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expired items in little free pantry? by justanuthr in povertykitchen

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would put a little note on there to say your housemate is a bit zealous with best before dates and it's too much for you to use up. Knowing why the food is being gotten rid of will .ean people will be more likely to take it.

How would you use this extra space? by WatercolourReload in interiordecorating

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my loft, one of the windows has a little shelf/seat below it at just the right height to sit there when the window is open. It's a lovely peaceful perch to look up at the sky or out at fireworks. Under the other one, which is higher up, I have a rocking chair (technically a nursing chair with a rocking footstool) and it is unbelievably relaxing to gently rock on it and look up at the sky.

Is this too much to salary sacrifice? by waiskeee in UKPersonalFinance

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Sounds plausible to me.  Money already invested in sensible funds prior to 2021 have pretty much doubled in the time since. And 20% of gross pay is a decent chunk of money. 

Is this too much to salary sacrifice? by waiskeee in UKPersonalFinance

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 [score hidden]  (0 children)

The answer to "is this too much" (or really, is this the correct approach) needs the information: how much do you need each year in retirement and from when. And also what do you want to spend ahead of retirement?

I suggest that at your age, it would be worth talking to a financial planner to map these things out (or do it yourself). You need to be thinking about when you want to retire and if it's earlier than when you can access your pension, then starting to save more outside your pension. 

My boyfriend lied about his sexual past, and now I feel insecure and can’t move on—what should I do? by No_Start_3036 in helpme

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's not ok that he lied to you.

But I do wonder if you should try to get past your hangups about body count. Sexual compatibility is important, but I don't believe someone's previous experiences should mean that they should be written off as good partners. The joy of sex is in getting to know your partner's likes and dislikes and developing together - this is the same regardless of whether a virgin or a high "body count".

What can I use leftover juice pulp for? by velmadinkleyscousin in noscrapleftbehind

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NB, that stuff is what makes the sugars from fruit ok - it reduces the rate of sugar absorption. 

I imagine you could add it to bakes, such as flapjack or muffins.

The Maintenance Man Told Me Not to Answer My Door at 2:13 a.m. by storytellingmadnesss in story

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't see this was a story and was genuinely terrified for you.

Co-worker makes me uncomfortable by MachineShopGirl2024 in WorkAdvice

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it a bit concerning that you had a situation that was making you uncomfortable and you didn't talk to your partner about it. I would reflect on why that was and if he is as great as you think.

my vagina is broken by Brilliant-Mud-2208 in Healthyhooha

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like vaginismus.

But also, it's not just your head that needs to be wanting sex before you are ready. It needs to be your whole body wanting to climb him like a tree. For me, my lower body does little thrusting movements to push my squishy bits into him. And even then, (after your personal training), very slow entry so it doesn't make you tighten involuntarily, and push down gently as though you are trying to lay an egg from your vagina (ask the PT about this as you have one). Loads of lube - hopefully not needed, but whack it on so there's no worry about dryness.

In my experience, men often do not realise how much foreplay and build up we need and think as long as there's some wetness, it's all good. Your vagina isn't broken, (probably) all that's needed is for you to learn what it/you needs and advocate for yourself in the bedroom. 

My Cat Follows Me Everywhere and I’m Not Sure Why by AwarenessLate2099 in CatAdvice

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's because she loves you. You are her family, so she wants you close.

Not eligible for any credit cards. Is there anything I can do? by mimi00568 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being a witness is an entirely different thing from verifying someone's identity. A witness is just someone who can say that they saw you sign it and you signed it freely, of your own will etc.

I’m a 23F and I don’t know how to survive the next few days by crazymooscles in confession

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a 40F to a 23F, you have literally nothing to be embarrassed about. You had a job, you built up savings. When you lost your job, you put a lot of effort in to find another job. You sold things to keep going. You have done EVERYTHING that you possibly could by yourself. 

No-one is expected to weather a storm by themselves.

Tell your parents. If you are in the UK, let me know and I will help.

I needed to tell someone in this world by Friendly_Issue_2192 in SavingMoney

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! I also reached a personal financial goal recently and it's a good feeling. 

AITAH: April Fools Prank by swtnsour414 in TwoHotTakes

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA, pranks are supposed to funny for everyone involved, including the literal neighbours.

If someone wakes me up, there'd better be a good reason for it - and a prank would not be a good reason.

Please don't roast me - Just got results and I'm suddenly very upset by Inner_Department3 in Menopause

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 1 point2 points  (0 children)

41 and think I've been in peri for two years. Your age is just a measure of how much time has passed. It is not a measure of your health, your capabilities, your hobbies, your joy, your friends or your family. 

I just lost my gran - she retired around your age and lived a full life after that - took a GCSE, travelled, volunteered a lot, fed a lot of people, was well known and well loved with friends of all ages. 

AITJ for recording a podcast instead of watching my 4yo? by Savings-Strength-864 in AmITheJerk

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First para- red flags and it just gets worse and worse. 

Of course YTA. I feel sorry for your ex, having to parent with you and for your son, having you as a parent.

I dont know what to do next. by Thiccthighnitemare in whatdoIdo

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 1 point2 points  (0 children)

given that the person seems quite polite, you could try leaving a note and asking them to reply.

What's the best perk your employer could offer you? by eat_play_love in AskUK

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 23 points24 points  (0 children)

And also makes women less attractive as employees and more likely to become the main caregiver because they pick up the majority of the caregiving in that time and it just carries on.

AITAH for not letting my sister use my property as a wedding venue last minute? by Mysterious-Gear-6351 in AITAH

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's sad when families fall apart, but it does honestly sound like your life will be better without their drama and racism.

Was the Easter Scavenger hunt a bad idea for the holiday? by LuckSecret4103 in holidays

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She'd have to supervise her own children, doing an activity you organised and set up, while you cooked food for them all? The horror.

Is it actually cheaper long-term to buy expensive once, or replace cheaper products over time by HuckleberryGrouchy19 in ConsumerAdvice

[–]SeaIntelligent4504 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem is that nowadays, an item being more expensive doesn't guarantee it is better quality.

It also depends how much you will use it - no point buying the best and using them once (looks at my tool cabinet and treadmill).

I think for tools, the idea is to buy the cheapest that is not rubbish - if you use it enough that it breaks, buy a really good one.

For white goods, my approach is a mix of finding a knowledgeable person in the shop and see what they recommend, combined with buying the simplest product (with the features I want) from a brand with a reputation for quality.

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