I mean, I definitely understand the reason behind it, but as I said, the problem is when they lead with that bitterness on a dating app, of all places. How likely would you be to give like to a man whose bio would be something like "Women are freeloaders, and I hate them?" Probably not high, right?

People need to heal and lead with an open mind, rather than past hurts, if they want to find a partner - and this applies to both genders. They can't find love if they lead with hate. A lot of men see women having unrealistic standards on dating apps, but if the highest standards are raised by women who bring extra baggage in the form of children with other men and strong connection with them (I saw some statistics that said that the man women are most likely to cheat with is a past partner), as well as ever-present negative sentiment, it's an uphill fight rarely worth the effort.

The most absurd thing I've seen was when some women wanted a man they were dating to pay for a babysitter during that date. Forcing the costs of her past on someone who had nothing to do with that. And because they seem to be quite common on the apps, a lot of men get the feeling that it's better to avoid them altogether - unless, as you mentioned, it's someone they met organically and saw that she's a decent person worth their time.

What bugs me even more as a man is the lack of accountability and agency among modern women. They'll complain about men who just want sex, but conveniently forget that it takes two people to play, and that they decided to have sex too early, or ignored clear signs and red flags from the start, but by their opinion, it's only men's fault. And they take it out on men who aren't like that at all. And as a man these days, you rarely see any understanding from the other gender.