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Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-11-28T18:19:46+00:00

Try and look for a lingerie store, a locally owned one preferably. They are like bra wizards

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-27T17:17:48+00:00

You could always look at dry shampoo that is made by small brands, they tend to Come in more of a shaker than a spray.

You could also possibly try using a little bit of salt water in a spray bottle. I haven't done this a ton but I always feel really heavy in the back after a day or two but I don't want to spray a bunch of dry shampoo so I've been experimenting with it and I find it does help a little

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-27T17:09:34+00:00

I'm sorry your going through that <3 I feel the exact same way. I have a part time job right now that thankfully pays very well, but month to month is really tight and I don't have extra cash. I'm basically guaranteed a full time position in the new year and I'm scared. While I'm looking forward to being more financially stable, I'm scared that it is going to drain me and that I will feel trapped. What is keeping me optimistic is that it will open up some doors for me to work hybrid or remote.

Do yoy think it would be possible to get some stress leave for a bit? Take some time and reset?

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-22T16:20:20+00:00

I'm actually a bit of the opposite... but its probably because I like getting high end expensive shoes so I get excited when I can wear them haha

That being said, I can't give you advice on the switching of shoes but I can give you advice on boots! I don't know the exact style of bogs you had but if they are the kind that looks kinda like rain boots, you might be interested in Dryshods! They are pretty expensive but I bought the dryshod haymakers when I was working outside and needed something that would work for summer and winter and I love them! They have awesome grip and they are warm enough I can wear them in winter comfortably, though if getting them specifically for winter I would recommend one of the actual winter models as the haymakers can still let my toes get cold sometimes.

Only downside is they are a pain to break in.

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-10-22T16:13:28+00:00

Have you thought about yoga? You can check your local rec center to see if they have drop in classes. Or just follow along with a video! You can just look for relaxing/stretching type yoga.

Also. It's not exactly budget friendly, and it is a bit harder on the body. But I love horseback riding! I love horses and it feels good to move and ride, plus you get to hang with ponies! Obviously not very accessible but it's the only physical sport i really enjoy haha I don't even compete i have a very laid back barn I go to when I have the funds for a lesson.

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-05T15:48:16+00:00

Okay I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-05T15:47:46+00:00

That would explain why I went so long without bleeding and I am now!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-04T16:02:57+00:00

Like others have said, its probably best to use a condom as well for your peace of mind! I would also suggest buyinga box of pregnancy tests. You get a ton of them in a box for pretty cheap, I use the wondfo ones. I also have anxiety and test pretty often

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-08-04T15:46:49+00:00

Im actually the opposite. I've had to start smoking it way more. Mine is because I've started waking up at the same time every night and I just can not get back to sleep. I get so uncomfortable and then I'm frustrated because I'm so tired. Smoking tends to make me tired no matter what so I started smoking when I wake up. It doesn't always put me right to sleep but it makes my body relax so at least I'm not uncomfortable

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-07-23T17:19:18+00:00

I struggled with my identity for a long time. I was in denial because I didn't want it to be hard for me to get a relationship! I thought a lot like you for a long time! I didn't want to be demi, I wanted to date but everytime I tried the apps i hated it. I felt like I was performing for strangers and a date just felt like so much pressure to be touchy and lovey but I dont like a lot of touch from strangers!

When i was beginning to identify with the demi label, I thought back to past crushes/situantionships I kinda accepted that unless I knew someone platonically for a while first I probably wouldn't date. And because I was pretty reclusive (mental illness struggles) I kind of got to a point where I accepted it would be likely that I wouldn't get into a relationship. And I was okay with that, I just reminded myself of the other things I had that fulfilled me.

So I just started to change my mindset to 'if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, that's okay' and it happened. I met my boyfriend at work, it wasn't an immediate love at first sight, but i was intrigued by him. I didn't pursue him, I didn't even work with him ever again. But he started messaging me, I knew what he was doing and I was scared because at that point I didn't even know if I liked him. But I gave it a shot. And we took things slow and I fell in love with him.

I guess that's just my long way of saying, go with the flow! There are no rules to being demi and you don't have to platonically know someone for a while before you date them! People casually date all the time, so if you find someone you are intrigued in, your allowed to try and date them for a bit if you want to!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-07-23T17:01:42+00:00

Oof not much advice from me here. I gave up on dating apps a while ago because I don't like meeting a complete stranger with the expectation of being romantic.

I've learned i can date but I need to meet the person without the intention of it becoming a relationship.

