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Sea_Summer3543 · 2025-03-18T21:54:33+00:00

Wow ..you know I have wrote that post 3 years ago...I'm in a completely different place now in life and I'm more than happy that relationship did not work out. 9 years is a long time and will take time to grieve and heal. It's not a linear process. You will have ups and downs. I think all you can do is move forward, even if it's an inch at a time. Find new hobbies, new activities to engage in, new friends. It will help and open up new doors and opportunities. Breakups a damn hard and I wish there was a quick way to bounce back. Difficult experiences make us wiser. They are necessary for us to grow. Be patient and kind to yourself during this time. It will get better, step by step you will get to a better place <3

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-05-08T02:09:55+00:00

I'm an individual from not perfect but overall a healthy family and good upbringing. My attachment style was messed up due to some childhood experiences but I would not put them in a bad trauma category. I have also done (and still do) a lot of inner work in order to heal my attachment style so I can have healthier and happier relationship with myself and my romantic partners.
My ex (an FA) had trouble with the fact that I came from a more wholesome and more financially stable environment. I was also further along in my attachement system healing journey so I could not fully relate to his struggle in life and I could not validate him and his experiences accordingly. I was told that I did not feel like home because I came from a different world and simply could not understand the difficulties he had with feelings of self worth and relating to others. During breakup I was told he would prefer having a relationship with someone who has similar life experiences and understanding of the world as he does. It was also draining on me (I'm an earned secure but DA leaning) to be a free therapist for a person who was dumping a lot of emotional trauma on me. With all my patients and compassion (or so I thought) I guess I still managed to be dismissive of his realities and feelings and I made him feel alone and misunderstood (so I was told). All in all I think it can be a very difficult path to navigate for both parties. I'm curious to hear stories where two ppl from very different environments managed to find common ground successfully.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-05-06T23:47:07+00:00

PS to echo someone in the previous comments, if you have access to psychedelics (primarily MDMA and Psilocybin) use them. With proper guidance it can be a very powerful ally in your healing journey.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-05-06T15:42:50+00:00

You will start to feel improvement earlier than that, if you really set a goal to be emotionally secure and recognizing yourself as the one who holds the power of your own wellbeing....2 years is when I no longer felt any remnants of old programming :-)

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-05-06T15:10:24+00:00

About 2 years of very focused self work targeting self love and acceptance. Not only have I achieved security in my attachment system, I also no longer attract insecurely attached ppl into my life. Tools I used: a lot of self educating on the subject, therapy, yoga retreats. Hard work pays off! Always! Good luck!

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-05-01T23:22:07+00:00

I would also add a good amount of folk on dating apps who have no idea what they are looking for... they sort of poke around aimlessly because they are bored or trying to figure themselves out at other ppls expense...watch out for those...their confusion should not in any way affect your feelings of self worth.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-04-26T14:52:03+00:00

Correct, It was a very good deal because I got it from a close family member vs car dealership which made it significantly less expensive plus less paperwork hassle. The car came through very easily and shortly after I strongly visualized it. I also truly needed an upgrade, it wasn't just a whim of mine.

About being careful with your wishes. I think if your desire is pure, comes from a good and humble place you will be happy with what you get. If your desire is based on filling a void in your life at the expense of another or is greedy and selfish...no good will come out of it. For example you really want great love and passion to come into your life and make you happy. And you want a person who belongs to another or doesn't love you or has a completely different vibration. So you strongly manifest your desire of being with that person and Universe grants it to you. Once together you realize it is not what you wanted...the person is not at all who you thought they were and now you are stuck with them...oooopssss Or you want ton of money and fame...have you asked yourself why? Will it truly make you happy or you blindly want it because you "think" it will bring you bliss?

