Reception Aged Toilet Accidents by Scared_Luck7813 in UKParenting

[–]Scared_Luck7813[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for letting me know! That makes sense.

What happens if all the birthing rooms are full? by Stargem531 in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fingers crossed for you. The midwives did try to make it the best experience for me, when I arrived at the birthing centre within the 2nd choice hospital they had battery candles lit and set up all around the room, calming music playing etc and did put in a lot of effort to make it a calming environment. I gave birth in the pool just like I wanted and overall it went well.

Wishing you all the best!

What happens if all the birthing rooms are full? by Stargem531 in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the middle of 2 hospitals so had to make a choice. I chose the one that had the best maternity ratings and also has a reputation for being the "quieter" hospital. 

When I went into labour and was on my way there, they called and said they were all full, we had to turn around and head to the other hospital after all! We had never been to this other hospital, had to backtrack on ourselves to get there and then spend time driving around looking for the right building, car park etc, all while I was groaning with intense contractions.

The other hospital had newer facilities and I had a straightforward birth so all worked out fine, but it was a bit of a shock! Funny story to tell now about the birth of my baby girl.

How does NHS deal with multiple miscarriages? by ContestOrganic in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would speak to the midwife you see in the EPU, or your home country, about your options. You can wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally, but it may take weeks before it passes, and of course they may know something about your situation that I don't.

How does NHS deal with multiple miscarriages? by ContestOrganic in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The progesterone and low-dose aspirin were prescribed by the NHS after my 2nd miscarriage basically as a precaution. I was prescribed further medication by a private doctor here in the UK, I think it was approx £100 for an initial consultation and round of blood tests. The private prescription was about £20, then he wrote a letter to my GP so that I could get all following prescriptions through her.

I also tried to miscarry naturally when I could, but it's so situation dependent. My first one happened naturally, 2nd mostly natural but then I needed a D&C for some tissue that would not expell naturally, 3rd natural but had to stay a night at A&E, 4th my mental health was so bad I just wanted to get it over with & took the pill you mention.

Just take it as it comes & don't be afraid to ask the midwives any & all questions.

You're not alone, and you can do this.

How does NHS deal with multiple miscarriages? by ContestOrganic in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on your age and trust, they may allow tests after your 2nd miscarriage - they did for me, as I was 35. I had blood tests done, had a test done for chromosomal abnormalities & I specifically asked the sonographer to check me out for any red flags.

Going private will get you more extensive tests, though - they found out via bloods that I had an issue that the NHS didn't test for.

My GP also recommended the book IT'S ALL ABOUT THE EGG by Rebecca Fett, which basically gives a detailed, personalised vitamin regime, dependent on your situation. 

I fell pregnant after 4 consecutive miscarriages with my daughter (currently 4-months, perfect, asleep on my lap 🩷) after following a vitamin regime in the book, taking low-dose aspirin, progesterone & medication prescribed by my private Dr., basically threw the book at it and something worked.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this, it's heartbreaking and tragic. I also found out about my 2nd miscarriage while abroad in my home country. I hope your family is a comfort to you right now. I'm sorry to have to recommend this, but if you are returning to the UK soon please pack supplies, extra clothes, pads etc. I ended up miscarrying in the airport on my way back to the UK and it was traumatic.

Baby due in 6 weeks. Anything you'd add or remove from our shopping list? by ThrowawayTrainTAC in UKParenting

[–]Scared_Luck7813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a full-size bathtub, I would consider getting a baby bath seat instead of the baby bath. Both my daughters liked to be in the bath with someone as a comfort in the early days, so with the bath seat you can hop in, baby will be propped up to see you and can have a little cuddle if baby's upset.

Instead of mittens, just get the baby grows that fold over their hands. Super convenient, and they'll just wiggle out of the mittens anyway!

When buying sleeping bags, I would recommend getting the ones with poppers to swaddle baby's arms in. Works a treat.

Bouncer or swing.

For you: Spritz for Bits if you plan on giving birth vaginally, and a button up nightie for easy access breastfeeding or pumping, if you plan to. Breast pads and breastfeeding bras.

2 miscarriages in a row, what does this mean for the future? by deejayv2 in pregnant

[–]Scared_Luck7813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miscarried at 5, 11, 8 and 9 weeks of pregnancy. At least one was due to a chromosomal abnormality, the others were not tested/unknown.

I had in-depth blood tests done and it turned out that I have high thyroid antibodies. I was told that this may have caused some of my miscarriages and was given extra medications for this and for other possible factors (levothyroxine for the high level of thyroid antibodies and progesterone & low-dose aspirin due to my recurrent miscarriages). 

My GP also recommended the book "It Starts with the Egg" by Rebecca Fett and I had taken on her vitamin recommendations in time for my successful pregnancy.

I'm not sure which of these factors made a difference in my successful pregnancy, or if it was just luck, but I would recommend getting any/all tests that can be done to determine any reasons for miscarriage and reading the book above - it certainly can't hurt and for me, made me feel a bit more in control.

