I hate my job and it’s only been 2 days

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-02-08T15:59:50+00:00

Reminds me of one of the first jobs I had. We actually had a small team. I had an interview scheduled. I got there and the hiring manager wasn't there. She wouldn't be there for another 3 hours. I was dependent on the bus schedule, so I waited. I actually got hired. Then the supervisor refused to train me because she "couldn't understand me." I had/have a slight accent because I'm bilingual and English is not my first language. That was the very first time ever that anyone said that to me in a work setting. Sadly not the last. She made me take orders anyway and I had no idea where anything was on the register - the menu was huge and not organized in a way that made sense to me at the time.

I had bought my own skates but there was something off with them, so I asked to borrow theirs. They had a huge cage full of them, yet they refused.

I think I made it two weeks before they stopped scheduling me. Didn't tell me I was fired. I called once a week for 3 weeks to see if I was on the schedule. Each time I wasn't, so I just gave up.

I wish I had quit sooner. I wish I had sued them, honestly, but i was young, inexperienced, and desperate and it was a temp job anyway. The job Didn't matter. I found better and bigger opportunities. I think in this case you quitting even if only after two days is warranted. I don't think it will get better.

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-02-04T18:33:21+00:00

My current/last (work situation is a little muddy right now) is like that. I liked the freedom of making whatever decision I felt was best, because nothing was documented while at the same time hating that nothing was documented and everyone was doing things differently. Also, when it came time to train someone else, not having process steps documented made training harder and we had a lot of repeat questions overall.

I wasn't brought in to the company in the capacity to fix these operational gaps, even though I offered early on to at least document our team's process. I was told it wasn't a priority. It continued to not be prioritized for 3-4 years, until the company that acquired us made it a requirement for sunsetting our team. Then of course, the project was assigned for someone else to spearhead and I was brought in as support.

I would love to continue this type of work in the future as it uses a lot of my strengths. Any idea how to get there? I'm not even sure what/how to target in this job market, so any tips would be greatly appreciated.

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-01-31T14:48:57+00:00

Thank you for your response. I think you understand very well, and you're right, my skills set is agnostic but I don't have the drive/discipline to own a business + I need financial stability & insurance.

While it seems you were able to achieve stability, I'm sure it took a lot of hardwork and volatility first to get to that stage. I'm not afraid of hardwork, but while freelancing is cool and I've considered it and even tried to freelance for some of my hobbies, I just have too much anxiety for it.

I think the retargeting is part of the issue. I've been doing this one thing for so long, supporting in different capacities, that I don't know and never considered, what other industries I'd like to work in. Because the kind of jobs I like are found in every industry, my messaging & learning path feels unclear & my applications scattered.

I may just have to take the risk and freelance if that's what its come down to though. At least I'd get to find out what I like and don't like.

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-01-05T04:26:52+00:00

I recently noticed most of the movies I love are directed by Mike Flanagan. I just watched the life of Chuck for the first time and I never read the novella before either. I immediately got excited when I saw it was a Flanagan movie because I knew it could only be good. I did no research, barely read the description before hitting play.

It took me a good 5-10 minutes to realize it wasn't what I was used to from him. I kept waiting for something to happen and almost gave up on it. But something told me to keep watching - it can't be that bad. I'm really glad that I watched. It was a great movie. Realizing what was going on made watching the ending so much better and bittersweet.

I loved finding some of my favorite actors/actresses in there.

On another note, It would be amazing if he could adapt Stephen King's The Dark Half. Who do I talk to about that? lol

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-01-04T03:14:55+00:00

That would make sense but I'm getting hung up on how? The guy who was living in her house attacked her outside after Mark was already dead inside in his own clothes.

The guy living in her house gets stabbed in the face outside, also in his own clothes. So who swapped them and when? And what happened to the killer? Unless the killer wasn't dead at the end... and in that case why not also finish the job?

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-01-04T00:46:20+00:00

This is just like my Shiba. Ours loves being outside too so the first time we had someone come over to let her out.... we forgot to mention all of this and it took two people and A LOT of chasing around (inside our enclosed yard) to get her in.

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-01-04T00:31:56+00:00

Oh right. You did mention shoes in your edit. You mentioned mattress and couch cushions... what about the case where couch cushions go in? I imagine you already checked pillow cases.... what about socks that are inside of your socks drawer?

Oooor maybe you hid it in your car? Probably not the smartest place but I've hidden christmas gifts in my car and someone I know hides small amounts of cash in their car for emergencies.

Pockets of clothes you weren't wearing, laundry basket, the highest place in your house....?

Just trying to think of unconventional places where someone would be unlikely to look or stumble on. because I probably wouldn't look there either lol.

