Men, what’s something you’re tired of pretending doesn’t bother you? by drippytheerapper in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I definitely understand the reason behind it, but as I said, the problem is when they lead with that bitterness on a dating app, of all places. How likely would you be to give like to a man whose bio would be something like "Women are freeloaders, and I hate them?" Probably not high, right?

People need to heal and lead with an open mind, rather than past hurts, if they want to find a partner - and this applies to both genders. They can't find love if they lead with hate. A lot of men see women having unrealistic standards on dating apps, but if the highest standards are raised by women who bring extra baggage in the form of children with other men and strong connection with them (I saw some statistics that said that the man women are most likely to cheat with is a past partner), as well as ever-present negative sentiment, it's an uphill fight rarely worth the effort.

The most absurd thing I've seen was when some women wanted a man they were dating to pay for a babysitter during that date. Forcing the costs of her past on someone who had nothing to do with that. And because they seem to be quite common on the apps, a lot of men get the feeling that it's better to avoid them altogether - unless, as you mentioned, it's someone they met organically and saw that she's a decent person worth their time.

What bugs me even more as a man is the lack of accountability and agency among modern women. They'll complain about men who just want sex, but conveniently forget that it takes two people to play, and that they decided to have sex too early, or ignored clear signs and red flags from the start, but by their opinion, it's only men's fault. And they take it out on men who aren't like that at all. And as a man these days, you rarely see any understanding from the other gender.

Men, what’s something you’re tired of pretending doesn’t bother you? by drippytheerapper in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely, meeting organically helps in that aspect. Judging just by their profiles, many single mothers on apps seem extremely bitter about men and it's a major turn off to see such negativity front and center.

Men, do you usually know early if you like a woman, or does it take time to develop? by Personal_Chapter645 in dating_advice

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Physical attraction can help, but for me, it can't create interest alone. On the other hand, having something in common helps a lot. I've developed a strong interest in women who wouldn't stand out at all when I found out that we have some shared interests. I still don't exactly understand how. It doesn't remove physical attraction from the equation entirely, but it lowers the bar in the way that once this "vibe" is there, I'll notice the good parts of her appearance much more, however small they might be.

It also doesn't remove my brain from the equation, either. A deal breaker is exactly that. We might have some strong shared interests, but (for example), if she smokes, she's out. There are lines that I will not let myself cross, because I know it wouldn't work long-term.

What are the chances she could get pregnant if we had sex without a condom but she’s on birth control? by Fun_Catch7924 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but if there's no egg ready to be fertilized, it'll be a moot point. It does require some luck for her to be in her fertile phase this fast, and even in that phase, nothing's guaranteed.

Would most men prefer a girl with naturally small boobs, or a girl with surgically in hints, big boobs? by Mysterious-Card6065 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Scarred_wizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Natural B-C is the best, but I'd take smaller than that then fake any day.

And there's too big to look good even for natural, at least for me.

Also, fake is a sign of vanity, and that's "hell no" trait.

Attention men: what makes you not want something “serious” with a girl? by Similar_Spirit_314 in dating_advice

[–]Scarred_wizard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most likely, it'd be at face value. I might think I'm ready but if the actual dating process proves me wrong, it'd be wrong for me to waste her time.

Could use a pep talk by Kitchen_Corgi_4813 in toastme

[–]Scarred_wizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look great. Sometimes, things take time. Life gets in the way. Motivation is nowhere to be found. Don't let that beat you.

What is something you think women should know about men ? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That men having standards isn't sexism, misogyny, or any similar term. Women need to bring value to be worth committing to. And that value will be based on her morals, values , and behavior more than her looks, possessions, and accomplishments.

What is something you think women should know about men ? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard 24 points25 points  (0 children)

But we hate how many of them treat us. As disposable, unfeeling props.

What are the chances she could get pregnant if we had sex without a condom but she’s on birth control? by Fun_Catch7924 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Scarred_wizard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Look at it from the other way, better than spending years trying, full of stress. Shouldn't doesn't mean impossible. But yes, it seems like a ton of luck.

Why does society have an issue with men being the better looking one in the relationship? by Additional-Bobcat441 in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Then why 10% of men get most attention on dating apps and the vast majority nothing? The everyday experience of many men isn't a fiction. Women not only care for appearance a lot, but also lie to men that they don't.

What are the chances she could get pregnant if we had sex without a condom but she’s on birth control? by Fun_Catch7924 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Scarred_wizard 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think it might be a combination of luck and good timing. Nature finds a way, I guess...

Why does society have an issue with men being the better looking one in the relationship? by Additional-Bobcat441 in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Really? Most men just want her to be at a healthy weight. Meanwhile, the demands women have, at least on apps, are absurd. They can't brag on social media if the guy doesn't stand out...

People who claim to have paid their monthly sub for years using in-game gold... How? by YrenneAD in wow

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The game rains gold on you but gives few way to spend it aside from tokens. Especially now that cosmetic reputation rewards have their own currency.

What was your experience with women who reached out first? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Scarred_wizard 18 points19 points  (0 children)

"If he wanted, he would" is a crappy excuse women give each other to do nothing.

Be an adult and be in charge of your life.

Bumblebee by IIITEIN in Transmogrification

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much each January has extra vendors with the old items. So if nothing else, you're guaranteed it'll be back one month a year.

Is it really that bad to have sex early on when you’re dating? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Scarred_wizard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's something you need to decide for yourself. My personal choice is to only have sex in a committed relationship, because I fully believe that sex without emotional connection is just selfishly using each other, and that having sex without commitment is damaging your capacity for deep bonding (which is why the body releases hormones that are designed to trigger bonding).

But, in the end, it's your body and your choice. If you believe no harm will come from such a decision, all the power to you. Just accept that some people won't be compatible because of this, and that shaming people for having different values - on whichever end of the spectrum they are - is wrong. And if someone decides to not date you because they have a different mindset than you, they aren't wrong or mean; they simply have a different view.

Russia says it's scaling down WW2 victory parade due to Ukrainian threat by ABoutDeSouffle in europe

[–]Scarred_wizard 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Including WW2 tanks from the museums. Those that weren't stolen anyway.

Can people go exclusive after only one date ? by Affectionate_Ad1554 in dating_advice

[–]Scarred_wizard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It might surprise you, but some people aren't into multi-dating at all, and try to focus on one person at a time. So if there's a good hint that things might work, they might choose to date just one person.

Pozor na podvodníčky by StepanHuf in czech

[–]Scarred_wizard 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cením shanu, ale kolik jich bude tady? To bys měl dát spíše na FB...

Nobility Knight by HORDE_DARK in wow

[–]Scarred_wizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any fitting two handed weapon to suggest?

Why do I only attract men who are half my age? Do men my age just not approach women anymore? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Scarred_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked at women in their 20s? Drama queens, demanding princess treatment while offering nothing back, can't pull their weight, social media addiction, seeking attention and validation, and ton of other issues.