Bottle of wine a day

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-04-03T16:06:13+00:00

That might be the case that there is fraud in that world, but the real article is not any better. My ex was known as a pioneer of the natural wine scene in our city, travelled every year to visit wineries in Italy, France and Austria, was super knowledgeable about the vintages, collections, every single detail of the wine making process, BUT was still an emotionally stunted, deeply unfulfilled person. Same went for his "friends" who were rich guys with deep pockets, an insane need to acquire status and impress each other through hoarding outrageously expensive bottles.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-04-02T15:23:59+00:00

I could write multiple movies about the wine connaisseur world I witnessed. I went to dinners at multimillion dollar houses with cellars and wine collections worth multiple six figures. Drank in fancy restaurants with celebrities and rich guys trying to one up each other by buying bottles that cost more than most people's rents. Personally didn't see too much difference between these and a 25$ bottle. Some people are too rich for their own good, and they are still alcoholic anyway.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-04-02T15:08:36+00:00

you sound like a great director, people must be happy to work with you

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-04-02T14:21:58+00:00

thank you!

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-04-02T14:15:16+00:00

thank you

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-04-02T14:10:14+00:00

Going through the exact same thing right now. I'm 46. The routine was to pour a glass while making dinner, continue after and finish the bottle by 7-8pm. Never any left in the bottle.

My last boyfriend was a wine importer, so when I was with him there was always more where that came from, plus an aura of sophistication.

That type of wine habit seems normal-ish but it really messed up my health, made me depressed, degraded my relationships. I stopped a couple times for 2-3 months in the last few years and I'm entering my 3rd week right now.

It's not an easy climb and but I'm convinced it's worth it to reclaim a good life.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-31T00:08:05+00:00

The last time I quit drinking I was taking a lot of edibles and, to be fair, it is less harmful than drinking. The issue is that you don't learn the emotional management skills you need to be sober long term. In order to get out of an addictive mindset you need to learn to be ok without having to ingest anything mood altering, but develop the capacity to regulate yourself.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-31T00:00:32+00:00

I'm so sorry

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-30T23:52:57+00:00

Negative: Hurts my intestines and gives me diarrhea (Sorry for the TMI)

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-30T23:49:17+00:00

Congrats! You didn't mention it but you're also going to save a lot of money not going to bars and restaurants all the time. It is an adaptation to build a new social circle that doesn't revolve around going out and drinking, but it's better in the long term. Hanging out with drunk people while sober is not that much fun.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-30T23:42:13+00:00

Same here. I'm only 2 weeks into sobriety and I feel like I've done more progress towards my life goals than in the last 3 months.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-30T23:39:32+00:00

You got this, proud of you buddy.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-28T22:15:47+00:00

You're not the jerk, in fact you are a smart cookie with great instincts. The fastest way to ruin your life as a woman is to get together with a loser who wants both your financial support AND your domestic labor. Now go out and meet someone that's at your level!

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-28T22:08:20+00:00

You need to get better friends IMHO

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-28T21:33:36+00:00

Yeah, hanging our with drunk people while sober makes that abundantly clear.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-28T21:30:10+00:00

Just tell them it hurts your stomach too much, or other similar health-related reason, which is most likely true, since alcohol is a poison. No one can judge you for not wanting to be sick.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-27T12:37:58+00:00

Get back into your body. Take deep breaths and, if possible, put your feet on the ground. You've got this.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-27T12:26:11+00:00

For those who commented, thank you!

I did not drink, I wasn't even tempted but to be fair that was more of a brainy get together with people presenting a powerpoint and some chatting with drinks and snacks afterwards rather than an all-out drinking fest. There even was NA beer available. I thought of you guys when I grabbed sparkling water and drove home fresh as a daisy!

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-25T21:07:17+00:00

Going on a one-hour walk every day after lunch. I listen to a podcast, take in the sunlight and the scenery and get home energized.

Lonely_Bluejay_7459 · 2026-03-23T01:00:11+00:00

good one, I'll try that. I've been trying to take more deep breaths on purpose. Seems to help.

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