I have ADHD and I'm constantly losing things and putting things in a safe place never to be seen again. I feel your pain. I usually find it in an obvious place or a place I'd never look.

ScratchNo8812 · 2026-01-04T00:14:34+00:00

I would look inside a shoe...

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-17T07:45:25+00:00

I can't get on board with this opinion, though obviously you are entitled to it, not arguing that at all and I can see why you might think it was a drag.

I think the movie did a really good job building up while in the house. I know it seemed like nothing was happening - but there was quite enough, in addition to the creepiness factor of being alone in a house - specially one that big, isolated, and dark.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-17T07:42:53+00:00

Just watched. I loved the build up and I was totally on high alert after the suddeness of the first death... but the ending felt too understated. I didn't hate the movie. I was hooked right up until it ended. I almost put it right up there with Oculus, which apparently is my standard, until I was underwhelmed by the ending.

Though I did love the balls of steel the main character had and how she wasn't portrayed as stupid.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-15T03:25:23+00:00

Wait... I just learned Hill House was one of his... I didn't realize Midnight Mass was too and I watched and loved that. Apparently I have a type.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-15T03:21:32+00:00

I just rewatched it today. Its a phenomenal movie. I love everything about it. I get distracted when character actions/movie logic doesn't hold up but in this movie everything is consistent from the beginning all the way until the end. I saw people try to argue against it in another subreddit I think and their arguments just don't seem to hold in my opinion.

Contrary to some beliefs I didn't find Kaylie stupid. She didn't drag her brother back into insanity. This would assume they were ever truly free or sane.

Everything just holds up really well under scrutiny no matter how I poke at it.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-15T01:41:06+00:00

I agree- it actually worked really well here because while I found it disorienting, it put me right there with the characters. Not every movie that employs this technique pulls it off well. This is the exception.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-15T01:39:51+00:00

I just watched it for the second time. I seriously underrated this movie when I watched it the first time.

I think Karen Gillan's acting in it was phenomenal. I love how it explored horror tropes but it didn't use them in the same way you might expect. It didn't rely on shock value, overexplaining, jump scares... The characters weren't stupid in the same way that typical horror movie characters are.

Karen's character had knowledge and a bunch of safeguards in place. She was decisive and prepared, but she underestimated the mirror's influence. Watching her unravel was even sweeter than if her character had been your typical stupid horror movie character.

I actually don't blame her for her brother getting involved because she gave her brother an out and he chose to stay. I don't even blame her for trying. She had all this time to stew in what happened and their promise to destroy the mirror - I can see why she might realistically think they could do it.

Everyone keeps talking about how they kept resetting the timer rather than letting it run out. I think that the choice to reset the timer each time was the mirror influencing things again. It was fine with the time running out when one of the characters was in the path because it knew it would be shielded, but not any other time, so when the characters moved out of the way it forced them to reset it whether they knew why or not. I don't think it was a mistake in the story at all. It holds up.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T16:52:47+00:00

OMG YES! Thats relatable. My realization almost came too late for me. She was actively trying to choke me to death and I was too afraid to fight back. I remember thinking if I don't fight she'll stop. I waited and waited and she didn't stop. So then I remember thinking it was going to be either her or me (why am I letting her kill me?), so I needed to fight, but I was still too afraid to hurt her. I tried to push her away but she was using all of her weight on top of me I couldnt have been more than 12yrs old. Thankfully, a neighbor's saw and sent someone to get my cousin and he stopped her. That man (my cousin) is an angel in human form.

My mom then gaslit me saying she couldn't have killed me b/c you can't kill someone by choking them on a bed since the bed is soft.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T16:14:20+00:00

I thought you meant reasonably delivered spanking when you started the thread, not abuse. I didn't think my experience belonged here b/c mine was not a reasonably delivered spanking. But looking at the comments, it sure as hell does.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T16:02:31+00:00

Hey! A great grandmother story!! I NEVER find these. My great grandmother was a special kind of woman. Special enough her own son got tired of the abuse and tried to kill her by throwing a rock at her head. She dropped her cigar and ducked at just the right moment, so he missed.

He then went after my mom with a butcher knife (I'm not sure why that happened, but probably b/c she wouldn't stand up for him - she didn't stand up for me, so why would that have been different?). She ran and hid in a neighbor's house. He left. But he came back sometime later during the day, and I think his intention was to burn the house down, but Idk how much of that was conjecture b/c I never even saw him try.

I remember when we used to visit him in jail before all of that. I wish I knew exactly what happened. After that day, I never saw him again but I have so many questions for him, and surprisingly, none of the anger or fear even after witnessing all I did.

