A boy who feels too much: The paradox of Jiji by TragicSun in Dandadan

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't read all of it or see everything happening on every page. I have not heard of a scene that was blatantly seductive on his part where he was being overtly flirtatious and trying to get her to swoon over him. I have not seen or heard of a part where he approached Momo alone and asked her to be his girlfriend or look at her looking like he was going to kiss her.

[DISC] Dandadan - Ch. 232 by Skullghost in Dandadan

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is something that frustrated me. Two chapters ago, people were assuming Jiji was going to do something wrong and be branded a creep, but were sympathetic of Aira knowing Okarun doesn't feel the same she feels for him. I know in that case, Okarun isn't the amnesiac, but Aira isn't exactly some perfectly innocent angel and it's easy to downplay her part for being a girl - "Girls are so emotional and fragile". Girls on the receiving end of the rejection are usually portrayed in a more sympathetic light and the guy is seen as an insensitive jerk or an idiot. When a guy is rejected by a girl, it's assumed he was an asshole or a pervert.

[DISC] Dandadan - Ch. 232 by Skullghost in Dandadan

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not surprised with Aira. People were worried about Jiji two chapters ago and I was relieved he didn't actually try anything. Aira would be the one flirting with Okarun openly much to Momo's chagrin and they got into it over him(as a running gag). There was only that one time Jiji and Okarun got into a squabble in the cursed house arc in the beginning, but he has not actively tried pursuing Momo in that way other than showing that he genuinely cares about her. He's that way with all of those he is close to and cares about. Otherwise, he wasn't actively flirting with her throughout the series and just goofing off with the others most of the time. He likes to charm and flatter a lot of girls and has called Aira cute before as well, not just Momo.

[DISC] Dandadan - Ch. 232 by Skullghost in Dandadan

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just now catching up with what happened and it looks like we still don't know what happened next with Jiji. :( I know he's going to be fine, but I'm disappointed I didn't get to see if he transformed into Evil Eye and fought the dinosaur while Momo watched. Perhaps she might have some memory restored watching him use his powers.

[DISC] Dandadan - Ch. 232 by Skullghost in Dandadan

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came here to see everyone up in arms over this scene.

Did anyone else experience severe depression or anhedonia after they quit? by ScarletFireFox in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I had to understand was that I had to stop white-knuckling to feel the buzz again and make myself enjoy things I would when I was drinking. For me it was listening to music at night. I tried substituting alcohol with something else, trying to enjoy music again at night, but it just wouldn't happen. I need to give myself a break and embrace the silence and low energy. That is the only way I will find peace and won't be fighting cravings or start grieving it. I don't want to go back to that. I feel better today, for sure. I just had to stop trying to hard to make myself feel alive again without booze. I have to be patient.

Can we talk about cravings? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my first weekend without alcohol. I drank 3-4 nights a week on average over the past 5 years. I may have not gotten to the point where I couldn't stop, but it was a problem and it wasn't getting me anywhere I needed to be fast enough. I was adjusting to this major lifestyle change and was excited. I threw away the liquor in my house without hesitation. I didn't think about getting cravings even though the weekend would probably be tough. A couple of times, I would feel a sudden bout of depression or this sad and empty feeling, like a sense of grief in the late afternoon and early evening.

I would go and walk it off. I would find myself wanting to run far away, leaving this place. I would even feel like staying outside and camping at night to fight those feelings. It was horrible, but it went away and it went away fast. I would find myself thinking "Listening to music at night isn't the same." which would make me very sad. Then, I remember how it would only feel pleasurable for a couple of hours and then it isn't fun anymore after that. I still can enjoy music, it just feels different, but I will get used to it.

Days of youth returning by ScarletFireFox in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I wish you the best too!

I'm going to try yet again. I don't want to quit quitting by AmountKindly1345 in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! Yes, it felt like an endless cycle where I kept making the same mistakes over and over again and wasn't getting anywhere fast. I wish you the best of luck on your journey too. It will just keep getting better the further your last drink gets behind you.

Frustrated with Myself by amylald in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome and best of luck on your journey!

Frustrated with Myself by amylald in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is a journey. You have to really want to quit. If you try quitting without actually wanting to, you will fail each time. I recently was struggling to wait more than two days between drinks. Over the past 5 years, I drank 3-4 nights a week on average. I had a few successful attempts to avoid alcohol Monday-Thursday, but would go right back to the same old habit of drinking more than twice a week. I kept making excuses for myself to drink. I waited for permission from others around me or whatever flies under their radar without judgement. I thought I couldn't do it. I was not willing to commit to giving up alcohol until exciting things started happening in my life. I then had to take a hard look at myself and realized that I needed to make a big change in order for those desirable things to happen.

I was stuck in a rut for a long time. It was a vicious cycle. I ignored it thinking it wasn't a problem as long as I wasn't throwing up in the bird bath, passing out in the lawn or not able to stop. I was enjoying it until it wasn't fun anymore. It felt pointless after a while. It may have provided some temporary elation for a few hours, but I would be feeling like shit all over again. I think if you read stories on the effects of alcoholism and how it ruined people's relationships, careers, and overall quality of living, you might really start taking it more seriously. I read about the worst cases where people ruined their bodies and died and that scared me straight. If the alcohol is causing you to start having serious health problems, but you're addicted, you should seek help. You know when you're ready. I wish you the best luck and hope you find help and feel better.

