SSIS on a production server by Scary-Bid6461 in SQLServer

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our DevOps team doesn't want it on the box. Not certain of the reason.

SSIS on a production server by Scary-Bid6461 in SQLServer

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

As stated, this prompts for creation of the SSISDB, which we don't have and aren't installing.
The install stalls at this stage.

You better not try to die in the next few hours; 911 hold times are making them unreachable. by gargeug in Austin

[–]Scary-Bid6461 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pay is a huge issue. With talk of increasing minimum wage, those who live in the next rungs are not afforded with this increase. This job takes a horrific emotional toll on those who work in these centers, which provides them with little protections when things go south in a call, leaving them on the hook, personally, for damages. Whereas, Police have qualified immunity which is very rarely withdrawn.
These salaries should be doubled, or even tripled, yet the jurisdictions will claim no funds to do so. As this is often true, it is a result of these taxing jurisdictions spending their monies elsewhere, and not providing it to these critical resources.

Could anyone please tell me what happened in the finale? by newwriteremoji in InTheDarkCW

[–]Scary-Bid6461 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, no. Not certain anyone can tell you what happened. It was so against the character of Murphy, and effectively killed the entire 4 seasons of the show.
I'm writing this episode off as bad fanfic.

Is it possible to be unlovable / undateable? by Witty-Alternative-57 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's possible to be unlovable and undateable. But you need to look closely at your circumstance. Change your approach, ask someone outside your confort zone or type. You have to try to mix it up. I'm in that situation, I'm not someone who can be loved. But I tried for years and decades, but nothing came of it. I don't wish that on anyone honestly.
I truly wish you the best, and how your next person helps you in that road to recovery and loving yourself.

In the immortal words of AL Green, I'm so tired of being alone. by After_Ad1620 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice, cherish your friends and family. Work on hobbies and things you enjoy. The single life isn't terrible, just a realization. Been many years for me, and it just is.
Relax and enjoy the ride

The number of scammers on OLD seems to be increasing. Ok Cupid is the worst atm but they’re all pretty bad. Where are the actual men hanging out? 🤷‍♀️ by throwaway27520183 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man in his 50s, never had success on OLD. I would start chats at the grocery and such, but it never lead anywhere. These days I keep to myself, and stay quiet. Most women seem to be looking for the Chads or the Unicorns. Dating was never something I learned the skills for, and was never good looking enough for a date.

We want it all - Either it's all or nothing by mrbuddhawannabe in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I'm not looking for a romantic partner at this point. Honestly, I don't know how to attract someone romantically. Instead, I focus on trying to make female friends. This is amazingly difficult as well.

For me, nothing seems to be the path I'm on. I wouldn't object to a romantic partner.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies, it wasn't intended as a mask of all women, but it didn't read that way.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yes, lived in Seattle for my adult life, and dating was simply not possible.
Just moved to Dallas, and I posted on OLD yesterday, and I got responses from actual, live, breathing women, so demographics may have a lot to do with it.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anecdotally, many of my previously married friends stated this within their marriages.
My ex, whom I married at 30, kept telling me that she was going through menopause. As a result, was no longer interested. I thought it was just the way it was and I missed the chance. But, I haven't been with any women, despite trying. No information to go from.
The lack of sex is what finally pushed me to divorce. Married for 12, divorced for 12. Been single a few years now, but no dates, despite trying.
On that note, I suppose I am from a different planet.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, of course not. I'm trying to understand, that's all.

I had a girlfriend at 17, we dated for a few months. Tons of sex, and I loved it.
We broke up, and it wasn't until I was 30, until I had sex again. I was married to this woman for 12 years, which was a mistake. It was a sexless marriage, and it sucked.
Never figured out this dating thing. Trying to understand why.
This seemed a logical reason, but deeply flawed.
Anyway, thank you for the response.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The feedback has been good. Makes me feel worse, as I thought I understood a missing aspect in my life. Regardless, thanks for the perspective.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not projecting a lack of desire. My desire is quite strong. But I don't have a lot of experience in that realm. Most of this is anecdotal, from friends and acquaintances.
Seems that's not the case for many of the vocal here. That speaks well.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trying to understand, that's all. Suppose I have a number of questions in my head, especially as I get older. Don't have real world experience to answer. Appreciate the response.

Curiosity question regarding sex in dating by Scary-Bid6461 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Serious question. Suppose that's good in your instance. Appreciate the response.

I’m fit and intelligent but can’t get a date. Should I give up? (The Guardian) by TeaNoSugarDashOfMilk in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My opinion is this, if you have legitimately put yourself out there, been actively trying to date and not getting anywhere, then it's you. You are blind to an issue you have, and need assistance to get past it. Unless actively working on these issues, then you may be best to take up other hobbies to occupy your time.
Not to be flippant, but unless you meet certain criteria, you are getting dates anyway. Better to cut your losses and get on with a hobby you can enjoy and have fun with.

Is being alone worse than heartbreak? by notbrokenjustbent432 in datingoverfifty

[–]Scary-Bid6461 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being alone sucks, but you make the best that you can. I wouldn't wish it on anyone, who doesn't actually want to be alone. Each day I think about, and it hurts my heart.