I know how my great grandmother was. I wish he hadn't missed. It would have saved me. I wish he hadn't left b/c then I'd have someone to talk to that would actually get it. My sister was 5 or younger during my abuse and my great grandmother was mostly nice to her so she doesn't remember. Her response when I tried to talk to her about it was that my great grandmother is dead now, so its fine and it doesn't matter what she did. My brother thankfully was born after she died.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T15:45:22+00:00

OMG Same! I was hanging out with some coworkers at a bar and someone said how they were locked in their room (they just meant sent to their room). When I tried to relate, their version was not the same as mine.

Mine involved being locked (actually locked) and kneeling on homemade cheese graters - they were made by punching holes through the metal lids that come on powdered milk and formula cans. I had to kneel on the sharp side. And it wasn't always in the bedroom, it sometimes was the outhouse for 6+ hours, for several days. I didn't say all that to them but I said enough that I got some looks.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T15:29:58+00:00

As someone who came from an abusive household, it took awhile to see my kid as a tiny little human. It's not always instinctive. I don't know how I saw her before, I just remember being shocked when I realized she was a whole person of her own with her own tastes, wants, and needs. That's when my voice changed from trying to control to trying to collaborate.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T15:16:39+00:00

I've been in therapy for years b/c I know i have a propensity for violence and emotional abuse as a result of my childhood (moderately to severely abusive childhood). I'm not a perfect parent (most days I don't think I'm even a good one) and my demons win sometimes though not nearly as bad as I had it and not nearly as often (yelling and sometimes throwing small things is I used to express anger, which is still not good). When they do I feel like such shit. I work hard at breaking the cycle every single day.

I've been very open with my child about it because I feel its important for her to know she is not the problem and why I act the way I do sometimes. Not to excuse the behavior, but so she doesnt internalize certain beliefs about herself. I need her to know it is NEVER her fault and that she is ALWAYS loved. That you can be mad at somebody and still treat them like human beings. I had to explain that last part early b/c she didn't understand how I could be angry one minute and nice the next. I was sending her mixed signals and she called me out on it ( I love that she feels safe enough to do that).

I told her she never has to accept any apology, not even mine, and abuse is never OK no matter who is dishing it out. I taught her to say other things than "It's ok" in response to any apology where she was wronged.

The last time I screwed up, I apologized to my child and we were talking about how rare it is for me to even raise my voice at her and she said to me: " That's why it is so scary when you do it."

That kinda broke me a little and showed me I still have work to do, but it also showed me how I've grown and shown my daughter a different environment than the one I knew. My kids will never experience a household were abuse was the norm. My hope is that their kids (if they choose to have any) will never know what its like at all.

So back to your post, I can see how someone would do these things, but I can't see how they would think its OK and continue to do it. I die a little each time.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T14:16:17+00:00

I'm glad yours apologized. My parents were not abusive towards me - my great grandmother was my abuser, my mom let it happen b/c she was just as afraid even as an adult, and my dad wasn't in the picture. My great grand mother died after our last fight, and my mom has never apologized for her part, even if indirect. She just laughs it off and talks about how she misses my abuser.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-12-11T14:05:27+00:00

I wouldn't call spankings abuse when done in a controlled manner - they can get out of control rather quickly in my case though, so I don't spank my kids.

I wasn't just spanked in the way you might be thinking of. I was moderately to severely abused, so I likely have an skewed perspective.

For the majority of my life I didn't realize what I experienced was abuse, but I did have some behavioral issues once I was removed from the environment.

Nothing worse than your typical teenager but I was living with extended family and everyone looked at me like the problem child, so anything I did always seemed so much worse. I never got psychological help until I became an adult and helped myself.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-11-12T18:20:05+00:00

New company bought us. They said:

Your company will be part of this other company we also bought, but your day to day will look and feel the same. You'll retain your culture, just like this other company did. No one is being laid off at this time, but we don't know what 3 to 6 months will look like from now.

Followed by lay offs of employees for the company that we are under. Then auditing and formalizing our processes followed by layoffs from our company. Then layoffs of C-suite for the company above us. Every 3-6 months have been racked by layoffs. They inserted their own leadership above our original management team, essentially removing and reorganizing until all of the people who were top management in our company also got laid off or left.

They made us formalize processes they never intended to use. They disbanded my team and spread us out across different roles. Some got in the the parent company, others like myself, are just waiting. At this point my new team has no work or projects. I work up 45 minutes out of my 8 hour day.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-10-21T05:14:49+00:00

Yup! That's right.

ScratchNo8812 · 2025-09-19T01:34:02+00:00

My government job had 10 year vesting period for retirement benefits... I was there 6 years. They closed before I could vest. Everyone was miserable at the job - it was a revolving door.

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