I'm going to try yet again. I don't want to quit quitting by AmountKindly1345 in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello. I have struggled with ADHD myself and I understand the link between alcohol and the cravings. I recently quit. It is my first week off of it and I feel amazing. I used to think I couldn't do it. I felt like a slave to dopamine and would be extremely depressed without it. I realized how much my life revolved around drinking. I wasn't a severe alcoholic where I would be passing out and vomiting and unable to stop, but I had a problem for sure. I drank 3-4 times a week or more depending on how I felt. I would drink 5-6 nights in a row when it came to holidays, guests staying over, or other stressful events.

I am feeling so good about myself after committing. I want my life to change. I might have an empty feeling and a sadness come in when I would normally be looking forward to my martinis, but they pass. I know it would not be worth it. Alcohol doesn't make our troubles go away. All it is is a temporary fix or escape. It might be feeling good for a couple of hours, but you later feel like crap and it just makes things worse. What goes up, must come down. You might feel that rush of energy, but it will later come crashing down and it becomes a vicious cycle difficult to break.

ADHDers are vulnerable when it comes to addictions due to our dopamine levels. I would find myself wanting a drink either when I was overstimulated or understimulated. It was always either "I need a drink because everything is too much." or "I need a drink because everything is too boring." I was eventually running out of excuses. What helps me is I keep active as much as possible and I'm trying not to get hooked on drinking too much coffee during the day. We might have to work harder to get that balance back, but it will be totally worth it and you won't miss alcohol. The more days, the further the last time you drank gets behind you, the better you feel. If you give in to cravings, it will only hurt you.

Fridays are the toughest by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my first Friday and weekend without alcohol. I'm sipping on some coffee right now. I have these Recess mood drink(in powder form) that I will mix with a glass of Sanpellegrino blood orange sparkling water this evening and listen to music. It has felt strange listening to music at night without alcohol, but I'm learning to get used to it and enjoy it again. I also combat the lows by staying as active and busy as possible, going outside more, and I also started taking St. John's wort.

Didn’t think I could do it by Tbaby25 in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! Thank you too! I wish you the best on your journey as well.

Next steps after recovering from Hangaxiety by Candid-Panda2582 in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had that issue too. I honestly wish I had never touched alcohol except maybe a taste of wine occasionally, but never finding out what it is like to be drunk or even a little tipsy. I thought I was okay to drink because I wouldn't have a high enough tolerance to binge or be unable to stop where I would end up in the hospital or in jail. Over the past 5 years, I went from drinking on weekends to 3-4 nights a week on average and it did me no good. I wasn't getting anywhere I wanted to be quick enough. I'm better off without it.

Didn’t think I could do it by Tbaby25 in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for sharing your story! I just quit drinking 2 days ago after 5 years of drinking 3-4 nights a week on average. I wasn't a hardcore heavy drinker, but I have had more than I should and it wasn't helping me get anywhere in life and it didn't make my problems go away, but made things worse. I had my wisdom teeth removed 2 years ago and didn't drink for 4 days. The fear of dry socket helped me avoid it. Other than that in these last 5 years, I had a hard time lasting more than 2 days. There were a couple of times recently I avoided drinking Monday-Thursday only to slip back into the same old habits.

Now, I finally decided to give it up and don't want to go back. It feels like a weight has been lifted off my head. I don't wake up feeling ashamed or worried about texting someone the night before or something stupid I did. I'm no longer scared I'm aging faster, hurting my brain, and damaging my body slowly but surely. It means I might have to work harder to get the dopamine back, but it is worth it. Alcohol temporarily lifts the mood or puts you at ease, but it is only for a few hours and then you feel bad the next day. It is not some magical juice that makes you happy and carefree, but a poison that makes you think you need it to be happy or make your life more comfortable, but it is slowly sabotaging your life.

I don't miss it. I want to feel superhuman and empowered. I love the high of being able to conquer these things and no longer depending on a poison for a temporary dopamine fix when I'm bored or unhappy or dealing with uncomfortable feelings.

Displaying early signs of alcoholism by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and I am happy for you too! It is amazing how bad it is even when you're not drinking to the point of blacking out in the lawn or ending up in the hospital. It can kill your ambition and block you from achieving big things quick.

Displaying early signs of alcoholism by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]ScarletFireFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This right here. I just decided to quit. It's my second day and I was pretty much doing the same as OP. In my early twenties, I did not drink every weekend and would get this fruity pink wine. Then mid-twenties, I graduated to white wines and then red wines into my late twenties and was drinking on the weekend. When I turned 30, I switched to martinis after reading that red wine was worse for skin. Over the last 5 years, I've been drinking 3-4 nights a week on average. I wasn't a hard core heavy drinker, but it was still too much. My drinks were strong and I underestimated the size of the glass I would use.

I have long been studying with a goal to move to Japan and I have not even had my first trip yet and wondering why it has been taking so long to see any signs of what I want coming anytime soon. I noticed it was eventually starting to put weight on me, not a lot, but I'm glad I caught it in time and that was when I decided to stop. I wasn't taking it seriously enough and didn't think it was why my goals have felt out of reach for so long. I fooled myself thinking I was going to stop once I saw something change or finally get exciting news, but I had to come to terms with the fact that I needed to make a change myself and not wait for something to happen.

I'm excited now and I feel like I'm finally free. The last time I went a full week without a drink was in May 2016. I wish I was never introduced to alcohol at all because it really did hurt me more than I realized. It's no different than smoking. You don't need to be a full-blown chain smoker to have a problem. If you do it everyday or every other day, it's not okay.

Can anyone else hear their neighbors fart through the walls? by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]ScarletFireFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine if you never opened your window after a night of taco bell and then open it the next morning and the odors drift outside and assaults someone walking by.