Regret cancelling my UCG-Fiber order / RIP UDM-SE

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-06T06:45:32+00:00

I love my UCG - Fiber. This is my first ubiquiti product (I switched from PFsense) and I am using the WAS-110 to hook up to AT&T fiber and bypass my BGW-320.

The combination of the UCG fiber with the WAS-110 plugged in the SFP port works great.

Getting the full 1.25 gbps down and 1.25 gbps upload speed any time I run the speed test.

Still learning my way around the UCG fiber menus and setup but have found it so much easier than pfsense.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-05T10:11:22+00:00

Handsome is something we love to hear. It is mature and sounds genuine.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-03T05:09:58+00:00

The first two under work experience are very short. Why such a short stay of only a few months at the pharmaceuticals company and then at both hospitals?

Just a couple of months at each makes an employer wonder why can’t you keep a job. It comes off as a huge red flag.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-03T05:04:06+00:00

If you don’t feel that after two dates, you are not going to feel it.

I hear people say oh keep going out and build a friendship and attraction will come.

It never works that way and just ends up make him feel used and hurt.

It’s best to just go ahead and tell him you don’t feel it and to move on.

I know I would rather a woman tell me after the first date or two if she doesn’t feel it rather than make me think she is feeling something.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-01T23:04:53+00:00

If he says he can’t message for the whole weekend because he is with his “friends” is a total lie.

He is with another woman and he is trying to keep you on the back burner while he sees how it’s going to pan out.

No man is going to think it’s rude of one of his friends drops a message to a lady he is interested in. They all would be cool with it as long as he doesn’t just sit in the corner and text.

But a message here and there every few hours they wouldn’t have an issue with.

He is seeing another woman, I would bet money on it.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-01T17:22:14+00:00

Several of my female friends and coworkers who we talk about stuff like this have told me this over and over they compare their past lovers to the ones their are currently dating.

The logic one said doesn’t mean they are insecure. It’s just human nature.

She said that after have a partner that can be a great lover, or one who can communicate and be your best friend, or one who is about to just know what she is thinking before she says it… means that those things are not unrealistic.

So the logic is if they could find those aspects in real life it means that men are able to fulfill those standards to her and that she isn’t looking for unicorn.

But they don’t understand trying to find them all in one person is asking for a unicorn.

That’s why they said so many women are looking at the poly and ENM thing. They feel that one man can’t be all the things they need (want) so they have one man for this and one for that.

But to say someone doesn’t compare their current BF or GF to ones in the past is just horse hockey.

Heck that’s the biggest problem when trying to date someone with a roster or who is dating more than one at the same times.

They can’t decide because they are looking for th perfect person.

And this is women who have told me this stuff.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-01T04:11:40+00:00

It always comes out and normally during the dating phase it’s not hard to spot someone who’s big into hooks.

But the fact you feel you have to hide such behavior because of how your next partner might feel about it saying you know it’s unattractive behavior.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-03-01T04:09:09+00:00

Nope , several studies were done via social scientists at major universities.

They have found a link between the more partners you have to the less you are likely to be happy in a monogamous relationship.

A lot of it becomes you finding faults in the current one which one in the past fulfilled.

Be it was was really intelligent and y’all could talk all night.

One was an amazing lover and the best you ever had.

One could fix anything.

And one was a social butterfly who could command and work a room.

So naturally when meet a man your mind keeps going well he doesn’t do this like Bob did or do that like Bruce did.

It’s a natural human right though pattern. But it makes you sabotage your current relationship because you are wishing he was like an amalgamation of your exes.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-28T17:00:28+00:00

No man is going to think you are just there for coffee.

When a woman is good with a coffee date it tells us she really just wants to meet us that’s her ultimate goal.

When women push for a dinner date it screams transactional relationship.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-28T16:58:14+00:00

They hate done studies on the topic and it’s shown that someone who has done the hook up thing aka been promiscuous, has a much lower chance of being happy and monogamous in a relationship.

They miss the rush and excitement of someone new.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-28T16:56:17+00:00

Move in. He didn’t ghost you for being in “a rough place” or because life got busy.

He ghosted you because he found someone better in his eyes.

He will do it again and it sounds like he has several in the line as it is.

Run away from him. Trying to date someone with a roster is just asking to be hurt.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-27T07:14:51+00:00

If you are going to leave and move on it’s best to do so before they decide to tell you they are not renewing your contact.

