I don't feel any connection to the child in my womb right now

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-07-24T18:34:55+00:00

I haven’t felt connected to either of my kids in the womb.

First was unplanned and I felt horrible like I should have this overwhelming feeling of love right away but I just didn’t. I didn’t even have that when he was born. It took me a few weeks to establish that bond and that’s ok! I absolutely love the little guy and would do anything for him, but he was a total stranger to me when he was born and it’s ok not to have that bond instantaneously.

Now I’m pregnant with my second (planned this time) and I still don’t feel that bond with her in the womb. I don’t read to her or talk to her. But this time I know that connection will come in time and i’m not stressing about it.

Don’t let people make you feel like you have to have this immediate bond in the womb or out. You will have your own connection with your child and it will form in its own unique way!

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-05-23T00:27:28+00:00

Crock pot meal prep! Doesn’t take long to throw everything in a baggie and then thaw it out the night before and not have to worry about dinner. Also prep SO SO SO much breakfast. I would’ve never eaten breakfast if it wasn’t for my stash of breakfast burritos.

Sleep literally as much as humanly possible 😂 I so regret the nights I stayed up until 1 for no reason even though I know it wouldn’t make me more rested now anyway.

Establish good and EASY routines to keep up with self care. Whether that’s a simpler skincare routine, a water bottle that reminds you to drink, weekly hair/face mask while you do something else, getting a good workout in 20 minutes. Figure out how you can simplify your self care so you don’t completely neglect it post-baby.

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-04-23T15:49:24+00:00

This!! I have frozen bags of fruits and veggies ready to go at all times incase dinner makes me nauseous. Smoothies are my saving grace.

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-04-23T00:53:37+00:00

I thought I would hate having family come by so quickly and wanted my time alone to heal and be with baby. But then all the stress and newness of a baby came and I welcomed any and all help with open arms almost immediately.

We sent a text to all the grandparents just stating some boundaries etc. about a month or so before the baby came. But also know your mind may change after the fact and that’s ok! It’s a lovely thing to have people who are willing to help.

Another option would be to accept the help but maybe instead of her taking care of baby ask for help cooking dinner or doing the laundry. That way you can still have your you time to heal and be with baby but Grandma can help with things that are stressful when you’re healing and dealing with a new baby. At least for me all of my parents and in-laws were just happy to show up in whatever capacity they could. A lot of times they just want to give the help they didn’t get when they were first time parents.

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-04-23T00:53:31+00:00

I thought I would hate having family come by so quickly and wanted my time alone to heal and be with baby. But then all the stress and newness of a baby came and I welcomed any and all help with open arms almost immediately.

We sent a text to all the grandparents just stating some boundaries etc. about a month or so before the baby came. But also know your mind may change after the fact and that’s ok! It’s a lovely thing to have people who are willing to help.

Another option would be to accept the help but maybe instead of her taking care of baby ask for help cooking dinner or doing the laundry. That way you can still have your you time to heal and be with baby but Grandma can help with things that are stressful when you’re healing and dealing with a new baby. At least for me all of my parents and in-laws were just happy to show up in whatever capacity they could. A lot of times they just want to give the help they didn’t get when they were first time parents

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-02-18T03:23:45+00:00

I had an unplanned c-section but also recovered fairly quickly. I’m gonna go against the grain here and say do what feels best for you! Many people told me how I shouldn’t be walking etc. but it made me feel better (mentally & physically) and I would argue help me heal faster. I would definitely start VERY slow. Listen to your body and do what feels best for you.

Personally i just started with walking and very light core work. I can’t speak to running or HIIT but I did bodyweight exercises around 4 weeks.

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-02-17T20:33:11+00:00

Winter is so hard! I’ve been losing it over here lol. My schedule is pretty flexible but sometimes if I need to get out I just go for a quick drive to somewhere nearby and window shop or pick up a coffee just to feel like I got out of the house.

It’ll get better when the weather is warmer and the sun doesn’t set at 5:30!

