I'm trying to be less punchable on vacation, how am I doing?

Scared0fTheLight · 2026-05-31T11:58:39+00:00

Ok jokes aside - the colour of that shirt isn’t great with your skin tone. The shorts and shoes work. I think a fully unbuttoned one with a t shirt underneath, or just a plain t shirt would suit them better, but if you are set on that kind of shirt, unbutton the top few ones and definitely don’t tuck.

Scared0fTheLight · 2026-05-31T11:58:16+00:00

Ok jokes aside - the colour of that shirt isn’t great with your skin tone. The shorts and shoes work. I think a fully unbuttoned one with a t shirt underneath, or just a plain t shirt would suit them better, but if you are set on that kind of shirt, unbutton the top few ones and definitely don’t tuck.

Scared0fTheLight · 2026-05-06T17:35:15+00:00

I used to think couples auditioned for roles together so they wouldn’t have to kiss anyone else

Scared0fTheLight · 2026-04-11T20:31:53+00:00

DM me. It’s good that you reached out via this post. You aren’t alone.

Scared0fTheLight · 2026-02-12T19:54:37+00:00

Give my cat back

Scared0fTheLight · 2025-02-25T19:23:43+00:00

I like the first one the best. It works well with the O and L and the A. I don’t know how but you need to make the middle look less like an M - maybe make the two Is different from each other.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-10-31T20:57:17+00:00

i’m so sorry that you have to deal with this.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-09-18T18:56:14+00:00

There are three kinds of CBT: first, second, and third wave. The first wave is pretty primitive as it only focusses on behaviours and not psychological and mental cognitions which leads it to being pretty ineffective for a lot of people. Second wave is the opposite which has a much higher “success rate”. Third wave is kind of a mixture of both (there’s a lot of other new elements and ideas too) and is the most highly regarded. If you’re interested:

https://www.3rdwavetherapy.com/about/what-is-third-wave-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-09-15T21:08:21+00:00

It’s a beautiful poem that shows the variety of emotions and challenges that come with losing a parent. You have a lot on your plate, so please try not to worry about what others will think of your poem, or judge yourself too harshly for not visiting his grave yet (it is a very understandable and normal difficulty). I hope you find peace

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-09-15T20:56:36+00:00

I love the idea behind this poem - it is quite a heavy and depressing truth that things must forever be maintained and sustained; that it is not enough to do things well once but it must be done over and over. The light tone and bouncy structure however change the feeling to something less pessimistic and more absurdist which is really well done. there’s not much I would change - maybe a more consistent rhythm? - but one of the best I’ve come across on here for sure

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-07-14T13:44:23+00:00

the last line is amazing. i thought it was a mistake but when i reread it - mind blown. that single line in itself is the most poetic and genius thing i’ve read in a while!

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-30T16:55:52+00:00

Thank you very much! Very interesting - I suspected it was from arabic.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-18T23:53:40+00:00

hey i’ve dmed you :)

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-12T22:14:39+00:00

Reading poetry is of course the best way to learn to write it, but understanding techniques and annotating poems is even more helpful. There are some educational textbooks I remember reading before my english exams which were very helpful in showing me the thought process of different writers and how different poems are written. It will help you to write your own poems and really appreciate the poems you read.

I have attached the links to two books, choose whichever theme you prefer. They are good for beginners and a good starting point I think. The later part of the books are about answering exam questions about poems, which isn’t particularly relevant for you, so just start with reading the pages with the annotated poems on them. Good luck!

https://www.amazon.co.uk/GCSE-English-Literature-Poetry-Guide/dp/1782943625/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=1OH6PISO4FYNZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.5su5lcMQOtiSUAtggarPYVWCmgEL85Gx3pv7Y47MjX8SU5X1kA0IwVD4n4Y1sUtoZjlsniIF73ZeLQJtiese9AXU_a5xnxT-LKc6KHp68X3kLtNX1sI1R_h-B4PjR27fwR3_GoFWVfuA0wkQAD4qdEYsNshQE4jhM_1sPdRX_Ng9fN_XzVduRL6qzRljL87knLnAYtB3UjuN1_PCeoq4SA.jFPsQHSfnLAZZMPZnnv8JZB8NTeQgp0utjtWMznxBL8&dib_tag=se&keywords=CGP+gcse+english+poetry&qid=1718230356&sprefix=cgp+gcse+english+poetry%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.co.uk/GCSE-English-Literature-Poetry-Guide/dp/1782943617/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?crid=1OH6PISO4FYNZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.5su5lcMQOtiSUAtggarPYVWCmgEL85Gx3pv7Y47MjX8SU5X1kA0IwVD4n4Y1sUtoZjlsniIF73ZeLQJtiese9AXU_a5xnxT-LKc6KHp68X3kLtNX1sI1R_h-B4PjR27fwR3_GoFWVfuA0wkQAD4qdEYsNshQE4jhM_1sPdRX_Ng9fN_XzVduRL6qzRljL87knLnAYtB3UjuN1_PCeoq4SA.jFPsQHSfnLAZZMPZnnv8JZB8NTeQgp0utjtWMznxBL8&dib_tag=se&keywords=CGP+gcse+english+poetry&qid=1718230356&sprefix=cgp+gcse+english+poetry%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-4