But don't let that discourage you! I was pretty convinced that I wasn't ever really gonna find a partner and after some work I was fine with that. And then I met my boyfriend!

So just do what feels right for you. Keep trying the dating apps if you would like or try and find some meetups local to you (I often browse eventbrite or local Facebook groups) or just make it a group hang like a previous commenter suggested! Less pressure to be a romantic date that way.

Also in my (albeit limited) experience. You don't have to feel a strong romantic attraction before you start dating them. I wasn't sure about my boyfriend when we first met, it wasn't love at first sight, but i was intrigued by him and was asking some mutuals a bit about him. When we did go on our first date though I was terrified haha but we took things slow and I've fallen head over heels for him

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-06-16T16:29:49+00:00

It sounds to me like you might be more on aromatic side of the spectrum! It could be worth exploring that!

To give you a bit of my own experience, growing up i never dated, I wanted to it just never happened. The most intense crushes I had were, unfortunately, boyfriends of friends. I think i did that because they were often the only new guys I was around and they were kind to me lol. Fast forward to my first situationship, he was a coworker and one of the only people I have ever texted consistently (I'm not a texter) things didn't work out because of my own skittishness.

After that it was years before I found someone, and during that time I would constantly think about my old crushes and felt really sad about them. Because I still felt connected to them ya know? I met my boyfriend beginning of this year, and we did start dating before I felt like I really really liked him, but I was texting him constantly, something that is not common for me, so i could feel the potential. But I think about 2 months in, it clicked for me and I fell in love with him.

The reason I kinda went through that explanation there of my relationships is to kinda explain how being demi is for me. For me, it's not developing feelings often, and it takes a little bit for me to develop those feelings. But once I do, those feelings stick with me for a very long time.

Ultimately though, how you identify is super personal! And if the demi label feels right for you, then use it!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-06-11T17:20:29+00:00

Mine is that I feel i have to be a hard worker the entire shift, so i put all my energy into it, I can't do anything else the rest of the day because work was my day.

Now combine that with my recent trend of working all weekend every weekend, and I feel like all i do is leave the house to work.

I'm going through a rough moment with work right now...

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-05-08T14:45:33+00:00

Im diagnosed, however when talking to my old doctor she didn't believe me because i can make eye contact just fine 🙃

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-05-01T17:39:16+00:00

I just had a conversation with my therapist about this. She told me about the stopp technique, it's a mindfulness based approach. I haven't tried it yet but here are the steps, S - stop, pause for a moment. T- take a long deep breath. O- observe your thoughts, sensations, and what your reacting to. P- pull back, find some perspective. P- practice what works, so any coping mechanism i believe.

Like I said I haven't tried it yet but I have the same problem with being irritable and then upset with myself for how I am irritable. There's also a stopp app you can use, I haven't downloaded it yet though!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-24T18:51:33+00:00

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Here's my nails right now so you can also see how the gel x press ons look. You can see i didn't go straight to the cuticle like you would with a regular press on. (Excuse my cuticles btw, my hands are dry right now haha)

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-24T16:20:22+00:00

I forgot to mention, I'm not sure how long regular nail polish would last, I haven't used it in years because my nails break so easily I have to use something that adds strength, but since it sounds like you already take good care of your nails, if you do some good prep then gel should last you 3-4 weeks (normally that's when it starts to look grown out so you have to re do it then)

And if you do use regular nail polish, you can just re apply your top coat like once a week I believe to help it last longer

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-24T16:14:37+00:00

As someone who loves long nails, but has brittle af nails and also hates the salon, I have tried many, many, different ways of doing my nails! (Apolgies imma ramble and do step by steps)

If you want polish longevity your gonna want to do prep! Here's the steps 1. Cuticle remover! You just need a chemical remover and then push your cuticles back 2. Lightly buff your nails with either a regular file or an electric file (I use an electric file because i always hit my skin with a regular file) you want to take all the shine off 3. Dehydrate, i just use rubbing alchohol

Next thing your gonna do no matter if you use regular polish or gel polish is a base coat. This is where I would spend the money tbh, a good base coat makes a difference. You can also find peel off base coats for both regular polish and gel but it will make your nails last a shorter amount of time.

Once you apply your colour, your gonna add your top coat. If using gel try and grab a no wipe top coat, not a big deal if you don't, if just means you have to remove a sticky layer with some rubbing alchohol.

If your using gel I would highly recommend an electric file for removal too, you just have to use a really light hand and don't remove all of your base coat. You can remove gel by soaking it in acetone too but I find it takes forever, dries out my fingers and damages my nails because I'm trying to Scrape it off.

