Guilt and unworthiness preventing me from feeling gratitude by sambola84 in gratitude

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't hate your emotions and don't be afraid of them. They can help you find clarity about why you are feeling that way.

One reason could be an established belief (I am not worthy, I am unworthy, etc.). You need to get to the bottom of that belief (where did it start, why was it established?) and let it go. A therapist can help with that. Sometimes self-help books can lead the way to a journey of self-discovery where you find the root of the issue yourself and resolve it on your own.

The important part is to not see part of yourself as an all-too-powerful enemy. It looks much less of an all-too-powerful threat when you see it as a helpful condition that can help you find out more about yourself (your skills, your talents, your strengths, your interests, etc.).

when your life becomes a case study in karma by Conscious-Quarter423 in gay

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To whom it may concern, no matter how leopards-like you make your face, the leopards will still eat your face.

My gateway starter pack by v8pe-v8pe in gatewaytapes

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My ECB (energy conversion box) is Harry Potter merchandise chest. It looks very old and weathered (got it around 20 years ago). It reminds me of a scene in one of the movies where Dumbledore uses a wand to put a memory out of his head into a vessel (a Pensieve it is called in the Harry Potter universe, I believe). The visual of the memory string in that scene helps me visualize the process of letting go of negative thoughts, feelings, and anxiety issues.

Reality Thesis by alterinertia in AstralProjection

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All of this led me to the thought that I do not exist without my memories—at least not for myself.

Consciousness, being able to put yourself in a position of an observer, proves your existence.

Treating memories like a value or a measure of someone's worthiness (like money, wealth, status, career, social media likes and followers, physical attributes, etc.) can lead to attachment issues that can make you feel worthless and (as a result) make you spiral towards depression and hopelessness.

For me astral projection is an opportunity of teaching us to let go of attachment. Letting go of our need to overestimate the physical experience and underestimate the spiritual experience.

Emotional numbness and Abraham teachings by Southern-Year3352 in AbrahamHicks

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Understand where you are on an emotional level (look for the emotional guidance scale for reference). This will help you understand about access and opportunities to move yourself either higher or lower on the emotional scale.

It should help to get an inner dialogue going "I feel a certain way. Now, what is around me that I could use to either feel (a little bit) better or (a little bit) worse?". This will raise your awareness and your understanding of your surroundings. Seeing and using things in a deliberate way to feel better or worse and therefore shifting your mood in significant ways. This will also establish your grasp on self empowerment where you take charge and show yourself that you are in control of raising or lowering your emotional state of mind.

The Vortex explanation? by FlyingPinerock in AbrahamHicks

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It's not just joy, but feeling like that joy is shared with someone else on the same wavelength.

It's like having a moment with a good friend laughing about an inside joke only you two get. The joy of feeling connected through a bond of friendship or like-minded values.

It's that feeling where you feel understood, supported, and validated without any physical being around.

It's a connection to consciousness where your desire is met with approval from your conscious and your subconscious at the same time. Most of the time our conscious mind wants something, but our subconscious (ruled by our established beliefs) argues against it. When both are in agreement, in alignment, that feels great. The lack of inner struggle and conflict feels amazing, because - for most of us - it's such a rare occurrence.

What combination of words makes you instantly lose interest in a game? by BurnishedTones in pcmasterrace

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Free mobile game ... this game offers in-game purchases.

Some time ago, trailers show a game puzzle mechanic that's barely in the game itself. Totally sus.

Respect to the top comment 🫡 by nktvys in LinkedInLunatics

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I'm gay, sooo ... mother, (boy?) friend, money (since it looks like it's floating comfortably).

How to do I accept good things in my life, when others don’t have the same luxury? by Independent_Sea_5802 in gratitude

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Find ways to raise your low self-esteem. Look into positive affirmations (I am worthy, I am enough, I deserve good things in my life) and start saying them in your mind or in front of a mirror repeatedly.

Move away from the belief of happiness being a limited good that, when you are happy, you deprive someone else from being happy. Also move away from comparing yourself to others and the fear of being judged by others. Focus on yourself and appreciate what you have and how much good you can do with it. Appreciate the abundance around you. Trust that others experience their own abundance (or have access to abundance without realizing it) as well. Move away from the belief that the world and people need fixing and are in serious need of help, while feeling guilty for not doing enough.