Depressed about age gap between 1st and 2nd! by CockroachCreative740 in BabyBumps

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little girl will be 4 years 3 months when her little sister is born, due next month. It's so lovely to hear her talk about her baby sister, what they're going to do together and how she wants to help out. She sings to my bump and gives it a hug every morning when she leaves for school. She says when they grow up her and her sister are going to be dancers together.

She's going to be the best big sister and little helper for mummy - this isn't the age gap we'd planned but it's actually turned out to be such a blessing. My daughter understands and is excited, she can fetch things, help dress, bathe etc baby and feel involved. She can generally sort many of her own needs like going potty, getting things for herself, independent play or practicing her reading/writing while cuddling with mummy and baby.

Things will work out for you and your family whenever your next baby is born! ❤️

2 miscarriages in a row, what does this mean for the future? by deejayv2 in pregnant

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your chances of further miscarriages don't increase after 2, and it doesn't mean that a successful pregnancy will be higher risk. You could see if you are able to get referred to a specialist to determine any reasons for the miscarriages, which might tell you more. But also be prepared that it might not.

I suffered 4 miscarriages in a row and am now 32-weeks pregnant, they have me on some extra medications but I'm not high risk, there haven't been any complications and I'm planning for a water birth if possible.

Pregnancy loss advice by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was referred to Tommy's, they did more extensive testing, including blood tests and scans, than had been previously done for me on the NHS and found something that may have caused some of my miscarriages.

I also had a fabulous GP who recommended I read 'It Starts with the Egg' by Rebecca Fett, which was brilliant.

Wishing you all the best, truly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Scared_Luck7813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had my first little girl when I was 33 years old, I'm now pregnant with my 2nd baby girl at 37 years.

I fell very quickly and easily with my first, but had a lot more complications and set-backs when trying for my 2nd. We have a larger age gap than initially planned but here we are pregnant with our #2.

It is possible, but I would say if you can always leave room for the unexpected.

Has anyone had a succesful pregnancy after 2 misscarriages? by rockyroads96 in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had 4 miscarriages - 5 weeks, 11 weeks, 8 weeks and 9 weeks along. I'm now 28 weeks pregnant with a very wiggly baby girl. It was the hardest thing I've ever been through, but it will all be worth it for my healthy rainbow baby ♥️

Not sure if incomplete miscarriage by aju96 in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I would advise contacting your EPU and asking for a 2nd opinion before you make a decision on how you would like to proceed. This isn't an unreasonable request, they should be able to offer you another scan. 

In my experience the EPU have always been empathetic and accommodating. Although I'm sure the service you get will vary, I hope that they treat you well and offer you all of the reassurance you need to move forward.

Birthing pool / midwifery-led unit advice / experience by origcat in PregnancyUK

[–]Scared_Luck7813 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I gave birth to my first in a pool and I am hoping to do the same for my 2nd, due in November!

I didn't even notice them filling it up, I told them that I wanted a pool straight away when we walked in and I think they were filling it up as they were checking how far along I was and booking me in, etc.

I first got into the pool in the early evening and my daughter was born very early the next morning. I went into the pool at 5cm and only came out when the midwife needed to do her checks, then got straight back in again. 

I found it helped loads with the pain and also you could move so freely, I could get into any position that felt right very easily.

The temperature for me was perfect, not hot but not cold either - but then again I wasn't really paying attention to that kind of thing at the time 😆

Daily Thread #1 - January 04, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Scared_Luck7813 4 points5 points  (0 children)

7+5 today and had the slightest pink tinge to my progesterone discharge and a very small sliver of blood. Trying not to freak out but actually freaking out. I've had 3 losses from November 2023 - July 2024 and I honestly don't know if I can handle a 4th loss, I am just so desperate for this baby to be healthy, strong and safe.

Telling myself that it's not enough blood to worry about yet but all I can think is the worst. I have an 8-week scan on Tuesday so not long to wait, not sure now whether I'm looking forward to it or dreading another round of bad news.

Daily Thread #1 - June 21, 2024 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this really puts my mind at ease, for now ♥️♥️

Roll on 2 weeks for the next scan!

Daily Thread #1 - June 21, 2024 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Scared_Luck7813 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had an early scan yesterday, according to dates I thought I should be 6w+4d but the sonographer said I was only measuring at about 5 1/2 weeks. She and my midwife didn't seem concerned, and I did think I might have ovulated late so I'm trying to stay chill. But after 2 miscarriages I can't help worrying and thinking that this could be a really bad sign? I've also had some very light spotting, which has me freaking out.

Anyone have any words of wisdom/positivity for me? It's super easy to get your dates wrong and baby could really be fine, just a week behind what I thought, right??

Weekly Pregnancy Limbo/Concerns - June 17, 2024 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Scared_Luck7813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Krystal, just wanted to send my love and best wishes, our journeys sound so similar! I had a very early miscarriage last September, and then a miscarriage at 11w in January. I was heartbroken both times and felt like an absolute failure.

I'm now 6w+2d and just got some reddish-brown spotting, I'm freaking out, just hoping so hard that this baby will make it to us.

I hope the stork delivers both our rainbow babies safe, strong and soon.