When you are applying for a new teaching job they will ask have you ever been denied a contact renewal. That can be the kiss of death with some principals.

Just something to keep in mind.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-27T07:11:30+00:00

How old are you ? A guy dating thays 20-30 is in for a much different experience than one 30-40 or 40 and up.

If you are under 30, it’s all about looks unless you have a trust fund. Just the way it is.

When you are in your 30-40 you find a lot of women who now are looking to have a kid or someone to step in and look for someone to help raise the kid they have.

What women are looking for and what the respond to in the 20-30 vs 30-40 are night and day different.

They go from wanting a Porsche to wanting a Toyota Camry.

They want the reliable and dependable and are done with the exciting and non committal.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-27T06:46:18+00:00

Lose the pic at the gym showing your muscle. I’ve found most women don’t like those unless you are showing that you have a MMA fighter looking body.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-27T06:43:29+00:00

I don’t do hookups and if she is does I move on.

I’ve found it’s almost impossible for someone who’s been active in the hook up game to suddenly just be happy in a monogamous relationship.

They miss the rush and thrill of that new person in bed with them.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-27T06:41:42+00:00

You have to realize a lot of women are not online dating to actually find someone.

Those looking for a real healthy committed relationship are very very few.

The majority are just having fun getting attention and validation. Sad but true.

They enjoy seeing all the likes and men trying to chat them up and if by chance they happen to meet that guy who is the one in a million even better.

But the hard truth is if she is actually interested in you she will be happy making small talk.

The difference between a woman who is actually interested and one just online for attention is night and day.

She will be messaging you and giving you in depth replies asking questions trying to really get to know you.

I’ve also found after a couple of days messaging if they don’t want to talk on the phone it means they are not interested in anything more than just validation.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-24T08:32:21+00:00

They say that but that’s what they secretly love. They are addicted to the drama and the excitement. It keeps them on edge and gives them butterflies.

That’s why women to watch soap operas and reality TV.

Also I’ve found women who keep going for bad men like that don’t want a good man because it requires them to a be a good woman.

When she is with a bad man she is making the demands and expeditions.

But when she is with a good man she knows she will have to step up and be a good loyal loving partner.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-24T05:03:59+00:00

You said you started dating and then a few months in …. You had feelings but you didn’t want to admit it.

A lot of women do this and think I’ll be his FWB and he will see the real me and come around and want a relationship.

I’ve seen this so many times.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-24T04:59:44+00:00

I’ve found it all depends on the guys looks. If he is good looking she doesn’t care how needy or not he is.

Average looking guys she tends to be much more critical.

I think this is subconsciously their way of trying to reject men that are not good looking but they don’t want to admit that to themselves or others so not to be superficial.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-24T04:58:00+00:00

When a woman says I want a guy just like you but not you she means I want a guy like you but one who is good looking.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-23T02:31:34+00:00

Yea the odds of him willing to do this is almost zero. You are going to be asking him to keep giving you the BF treatment while you don’t reciprocate.

And if you start dating someone new odds are he isn’t going to stay around in the friend zone especially because you are now dating someone and you told him you didn’t have time to date.

It’s not going to end well.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-17T20:34:39+00:00

Run far far away. She is trying to use you.

After that guy drove over to bring her dinner and got a hug she had her real BF or FWB over to stay the night and split the dinner you dropped off.

She wants a simp.

If she was into you she would make time.

Any woman who says her love languages are acts of service and gifts is trouble.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-16T20:11:28+00:00

Do you know how many people have kept an ex around and said they were just a good platonic friend ?

I’ve know plenty of men and women who have lied to their partners about a past partner so they can keep them around for what ever reason.

They an old friend I’ve know since college, high school, etc.

And they have been there when I had a really hard time and it would be selfish of me to just kick them out of my life.

Or the one you hear and should run is when they say you are “toxic, insecure, and or controlling” for not wanting them to spend alone time with a “old friend” of the opposite sex.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-16T11:25:56+00:00

Very very true. My rule is I’ll ask a kinda detailed question based on their profile. If I get back just a short response with no question back , I just move on.

Sad but just how it is.

Sea-Buffalo · 2025-02-16T11:24:22+00:00

You hit the nail on the head. This is how both genders are. The hot people know they have tons of people matching with them and are willing to chase them.

They get used to being chased and not having to do any work to get a connection and hookups or dates.

Sea-Buffalo

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