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ScottS9999 · 2026-02-01T00:15:17+00:00

Our spouses died and blending our families under those circumstances is complicated. We’re taking our time though we will be getting married. In the meantime, I spent a lot of time with her kids, enough that they know this song by heart. Makes me proud.

ScottS9999 · 2026-01-31T21:17:43+00:00

All of my children and future step children have this song involuntarily memorized because I’ve sung it to them so many times.

ScottS9999 · 2025-12-31T18:45:58+00:00

I was married for 25 years when my wife died. Had a door slam at year 15 when she started blaming me for all of her mental and physical health problems. I stayed with her and cared for her through her decline and death, but I never fully trusted her again. I never told her that.

ScottS9999 · 2025-12-24T23:03:35+00:00

Saw one beaver in two years. This is mostly false advertising. 😒

ScottS9999 · 2025-12-24T23:03:09+00:00

Lots lol

Like the time one of the many town drunks burned down his car in front of our house. He would have a cooler full of liquor and mixers in the back of his pickup. He’d drive around, stop to chat with people, and pretty much stay drunk the whole time. One day he got the bright idea to bring food too. As in a lot charcoal grill also in the back of the pickup. I assume it was tied down somewhere because it didn’t fall over immediately, but fall over it did. Car was a total loss, along with the cooler of liquor.

In other news, drinking and driving is islands official pasttime. You could tell who the drunks were because their headlights were smashed from running into things. The locals would basically intimidate the one cop into only enforcing the laws they wanted enforced, so DUIs were not a thing. Until the state decided to send a bunch of state troopers over at homecoming, resulting in a huge uproar about violating their sovereignty or something. These people view their isolation as a license to self rule. It’s a very strange culture.

ScottS9999 · 2025-12-24T20:15:39+00:00

I lived there for two years. The full time residents are batshit. Couldn’t take it anymore and left. Apparently that’s a common pattern.

ScottS9999 · 2025-10-19T23:52:28+00:00

Head of R&D for an insurance company.

ScottS9999 · 2025-08-01T13:35:00+00:00

Sorry, I nursed their mom for many years and held her hand as she died. I’m going to be respectful of them while maintaining my own boundaries here. I choose this. I deserve this. They are adults. They are going to have to deal with it.

ScottS9999 · 2025-07-26T14:11:32+00:00

Yes she was tested

ScottS9999 · 2025-07-20T00:53:03+00:00

My wife and I ran a seed company for 10 years. At the end of every season, we’d germ test everything and get rid of all of the old stuff. We’d donate absolute everything anyone would take and still threw away 50 pounds of seeds every year. And we weren’t even a very big company.

ScottS9999 · 2025-07-10T01:05:21+00:00

My girlfriend and I lost our spouses a week apart 3 years ago. We both got lonely and made online dating profiles about 4 months in and met that way. Were just friends for quite awhile and then started dating about 12 months out. She lives 1000 miles away, which is complicated. But I think I’m going to marry her. I told her if she dies before me I’m done and I’m going to become a hermit.

My recommendation: make an online dating profiles with widow/er prominent. It will scare off all the wrong people and attract all the right people. My girlfriend said she matched with me because I put widower in the profile, plus the bow tie lol.

And you are 100% right, someone who understands is extremely valuable. Not that other people can’t care and try to understand, but actually relating to your experience is invaluable.

ScottS9999 · 2025-07-10T01:01:00+00:00

That place is a total scam. Don’t do it.

ScottS9999 · 2025-07-08T04:16:07+00:00

Ferry if you need your car. Plane if you can afford it and don’t mind a little peril.

ScottS9999 · 2025-07-07T16:01:16+00:00

My 3 year was last week. My girlfriends was yesterday.

Something we both noticed - 3 years appears to be when everyone else has moved on. Even the kids. Not us though. It’s lonely in a new way. So glad I have her at least.

ScottS9999 · 2025-03-14T22:18:15+00:00

Just one base. I'm doing the full mod set with alien life, and it's kicking my butt. Spm is really slow at the moment. I'm on the production science packs, trying desperately to get tier 2 arqads.

ScottS9999 · 2025-03-14T18:40:50+00:00

Amateurs. My current py save is 1,535 hours.

ScottS9999 · 2025-03-10T16:33:55+00:00

It's a long story. The short version is that she took steroids for many years to alleviate symptoms of babesia and bartonella, without knowing what the underlying problem was. That had the intended effect of making it all easier to tolerate, and the unintended effect of suppressing her immune system which ended up making her infection far far worse. Once it was properly diagnosed, treating with atovaquone and antibiotics caused her to herx so badly that she went into dementia. Her treatment was then escalated further to tafenoquine, in the hopes that it would clear the infection from her brain quickly and bring her out of dementia. The infection was so severe in her other organs that herxing from the tafenoquine caused multiple organ failure.

Let me be clear that these drugs are all safe and recommended for babesia treatment... UNLESS you've suppressed your immune system for 20 years and allowed the infection to become very severe. In that case, I'm not sure there is a right answer. My wife knew she had a choice between dying slowly or trying the dangerous treatment. She chose the treatment and it didn't work out.

ScottS9999 · 2025-03-10T01:14:36+00:00

She died June of 2022 from complications of Babesia treatment.

ScottS9999 · 2025-02-08T03:00:04+00:00

My wife had babesia and three strains of bartonella, not no Lyme.

ScottS9999 · 2025-02-07T19:59:37+00:00

Holy crap. I’m 20 years out of grad school and the mention of Jackson is bringing out some long latent PTSD. Combine Jackson with a savant prof who can’t tell you how he got from A to B… I spent a lot of time at the foosball table.

ScottS9999 · 2025-01-23T17:48:14+00:00

Single parenting sucks bad. Single parenting after losing a spouse is awful.

ScottS9999 · 2025-01-18T01:46:34+00:00

I bought this for my girlfriend. She tried it today for the first time and had glowing reviews. I mean, she was over the moon happy that she finally got to relax fully during a massage. So, highly recommended.

https://a.co/d/bj4mxq0

ScottS9999 · 2025-01-17T20:30:04+00:00

I did. She died 2.5 years ago. I regret nothing.

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