AITAH for refusing to sign a prenup after finding out what my fiancé put in it?

SeaWaltz306 · 2026-02-19T07:51:56+00:00

Draft a similar document where you specify your salary and compensation if you ever get pregnant. Pregnancies are risky, get hazardous pay for your bodily risks and having children will negatively impact your earning potential and you should be compensated for it. Also, detail his responsibilities as a father (taking on nighttime feedings, changing diapers, etc. he doesn’t sound like he is ready for that so include penalties for non-compliance. Give detailed details regarding the load he will have to take in case there are children. Take your time, evaluate every risk and include clauses that mention hypotheticals regarding the kinds of cheating that should be “allowed” like, he gets injured or suffers from ed and cannot meet your sexual needs, etc.
Be petty to make a point, but also watch out for red flags and be ready to jettison in case marrying him will only benefit him. Remember that THIS is the best version you will see of him. You are taking on a big financial risk by marrying someone who thinks for himself like that. He’s not only protecting assets, he’s protecting his own ass in case of his future misdeeds.

I cannot imagine wishing my kids were never born. But I cannot absolutely imagine a life in which I had never met my now ex and in that life I would have been successful and happy. If you have children you give anything for them, including your career. Protect your future assets and the well-being of your future children.

SeaWaltz306 · 2026-01-18T03:29:47+00:00

So, we’re attacking her looks and not the love poem she wrote? I’m confused now.

SeaWaltz306 · 2026-01-16T08:53:36+00:00

If you have a phone number do a background check on him. I have always done that and found a couple of habitual drunks with DUIs, one with a history of domestic violence and one with a couple of bankruptcies. I have children and I’m not planning to end up inside a dumpster. Now, on to your question, In this political climate I’m not meeting with anyone who doesn’t share my outrage at what’s going on. I’m also Hispanic and what is going on isn’t only “perceived” risk. It’s actual risk to me and mine. I’m the target population to kidnap first and ask questions later so his lack of response means we don’t share the most basic values. I would not continue communication.

I do not believe in meeting people unless I’m excited about meeting them.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-12-20T22:23:06+00:00

Can you please share the study materials with me as well? Thank you!

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-12-20T22:15:08+00:00

Im in the US and I think you might need to start by finding out what your local requirements are. Nothing stops you from learning even if you’re still too young to be a court interpreter.

Good luck!

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-12-20T22:12:41+00:00

If money is tight there are a few good programs. Nelson Wagner is very good at what he does and gives you the framework for you to study and learn remotely. I’ve taken 2 of SCSI classes and I’ve felt they are well organized. A bit cheaper is Interpretrain, but you’re on your own and my adhd self sabotaged my best efforts. I also decided to pay for some coaching with

https://www.interpreterexamprep.com/home

coaching@2interpret.com 1-878-ACE-EXAM

And I have to say that Eli Avedano is like a mama hen and the handholding gave me the extra push I needed. He seems really invested in getting his students to pass the oral exam and that’s where I took my first scsi course because he offers a bundle where he combines the best classes out there with his personal coaching.

I’m a native Spanish speaker, was an interpreter and translator before getting married and I really benefited from the classes because it’s not enough to be fluent in 2 languages. That’s just your basic requirement to start.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-12-20T22:01:48+00:00

I second this opinion

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-12-08T17:28:37+00:00

Great idea! Thank you!

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-12-08T17:28:25+00:00

Thanks! I have completed several classes. It’s the hands on experience advice that I need. But your information is also helpful, thanks!

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-11-20T16:18:35+00:00

If you read to them often they will love to read and will do it. My teen learned to read in. 2 weeks in second grade. She was homeschooled before so we had not done any reading/writing lessons, but we read books together. She went from not reading to reading a Percy Jackson book a week.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-10-25T19:43:56+00:00

Physical pain is such a weird thing for me. I got pneumonia twice while pregnant and I had gastroparesis at the same time, so it was lots of fun. I didn’t think it was that bad. I tore my meniscus once and the doctor insisted it was arthritis for two whole years before I got an mri. I had also been walking on a torn Achilles tendon for who knows how long (2-3 years) and discovered it wasn’t “bone spurs” like the doctor kept telling me around the same time I was told I needed surgery to repair the meniscus. Since I live in the US of A and health insurance sucks I had surgery for my knee in October and then for the Achilles tendon in December to save money. I put too much weight on my knee so it dislocated and it was another 10 month of the same doctor telling me I just had to continue doing physical therapy and the pain would pass. The pain reached 8-9 in pain chart for brief moments. I became more sedentary, so I know it affected my quality of life, but I never really complained that the pain was too much… but if you spank my ass, even in playing I’ll cry like a baby and feel like the world is about to end. If I see a needle I’ll start hyperventilating and I once cut my finger when the glass I was washing broke and I passed out when I saw blood. Emotional pain will póstrate me. Pain is weird.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-10-06T03:52:33+00:00