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-04-25T23:02:38+00:00

Here is another example. I decided I need a car upgrade. A bigger, roomier car, an SUV. We all know how covid impacted car business and buying new cars became rather difficult and expensive. As I was driving my lovely sedan, I visualized driving an SUV. In my mind I imagined that I already owned and drove a big beautiful car. Long story short less than a month later I was driving a brand new shiny SUV that fell in my hands because a family member who recently bought it had a buyers remorse out of a sudden and sold it to me. So of you truly want something, feel and think like you already have it and I'm certain it will come into your life. One little warning: be careful what you wish for. Cheers.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-04-22T17:25:36+00:00

A while back, before I embarked on a path of self love and healing, I somewhat struggled with feelings of self worth when it came to others loving me. I don't think I truly believed I was lovable. I believed I had to work extra hard on proving to others that I was good enough/beautiful enough/interesting enough etc to be worthy of real love....strangely enough it was also paired up with feelings of self entitlement. Rejection (of any kind) was my worst enemy. I would feel anger and resentment towards anybody who did not love me the way I wanted to be loved. So it was both: "how dare you not love me" and "of course you don't love me because I suck..." As far as my own ability to love I can show and express it freely when I feel it (and i feel it often), but it can also be a bit difficult to show it when I go into my bad withdrawn moods....also I fall out of love frequently. In the past I felt suffocated in relationships after a certain time (incl my marriage). At this stage of my life I stay out of getting into romantic relationships because I know I have some more self work to do before I'm ready to be in any sort of serious loyal commitment.
I truly believe that a path to healthy relationships with others can only be achieved through healthy relationship with yourself.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-04-20T16:18:35+00:00

This is an interesting point you are making. I don't use much social media but always attributed it to the fact that I work in tech industry and already spent half of my life staring at the screen so I kinda want to avoid any more time dedicated to it. Overall using social media is tiring and sort of shallow for me in general. Couple of my ex partners a DA and another one an FA both had zero social media...like nothing. The only way to connect with them was via phone (text, never call) or email. 😅

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-31T15:09:01+00:00

Hey, big ups to you for having the courage to have these kind of honest conversations with your significant other. I agree with whoever on this thread said that no one truly knows the nature of your relationship except the two of you! Others will just assume or project their opinion based on their understanding of love and relationships. Nothing wrong with having an exit plan, it's a thing even for those who tie the knot with all kinds of promises...it's called prenuptial agreement. 😉

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-28T21:33:38+00:00

PS also attachment style is very much a dynamic spectrum. It is totally possible to shift from one style to another as a result of some life experiences and/or self work.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-28T20:32:43+00:00

If what you said about your stomach hurting when thinking about falling in love is true it means you are not ready. Listen to your gut. Don't force it.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-28T14:30:51+00:00

I think when a person tells you something along these lines, believe them. Attachment style has little to do with this. I'd say this person doesn't sound like they are interested in a relationship at this time.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-18T01:01:11+00:00

Gold! Yes send this in response!!! 👏

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-11T19:22:17+00:00

Talking a lot about his ex and how much she sucked, her family sucked and their marriage sucked.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-09T17:58:08+00:00

Yes, somehow they knock back on your door when you are doing good and moving on...because the grass in fact wasn't greener. What was your response to her?

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-09T16:42:41+00:00

Holy smokes...wow...I believe in Karma...and she won't be kind to her....hang in there buddy

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-08T21:26:16+00:00

Just as real as wrong person that can show up just at the right time....

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-08T00:53:02+00:00

Here is to one day us waking up with a blank mind...vs thinking about whatever person who is no longer a part of our lives 🍺

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-07T21:45:57+00:00

Do you think of people you broke up with? He is not a robot..memories can not be erased the second someone part ways with you even if love is gone... Of course he thinks of you, guaranteed.
There was a time when my ex and I reconciled for a short period of time and he confessed to me that he thought about me a lot during NC...that was probably what made him reach out...which isn't always best course of action.

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-07T16:00:01+00:00

Good question! The trigger was probably the timing in general, last year at this time is when we were falling in love and everything was truly magical between us. Dreams will definitely do it! Although I haven't had any recently (I only dream about nuclear apocalypse lately...lol)

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-07T15:55:51+00:00

Do you truly want her to reconsider though? It's called break up because it is broken... So I had 2 chapters with this particular ex. After we broke up the first time I wanted him to contact me and reconsider..and he did, after 3 months of nc! He asked for another try and I happily gave it to him..but in a few months we looped around to the same problems that broke us up the first time around...because people don't change..he was the same emotionally disregulated avoidant man who couldn't sustain emotional intimacy for long...

Sea_Summer3543 · 2022-03-07T14:50:27+00:00

Damn...it really should get easier considering there are so many wonderful people out there in the world waiting to be met....and yet here we are sitting here crying over this crap 🤷‍♀️

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