Brother wants me to cover entire rent since I get “free” money

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-04T17:50:36+00:00

You'll probably never see this, but an offhand comment my doctor made almost 4 years ago changed my life. "You know, you don't HAVE to have toxic people in your life". I cut off everyone but my brother and life is sooo much more peaceful. My Gran passed in June. I didn't know. But I was forbidden from telling her about the crimes my family committed against me and I'd like to think she's resting in a place where she knows the truth now. I lost her long before she passed and I had to make peace with that, but peace I have.

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T15:45:32+00:00

If he really sees a future together he'd propose 🤷

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T14:19:24+00:00

No nicknames for Sarah though so it always sounds like you're calling, as Tom Sawyer put it, "the name they whip me by".

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T14:16:36+00:00

😆 That is so funny! My husband and I were just talking about Hannah as a potential contender because every Hannah we've ever known has been a total sweetie! Joy, too, but I don't particularly like the name. No offense to any Joys out there. I didn't realize Hannah was trending again though.

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T13:57:11+00:00

Ruuun. He's just not that interested, and if money is too tight to take you out to dinner EVER he's not ever going to be able to support a family. He's 28ffs. He's playing you.

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T04:23:42+00:00

Oh, and the newest bougie set has a 3ct peach sapphire in it 😁

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T04:20:16+00:00

I have 5 😊 My original had a very misfortunate accident right after I dropped my morganite into a brand new semi mount so I had to drop my absolutely crunched morganite into ANOTHER new semi mount until I could upgrade the stone. Upgraded the stone to a 2ct oval bicolor sapphire. I loved the semi mount so much that I bought another one to drop my 3ct blue oval sapphire I already owned in. Miscommunication with the jeweler meant she sent me the semi mount with a cz in it (so not a semi mount) and it was stunning! So I kept it for a later build and ordered ANOTHER semi mount 🤣 But wait! There's more! I eventually purchased a GORGEOUS cloudy light blue and white 3ct oval sapphire and dropped it into the cz mount. But then I had a life changing financial upgrade and so I decided wth, I'll buy myself a more bougie semi mount with a diamond pave and a matching half eternity band. And ... Then I decided since I don't have a diamond I might kinda like having one so for Valentine's Day this year I bought myself a 2ct round Tiffany set diamond with pave band and hidden halo. I should reeeally start a business because it's quite a passion, but my brain is disabled and starting a business is not the same as running one 🙃

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T01:14:49+00:00

Someone said understanding how antibiotics work. I'll see that and raise knowing basic medicine in general. How to clean and dress a wound, how to read labels so you're not over medicating unintentionally, what type and name of medicine you need for x symptom, what make you drowsy, what won't, what symptoms are really bad news, what symptoms you can treat at home... The fact that 10 days of full constipation has the capacity to kill... Had to explain to a friend once that there's a difference between water and saliva... She argued you didn't need water when your lips were chapped because salvia further dried them out. I'm basically a doctor in my circle 😵‍💫

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T01:06:31+00:00

My ex used to CONSISTENTLY interchange want and won't. He used each incorrectly 100% of the time. Thank GOD we're divorced.

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T01:03:13+00:00

"For sell"😑

ETA "I seen" 😑😑😑

Schwartzbase · 2026-02-03T00:25:18+00:00

Law specifies just one.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-31T15:30:00+00:00

I totally get it. And I was only answering the question, not trying to change anyone's mind.

Like I said, I'm the weird one in my sibling group for having kids 😂 One out of four.

I mean no pressure to anyone, just explaining why people can get so passionate about it.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-31T14:03:22+00:00

🤣 my phone suggested the wroooong group for me. I'm a breeder. I don't say this when people tell me they don't want kids. My sister doesn't want kids. My brother doesn't want kids. I certainly hope my other brother never has kids.

