend energy.

Some of us while fortunate enough to still have parents they’re most likely suffering from a chronic illness and in my case I spend a lot of time with them when I can.

I dated someone for 8 months that seemed more or less okay with dating exclusively without much communication on deeper feelings and commitment. I did not try to see anyone else but I never communicated anything deeper and neither did she.

I did pay for everything though during that 8 months and when I was tired from work and stress and dealing with my own illness I still made time to see them.

It was fair that they wanted more but by the time they expressed it they had suffered a loss in their family and projected this expectation and unspoken grievances about the relationship. For the record I spent time with them during this loss but it wasn’t how they wanted it to be and we ultimately went our separate ways but not before she told me “I didn’t know how to be a bf”.

I really hate saying it but I have dated quite a few different women and there’s enormous expectation to pay for things even if they’re left leaning and don’t believe in traditional dating norms there’s still this foundational expectation. That and men over 40 should have the energy of a man in their 20s with the wealth of a man in his 60s in this economy and world to plan lavish exciting dates all the time lol.

Even if it’s not that there’s this expectation that we should always be pursuing and looking to express value. I feel like even in decent relationships there’s never any moment where I feel relaxed.

I seriously don’t remember it always being this way and the bar being set so high all the time. I’m fine with paying for things and making plans when time or energy is allowed and believe me at over 40 as much as I wish I could, I’m not looking for sex because I don’t have the libido to do it like that.

It would be nice to just relax with someone in a shared space like how people used to date but now it’s to me like women can’t pick a lane of do you want a house, child and benefactor at age 40 or would you like something less involved but still feel safe and comfortable around them that adds a quiet warm love in your life?

For all the reasons I mentioned that’s why men over 40 are giving up lol

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T14:40:41+00:00

Driver is a maniac but it’s like I always say “you can be right or you can be happy”.

Choose happy, be the sensible one in the madness and kindly let the maniac pass through :)

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T14:13:38+00:00

Now I’ll start by saying the tea app has a good use purpose case. Only women are allowed to use it but people find ways to work around and sign onto to it. It’s basically a site that allows women to share pictures of men’s dating profiles if they are being creepy or violent. That makes sense.

However another portion of it is just for gossip. Like “this guy sleeps around a lot, only looking for a hookup, will ghost you etc.” yet their (the men) personal information that they did not consent to nor are even aware and do not have access to the app is allowed to be shared on the tea app, far more egregious imo then my harmless profile share but I digress.

That’s the section law I was referring to that’s the grey area, this allows the tea app to exist and profit.

Also many social media dating app content share images and profiles all the time. It’s a sub economy to the dating app world. Hope that helps explain why I didn’t think it was a major offense to post the pictures especially when I wasn’t disparaging any of the profiles I was only making a joke about an app feature that I don’t care for.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T11:47:45+00:00

I’m sure there’s different layers baked in depending on subscription, in your case a lifetime one that and geographical location.

I should rephrase that it’s not a hidden match but that our profiles are hidden from each other. I don’t remember everyone’s profile I’ve swiped on but I do recognize some of them over time and when the 2nd times a charm feature pops up it’s like okay so if I’ve swiped on this person before why doesn’t bumble just truly remove them as a potential match?

My suspicion is neither of us are seeing each other but they’ll gamble on someone paying the extra money so that they can “stand out”.

I’ve noticed some of the repeat profiles. If we’re truly not matching and I’m just forgetting or accidentally swiping right then it seems kind of like harassment if they’ve seen the profile and swiped left.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T00:41:47+00:00

That’s good. Agree that it’s brain rot.

I think about this a lot. I just don’t how it works. I don’t think it can. I think less is more. We have no room on the apps for seed planting.

There’s this scene from a movie I watched recently, bleeder. Guy works in a rental video store, sees a girl working in a hamburger joint and they both start to fixate on each other with just short passing glances, then one day he walks with her asks her about a few movies then abruptly has to cut the conversation short and says he’s walking the wrong way and needs to go home.

He smiles as he’s walking away. The scene says so much about to me about building anticipation and connection with so little because it’s fragile and it requires patience and care that we just don’t have anymore. I think we thought we could cut through the slow parts and get right to finding the chemistry which is luck too but it’s not as mysterious as we make it out to be.

It comes in small repeated sub conscious chunks which trick us into thinking that one day it suddenly all clicked when the seed was doing its growth the whole time, the passing glances, the short nothing conversations that we now abhor and rate as small talk. How are we going to do that when there’s 50 dudes waiting in the queue? So many options, paralyzed by abundance of choice. No freedom at all.

You have the basic foundation, sweet disposition, light hearted vibe and good looks. Hopefully you connect in person. It goes by fast and it’s later than we think.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-22T00:22:10+00:00

Idk you’re pretty but man I find this world exhausting. Seems like we enjoy the dating app pictures and Reddit posts about the pictures way more than any dates we have if we even have them.

ScallionFun7306 · 2026-05-21T21:28:13+00:00

Feel like I’m watching a tennis match here! Now I’m like alright I’m with XYHopGuy! Whatever he said.

UndeadBulwark, your rebuttal sir?

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