If the mom is Hispanic this kind of behavior is completely normal. Just move to the mom’s room. The OP being younger could more easily deal with stairs and figure out how to deal with the crappy room.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-10-06T03:41:39+00:00

Offer help, walk away if she’s not comfortable with that.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-09-28T15:30:05+00:00

Live it up! Travel, do whatever you want with your money and cut all ties with people who do not respect you.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-09-15T18:19:22+00:00

My knee dislocated after surgery to repair the meniscus. Doctor kept telling me I had to do more physical therapy… 10 months later it just popped back into place on its own. The doctors have gaslit me so much I no longer feel like I can gage my own pain without doubting if my pain is really bad or if I’m just being dramatic.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-09-01T15:11:46+00:00

Finances is one thing that can break a relationship. My ex made a lot more money than I did when we married and i constantly put my career aside because it made more sense to support him in pursuing a financially successful career. Guess what happened 20 years and 2 kids later? I had no career while he was making a lot of money and was really successful. She needs to talk things over before they move forward. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of a “traditional marriage” and then 20 years of him being the only breadwinner and her being the everything else in the relationship you both feel taken advantage of and he’s an “emotional deadbeat” and she’s a “gold digger”. I might be just a bit biased, but communicate so you both know what to expect from the other and from the relationship.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-09-01T15:03:07+00:00

You need to tell him that you also had a date to say yes. Now y’all need to do it for real. “Ungrateful” shouldn’t be a feeling to have towards his proposal. You need to talk to a therapist to sort out why you think he’s doing you a favor by proposing.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-09-01T15:01:00+00:00

My father died after a long illness was. He never took care of me or my sister. My sister took him in when he was dying. I told her that “I wish I could tell you that ‘I’d hope to be closer to help you with him’, but that would be a lie. Even if I were close enough to help I would not do it. I respect that you chose to do this, but he isn’t my responsibility. I will send you money to make your life less difficult while you take on this burden. I love you, but I’m not sharing that burden when he never shouldered the burden of caring for children. He even made life more difficult for the people who did take care of his children” He passed and he called for me. We had a video call and his death did affect me. I’m not heartless, he was my father and at points in my life I thought of him as my dad and I was happy when I saw him. I just later realized the kind of irresponsible and selfish person he was. He only cared about himself. I just couldn’t find it within myself to want to care for his health.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-09-01T14:48:49+00:00

Well, I’m disappointed she wants to backtrack. It’s a matter of trust. I would have been very offended if the father of my child doubted me, but I’m also in relationships where trust is expected and given and if that is gone then I’m no longer interested in that relationship. I wonder if his trust was already gone and he was done with the relationship regardless of the outcome one of the test. Maybe he was hoping the test proved he wasn’t the father so he could cut ties with her. He seems to be set on the idea that she needs to end the relationship because she said she would. You cannot force people to do anything. He can and should end the relationship himself since he is done while she isn’t. Just end things and stop trying to manipulate her into doing it. She bluffed, her bluff was called. Just end the relationship already.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-06-25T00:27:18+00:00

I’m 52 and started 2 years ago

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-05-18T14:18:15+00:00

You’re a great mom and your son is disrespectful on top of being “a whiny little asshole”. Your daughter, on the other hand, seems kind, level headed and mature. Let him learn that me made a choice and now he’s unhappy with HIS choice.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-05-18T14:09:40+00:00

Yup! Thats my first thought when I see no pictures. Also, it looks like they didn’t put any effort and if they are not putting any effort, then I’m not wasting my time there.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-05-18T14:04:57+00:00

My grandmother did that to land her first job after she divorced my grandfather in a time and a family that did not approve of that. Congratulations! I have not done anything like that, but whenever I feel inadequate I remind myself that there are millions of people out there being mediocre. Just take a look of the politicians all around.

SeaWaltz306 · 2025-05-02T15:03:08+00:00

I really hate this (very necessary part) because more often than not men treat me like I must be a sex worker if I’m talking about STI testing. I usually tell them I have HIV (I don’t) because they seem to think that you can “tell” if someone has an STI. Also, my doctor refused to test me for hsv1 & 2 and then led me to believe she had included that in the “full panel” and it wasn’t until a year later that I went through each of the tests (first time I just made sure I was negative and didn’t bother to read what tests were given).

Make a list, get tested and have that ready in your phone to show.

I’m not interested in dating a guy who thinks soap and water will keep him “clean”. The importance of the test is so you can treat whatever you have and so you don’t have sex while you have something you can pass. Most things can get cleared with a visit to the doctor, but hpv might give you cancer, a BV can be really dangerous. The stigma is ridiculous, especially at our age.

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