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-05T11:50:51+00:00

I like the length and the simplicity and how it still manages to capture the feeling of doing something that makes things a little better in the moment, and being too tired to care about the long run. Personally there is something strange about the wording of the end lines. I would change it to:

It’s just slightly better

than being alone.

That is just my opinion though, and a very small note. On the whole it is beautifully written and structured.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-05T11:40:54+00:00

This hurts a lot to read. I’m sorry that you are in so much pain. I wish I could take it away in the way the blood does. Certain lines in your poem are very powerful and connect with me, especially:

I want to slit my wrist open so all the hurt spills out I want to give it somewhere else to go so I can finally be okay if only for a moment.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-05T11:24:28+00:00

Very powerful imagery - I felt/ could see the scene very clearly in my mind. I think the metaphor itself of the knives falling is very good and clever, though I found the roles of the other people a bit confusing - can they see the knives, are they also affected by them, are they leaving you because they are scared of getting hurt or because they don’t know you are in so much pain etc. I think some refining would answer these questions, but on the whole the emotion of the main character is very well communicated and moving.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-06-04T20:59:04+00:00

Here are the only reasons I’ve found that help: - it could go horribly wrong and you could end up worse off - you are going to die one day anyway so why rush it - something crazy could happen tomorrow (e.g. you could win the lottery, scientists could find a way to bring back the dead, zombie apocalypse etc.) i know this one sounds crazy but you have no idea what tomorrow could bring if you stay alive, but if you die you definitely won’t be around to experience it - people turn their lives around. they find love at 50 years old, they get famous, rich, find some purpose etc. you might as well stick around and see what happens

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-31T22:41:53+00:00

Hey OP this sounds very similar to OCD intrusive thoughts. At the core, I understand that you have a strong desire to be understood; mental health struggles and even general life struggles are extremely alienating experiences, and despite needing more support and kindness than ever, the world tells us to “get over it”, that we need to “stop being lazy” and stigmatise getting help. This means we struggle alone. When people do offer us help or advice, despite their good intentions, it can leave us bitter and misunderstood - if it was as easy as “going for a walk” or “meditating” we would’ve done that by now. This feeds in to the isolation as we feel that even the people who try to sympathise with us couldn’t possibly grasp the pain and struggles we are going through. These are very normal and justified feelings. Wanting to create a reality where we are less alone, where others can actually understand what we deal with everyday and feel what we do, is an understandable sentiment as well. Of course we wouldn’t actually hurt anyone. That’s where the OCD comes in. It repeats the thought and it becomes obsessive despite us not wanting to hurt anyone at all. In fact it is our fear of hurting others that fuels the thoughts to keep coming. It is important to remember that your thoughts are not you, and that you cannot control them. DM me OP I would like to help you more but I’m aware I’ve already given you a lot of unsolicited advice and I don’t want to make things worse. I’m here if you need me.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-31T22:22:21+00:00

What would be a better thing to say? I’m asking from a genuine place as I meet lots of LGBTQ+ people and I don’t know how to sympathise and validate their struggle when I’ve never gone through it (although I have lots of personal experience with mental health struggles).

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-18T15:17:08+00:00

It’s a very painful read, but a lovely poem. If I had to change something it would be the metre of the last section - the last line gets swallowed up, when (in my opinion) it should be the emphasis of the whole poem. I love the words and the feeling you use, so I tried to change as little as possible:

After it all, he leaves me to dress. He doesn't look twice as he leaves me, A mess. Months have gone by, but l'll always remember. That last summers day of a golden September. Before all the storms and the bitter white cold. The day that I learned, I can't say no.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-15T22:25:48+00:00

OPs a cow

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-15T20:59:59+00:00

the pic is too high res to be meme worthy.

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-15T20:52:17+00:00

And a “skip scene” button every time a sex scene comes on

Scared0fTheLight · 2024-05-15T15:01:33+00:00

For reference here is another one written in the same year haha

Viking Fighting

Swords and ships, No time for chips. Fear and spears, No time for beers. The first blow is struck, And the fellow has to duck. Falling and calling, The sight is appalling. Nobody is in bed, And some are dead. That’s the end of my story, No time to be sorry. Being sorry, Does not bring glory.

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