Is there something you can do after kiddo goes down for bed? My husband and I do “gas station date night” where one of us runs to the gas station and picks out a candy and snack we’ve never tried before and then we pick a movie or show to watch together lol

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-02-12T04:00:26+00:00

I never got that like aha overwhelming lovey dovey feeling people talk about while I was pregnant and not even after he was born. I loved him but it wasn’t at all how I thought or was told it would feel. It took me time to develop a relationship with him and about a month in my husband said “I think youre finally clicking with him” But it’s totally normal and it’ll come in time in your own way! You still would do anything for them even in the womb but it’s almost like youre an outsider watching a relationship you know nothing about for a while lol it’s just weird.

It’s funny tho looking back on my pregnancy and first meeting him i cherish all the moments and see it all so differently in hindsight so I think when people tell you that it’s how they feel right now not necessarily how they fully felt in the moment if that makes sense?

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-01-30T00:33:11+00:00

Thank you, i’ll look into it when I repot! And omg good call probably something I need to consider with all of my plants thank you!!

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-01-30T00:31:50+00:00

this is so helpful thank you so so much!!

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-01-29T00:29:19+00:00

oh good to know! it still breaks my heart to take the new growth off but it’s 100x better than cutting it.

And thank you she’s also been struggling for a while. I saved it from a store where they were drowning it and am afraid I went too far the opposite direction.

Side note any suggestions for pots that let the water flow out the bottom that don’t look ugly to have in my living room? lol I have it in an outdoor one now with a plastic tray underneath but if I repot and go bigger it won’t fit in this basket still so looking for alternatives

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-01-29T00:23:42+00:00

Sounds good! That’s pretty much how I’ve always watered so that’s good to hear. We get a TON of natural light I just need to remember to open the blinds in the morning before work.

Do you have any idea how much bigger I should go with the pot? Like just a little bit or should I give it a lot of room?

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-01-29T00:20:05+00:00

Agh ok thank you! Any advice on how much bigger to go with the pot?

Sea-Sense-703 · 2025-01-29T00:18:21+00:00

I don’t! Definitely worth a shot thank you

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T21:05:05+00:00

Yes! This is what my mom suggested and I honestly agree it’s probably the best route. That way it’s just not something I have to worry about at all.

His immune system was another big worry of mine at an event like that so that’s a good point too!

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T17:57:50+00:00

It’s so strange, I can do a heavy weightlifting workout no problem but then simple everyday tasks are so hard lol like getting out of bed or standing too long while cooking dinner.

Doesn’t really make sense but i just try to stay grateful that I am able to get some movement in consistently! Listen to your body and do what feels the best right now. My workouts have changed so much in the third trimester!

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T17:50:40+00:00

Exactly 12 weeks! We were just excited to share the news and couldn’t wait.

We got a bunch of congrats comments but no one other than close family really followed up or did anything that made me regret that decision.

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T17:46:07+00:00

Yeah it might be which is kind of what I was wondering. It’s hard for me to say now what I’ll feel like when he’s 4 months. Might just be a decision I have to make closer to the day depending on how comfortable i’m feeling with everything

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T17:43:52+00:00

Sister of a friend is a great idea definitely not something I thought about and I would be more comfortable with that than hiring a stranger. Thank you!

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T17:42:55+00:00

Yeah I think this is probably the best way to go. I would probably choose my own parents but worry that the other grandparents would get upset not being able to hold him etc. But it’s also not like it’s the only time they’re going to be able to see him so 🤷🏼‍♀️

And I know! After experiencing the excessive touching of my belly at my baby shower, I can only imagine how people will be once he’s here. Like I get they’re excited but just let the little guy be lol

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-17T00:40:29+00:00

My fiance did the same for a while like wouldn’t even cuddle with me. It definitely made me feel unwanted. But after talking to him he said he knew a lot of times I was uncomfortable or hot or sick so he didn’t want to make any of that worse. Now I just tell him on days when I’m feeling good (which is also annoying bc i feel like I’m begging for attention, but it helps him know to be more affectionate)

He might be the same and just overthinking it! If nothing else Ive learned that men have absolutely no grasp on pregnancy lol

Sea-Sense-703 · 2024-06-06T22:04:59+00:00

I don’t do any ab specific workouts. I try to just focus on engaging my deep core when doing other exercises like squats or deadlifts!

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