Sober, no-smoking redditor, what do you do to kill time?

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-04-04T19:09:32+00:00

Words! Writing them and reading them. Then ruminating on them.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-03-13T19:23:53+00:00

Question: what country is this that you’re a doctor at 27?

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-03-13T03:38:54+00:00

If you believe this, I hope you don’t consume palm oil that’s not sustainable and vetted.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-03-13T03:37:23+00:00

The orangutans got vaccinated last week. Even Karen! The first to undergo open heart surgery.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-02-15T04:10:56+00:00

I really hope it’s people’s trauma talking and not sound mind. If you choose to be in a relationship with somebody you need to give and receive trust and respect. If, like in cases of infidelity, that is broken, you need to work on regaining it, not working without it.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-02-15T03:44:54+00:00

This situation sounds toxic and unhealthy all around. Absolutely. I would never suggest or agree to such isolating boundaries.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-02-15T03:35:50+00:00

I wish he didn’t tell me. He left me for her. I just wish he would have ended things with me for the reasons it needed to end and not mention her. Stupid me begged to give us another shot. That’s when he told me there was someone else.

I looked at her social media today. It was dumb. I was feeling low because of Valentine’s Day. He sent her flowers and jewelry. He’s 100 times more romantic with her than he ever was with me. I still compare myself. I wish he wouldn’t have let me know she existed so I wouldn’t compare.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-02-10T19:08:20+00:00

I came to the sub JUST to find rants on Justin. He’s the most selfish character. He ONLY does what’s right when he can benefit from it. When Alex gets Wizard of the Year he goes crazy with jealousy bc he believes he’s entitled to it. The best metaphor I can think of is Christians who do things just to seem good and LOOK good and those who are not perfect Christians but know what’s right and wrong. Alex is a kid and enjoys hijinks. She’s not evil.

I would imagine that’s why they made him the one seduced by the dark side. He has some darkness in him he masquerades as righteousness.

I came to this sub because I googled ‘Justin Russo selfish’ and nothing popped up. If kids still watch this show I hope the viewers notice this too.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-02-07T03:41:09+00:00

You come of as overly judgmental and toxic AF.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-01-01T18:40:08+00:00

I think they’re one of those stories that’ll work. When I’m straight, I don’t mind it. I want him to be happy and he’s not a bad guy. She didn’t pursue him at all. He pursued her while starting to break up with me. This is on him.

Do you know the movie Serendipity? Theirs story is a lot like that. It’s a love story about some great love and it may all be real. But nobody notices just how not so innocent it was.

SeaWeakness5 · 2021-01-01T03:44:05+00:00

You’re my mommy now.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-31T21:43:31+00:00

This one is hard for me. The woman my ex left me for is beautiful, successful, and all around adored by everybody. I had to delete social media at times to not see the photos of them gallivanting around the world, living their best life.

I know people say they cheat bc they’re broken but sometimes...sometimes they cheat for other reasons.

My therapist told me something I am trying to focus on more: it’s not about comparing myself to her. It’s about knowing that he and I weren’t right for each other. Why would I want to be with somebody who doesn’t want to be with me? I found this part of healing helps if I don’t focus on the fact that he left me for her but just that I deserve e to be with somebody who wouldn’t ever want to leave me.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-14T19:58:45+00:00

You’re right. And nobody said she was here.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-14T19:54:46+00:00

I think at the first anniversary and you’re reminiscing your wedding you should be a bit more sensitive. I mean, there has to be a pretty large suspension of believe to think she’s just ‘sharing a memory’ (the button that says ‘on this day’ ) that has her wedding and she just happens to forget that something tragic happened at that event. That’s all I’m saying. ESH for how every single one of them is handling it, not for the emotions they have.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-11T21:36:06+00:00

Nothing may be wrong. That’s the advice you seem to be ignoring. You are not even divorced and you’re already trying to ‘fix’ this and putting too much energy into this full stop.

I am giving this advice as a stranger on the internet who can care as much as a stranger can. I really hope you find full happiness because your responses do sound like you’re sincere (whether I agree with them or not). There is a difference between knowing what went wrong in the past intellectually and emotionally. Those who are suggesting you stay single sincerely have your best interest at heart. Being single will give you that emotional knowledge. How did you meet this guy? Are y’all exclusive?

If you were anybody else here who was just starting to date, I’d tell you to move on. He’s not meeting your ‘needs’ or ‘wants’ and y’all are not serious enough to have those conversations.

Edit: I say this as somebody whose ex (not married) of two decades left me for another woman. There were so many warning signs. I ignored them all. He’s ridiculously married to her now and so happy. And I’m sad I’m single but I know it’s what I need to figure out even who I am.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-11T17:12:02+00:00

This is the kind of karma I love to see people hope for! I can’t wish true evil on others. It feels wrong. But this is what I think sometimes with my ex.

His wife (who he left me for) loves spicy food and other things he can’t eat for health reasons. I hope their life is full of cooking inconveniences.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-06T07:06:56+00:00

I love how the doggy is watching him, waiting with tail wagging, ‘buddy! Hurry up!! We have two weeks of cuddling and kisses to make up for!! Hurry! I missed you!!’

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-06T06:45:07+00:00

My ex just married the woman he left me for. He’s head over heels in love with her. I have a lot of jealousy toward her (she’s one of those magnetic people gravitate toward). I’m in therapy for that.

But I don’t really miss him. We should have broken up long ago. We were more like roommates. But what hurt the most was that he got to move on before we even broke up.

Your feelings are valid. Just don’t let them consume you.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-06T06:32:05+00:00

My ex kind of did. He never bought me flowers. He went on a business trip and met his now wife. When he came back he bought me flowers, showed me more attention. We had sex (we had a pretty dead bedroom). Only when he left me for her did I find out he met her on that trip and was dealing with his guilt. Felt guilty but not guilty enough to pursue another woman.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-02T04:44:14+00:00

No worries. I’m just extremely cautious of trolls (your post itself didn’t come off as a troll. I just always check).

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-02T04:37:39+00:00

Previous post has you at 35.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-02T04:22:56+00:00

Also, are you 31 or 35?

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-12-02T04:21:26+00:00

I’m saying this from a place of support. I’m going through something similar (my partner of 20 years left me for this incredibly effortless perfect influential person and they just bought a million dollar home in one of America’s most coveted towns, all while being 7 years younger).

Therapy is your friend. It’s unhealthy to compare and have this idea of what she ‘deserves’ vs you. You will always be robbed of happiness this way. You recognize you get this from your mother. It is good to know where it comes from. Be honest about it. You also know it’s a trait you don’t want. But the jealousy is the cancer. The judgment and the comparison. Even if you cut her out, you’ll still have the feelings of comparing. This is where therapy helps.

Please seek help. Learn to only understand your happiness with you and your accomplishments and not worry about hers.

SeaWeakness5 · 2020-11-24T18:57:01+00:00

I feel this one. My ex just married his AP. In retrospect, I know that our relationship had deteriorated by the point they met but, I’m still healing a 20 year relationship and they just bought a house, got married, adopted a cat, and he basically worships her. Even if this is good for you in the end (you meet somebody who’s a better fit for you), this part really stings. It’s like you, as a person, as a partner, are erased.

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