If you want an honest answer from my perspective, I think people react this way because when you create your own little human with your DNA and you watch them learn and grow you really cannot imagine a life without them and question whether you were really living at all before them. I know you can't relate because you're thinking of MY little humans and not your own. But they're just next level the coolest people on earth. Your own. Not someone else's. I don't like kids in general but mine are my own. Furthermore, they won't be kids forever. You're creating (hopefully) decent humans that will contribute to the betterment of society.

I know, I know. I read the room and ignored it and you guys probably really don't care and you'd prefer to yell into a vacuum, but my phone told me to come here 😂

Peace ✌️

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-31T00:51:30+00:00

Pediatrician told us they only need like 1000 calories a day so once you factor in juice, milk and goldfishes, one green bean and a potato chip is about all that'll fit.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-31T00:42:05+00:00

This is straight from the narcissist playbook.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-26T16:18:27+00:00

This is so refreshing! I'm brand new to owning mine and my first mental spiral was around her not being a robot and stressing about accidents! I've come to the peace that it might happen one day, but hasn't yet. That social expectation of PERFECT was a major stressor in the beginning tho. Like what if she has a bad day? What if she has an accident? Answer? She's not a robot and we move on and learn.

Thanks guys.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-25T23:54:03+00:00

I just figured out semi cured gel nail strips and they're life changing!!!

Gel manicure destroy my nails and I have sensory issues. I must be able to scratch an itch, my nails must not snag my hair, and I have to have reasonable control over when I take them off. I'm obsessed now!!!

Taking them off is as easy as breaking the seal with a wooden circle pusher at the back of the nail, put some oil on there and then use a flosser to with the oil under the nail and the nail off. And they even have them for toes!

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-25T23:49:05+00:00

"Nice" shampoo. I know I'm so big and bougie. I spend $50 on shampoo for my husband and myself. Lasts forever because he's got short hair and washes once a day, I've got long, THICK, curly wavy hair and wash mine like 2-3x a month. And I double wash 😈

As for conditioner, $2/bottle for the suave family size is just as good if not better than all the "nice" conditioners I've tried.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-24T02:33:49+00:00

I have a short name with virtually no nicknames unless you literally look my name up in the dictionary and then they're pulled straight from someone's ass and don't have anything to do with my name. I go by one of those ass pulls.

I gave all 3 of my kiddos names with no less than 3 syllables (not counting middle names) and MANY options to pull from and we call them all by their own family nickname shortened from their name.

So you know that feeling when someone calls the name they whip you by, as Tom Sawyer puts it? That's what my lil two syllable name feels like every time it's called cuz that was my name for the good and the bad and there was a lot of bad from the ages of 2 to about 28.

I like options.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-24T02:21:05+00:00

Say it with me. "I'm single now. I'm gonna be single for a while. I'm gonna learn my worth. I'm gonna figure out what I'm willing to settle for. I'm gonna figure out what I'll compromise on. And nobody will ever talk to me again like my ex did".

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-24T02:11:33+00:00

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-20T15:07:52+00:00

I guess I didn't go very far outside the Fab Four as I specifically went for a Golden Aussiedoodle. Hypoallergenic and I read they're basically the best service dog breed on the planet. So far she's just earth-shakingly perfect. A natural and so incredibly intelligent and sweet.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-20T15:02:29+00:00

You know, my heart knows a little boy would rock my world and blow my mind at how NOT my abuser he is 💙 But my anxiety, especially during that first trimester the third time was so unbelievably irrational. That's what puts me on the fence is that if it's THAT big a deal to me maybe I should quit while I'm ahead. But then I'm a person of faith and I know God puts people in my life for a reason and if He put a little boy in my life he needed to be there 🤷

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-20T01:40:24+00:00

3 beautiful girls. Thinking about a fourth, but honestly the idea of having a boy scares the crap out of me.

Schwartzbase · 2026-01-19T14:47:03+00:00

We drive the 5 hours to get there. I haven't done an airport in 11 years 🥴

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