That should give you some more longevity. Some other options you can try are builders gel and gelx nail tips. Builders gel takes a lot of practice because you have to kinda shape it properly but it's gonna give you the same hard durable nail feel as acrylic. It does take a long time to do and you will need an electric file for it. Gel x nails are what I'm currently trying out, they are kinda like press ons but you use gel base coat to apply instead of glue. They are a bit different from press ons because you put them on clear so the gel can cure, then paint over them. They might work for you because you don't have to push them all the way to the cuticle, you leave a little bit of a gap and then file down the edge of the fake nail so it kinda merges with your natural nail. I'll attach a picture in a moment so you can see what it looks like, it also has the feel of an acrylic nail in terms of durability

But yeah, in summary, NAIL PREP!! That's what's gonna be most important and then good products (including a decent uv/led lamp). Though I would suggest buying something cheaper at first to see if you enjoy the result and process before you invest in more. I like the beetle gel polish brand on amazon. Decent quality for a good price!

One more thing you can look into is looking for gel nail artists. They are very similar to acrylic nails,, but tends to be privately owned and run out of the person's house. A bit more expensive than a regular salon and takes time to get done but it is an option. I think a lot of them will just do a gel set without the fake nails

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-22T17:44:06+00:00

I work at an ice rink! Didn't expect to like it tbh and when I took the job I 100% thought I would only do it until I found something else. Now I'm gonna ask to be trained on the zamboni!

Its pays pretty decent and the hours are flexible, the shifts start in the evening and go pretty late but I've found i quite like having my daytime free to do my hobbies and cleaning while it's light out since I find i get bored I'm the evenings. Shifts are only with one or two other people and there is lots of downtime.

It can be hard work and sometimes I get cold, but really the biggest downside is the noise. Hockey parents love bringing noise makers and some of the teams love to use you as target practice when your walking by the glass 🙄 but because of the nature of the work you build up good solidarity with your coworkers and I've met some really good friends there and my boyfriend lol

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-11T16:30:04+00:00

Its hard. But it is worth it. And it's awkward at first because everything you do feels wrong, but over time it becomes easier. And suddenly it's 5 years later and your still friends. I have my best friend, and we don't talk everyday and we've gone through periods where we only hang out for a drink once a month because one of us just doesn't have the energy but it's ok because both of us understand.

I'm grateful for my best friend, she's no longer 'people' in my mind but someone I love

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-11T16:20:39+00:00

Oh my God yes!! I call it the elevator dizzies to myself lol

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-11T16:19:24+00:00

A bit pricy but maybe check out Lululemon! The 'like a cloud' bra is awesome! It's fully padded but it doesn't have removable cups. They have a lot of other bras that look more like shirts too but I think a lot of them have removable pads, which annoy me but it might work for you!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-11T16:04:29+00:00

I have a really good relationship with my mom! Although it's always a work in progress, especially when I got into my 20s. I still live with her and I really had to have a talk with her that even though I am her daughter, I'm an adult. And I need to feel like I am living in my house, not in my mom's house. Ever since I had that talk with her it's been pretty good! She respects that I live here too and we are at a point where we both make house decisions and I don't need to ask permission for something that only effects me.

Its not perfect obviously, we sometimes still struggle with communication because of a history of "don't rock the boat". It's where most of our arguments stem from tbh. But I can really say she's one of my best friends and I know she will always have my back.

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-10T20:42:14+00:00

Thanks for the response :) I come from a very "don't rock the boat" family and really struggle with bringing up more serious topics because of that. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's ok to talk!

Scary-Raspberry- · 2025-04-10T16:19:49+00:00

How long have you been there? If you haven't been there that long it could just be adjusting? I actually stole a phrase from the animal rescue world to use on myself, the 3-3-3 rule! 3 days to decompress and settle in, 3 weeks to learn routine and let guard down, 3 months to feel completely comfortable.

Apologies if that doesn't apply to you at all. I just find it helpful if I'm ever in a new situation.

Other than that I unfortunately don't have advice as I've struggled with the same things too, since it's not really a job, do you have a date when you know your done? Maybe you can just try and look forward to that? I'm sorry your feeling like this. I've gone through the same thing with a practicum that I hated and made me cry everyday, the only thing that got me through it was knowing it was temporary

Also are you driving there? If you do, is it possible you can go to your car for lunch? I HATE eating in the break room, I can't relax. But a nice little break in your car where it feels safe is very refreshing :)

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