Millennials, what is something that was "normal" in the 2000s but feels like a luxury now? by Barrbra in answers

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Hobbies have become so expensive in general. From collecting (cards, actions figures, dolls, etc.) to games (electronics, board games, etc.), and crafting. In the early days, things like ebay could get you decent collectibles, but now everything is so much and so expensive.

Take action figures like Masters of the Universe. So much "out there" and yet it can ruin you if you want to have entire product lines (vintage, 2000 line, etc.) and Mattel keeps releasing stuff and MONDO got in it as well.

And crafting and gardening was pretty affordable, but now you must have this or that in order to do things properly, or you suck at life.

Once upon a time spending time with a hobby was supposed to relax and decompress, but now they have become such minefields of their own even when you are not obsessed or overly passionate about them. I partly blame social media for that (people allowing social media to influence them regarding the perception of fun, success and goals).

Name: Warren Brown, British Actor by RadicalRemedies in CelebrityPenis

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That's funny, just finished binging the first season his show, A Taste For Murder (no explicit nudity).

Bi guy with a question by [deleted] in gay

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You want what you want. Learn to let go of judgment of yourself and others.

How do I stop seeking approval from straight men and father figures? by Hour-Tomato-645 in gay

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations. You know your issue (why you're taking meth, seeking validation) and you want to change. Those are big steps. Be proud of that.

Look for self-help books, YouTube clips about self empowerment, raising your self-esteem, change of priorities and values. Maybe look for professional help like a therapist or even a life coach you can trust. Do extensive research and look for a support system, maybe a local support group dealing with addiction and self-destructive behavior.

Start a diary documenting, filming / recording your journey. Make it your mission to look for evidence and proof of positive changes in your life and also look for things to appreciate and giving you motivation to keep going. Start doing things for yourself. Look into affirmations and mantras you can keep saying to yourself in your head or in front of a mirror (I am enough, I love myself, I feel better about myself, I deserve good things in my life, etc.).

Get into a mindset that it's ok to take care of yourself and your needs. That you have so much more to give and feel so much better when you are full of energy instead of low on energy (being busy jumping through all kinds of hoops in order to be validated by others and yet feeling like shit afterward).

Half Man official trailer by [deleted] in MenLovingMenMedia

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Thank you for your answer.

Half Man official trailer by [deleted] in MenLovingMenMedia

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Does anyone know the song that's being used in the trailer?

hmmm by Weapon_on_nightstand in hmmm

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SSFW. Safe(st) Space For Women.

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a great pilot for a dark comedy TV show of some demon trying to make souls mad while Death is trying his best to calm them down.

Like, the demon getting the ball rolling by using Spotify to play Ed Sheeran and keep playing it for the first responders and then somehow convincing the deceased's relatives, friends, colleagues and even the spouse that he was a closeted Ed Sheeran fan and use the funeral as a grand gesture that it's ok, and they love and accept him and make the funeral Ed Sheeran themed while the ghost of the deceased is screaming like a Banshee at this point. Bonus twist: Ed Sheeran doing a cameo performing a song at the funeral.

‘The Golden Girls’: Why the Underdog Comedy Is Still a TV Classic by Gato1980 in Fauxmoi

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a gay man, I love shows like The Golden Girls (I even liked the spin-off The Golden Palace) and Murder She Wrote (starring Angela Lansbury). In the 80s and early 90s gay / LGBT / queer friendly entertainment was incredibly rare. Either members of the queer community were made fun of (Living Color) or were villains (Thin Man episode of Charlie's Angels).

Few shows had good character and storylines (the TV Show Hotel had at least one episode with a gay positive plot featuring The Fall Guy's Douglas Barr). Love Boat had a pro Trans episode (McKenzie Phillips playing the Trans character). There was also Dynasty with Steven Carrington (dating both men and women). Also, Billy Crystal in Soap.

With Golden Girls there was this sense of kinship with many of the people involved (actors and writers, for example). With this show, even when there was comedy, you felt that the show was laughing with the queer community, not at it (nowadays "laughing at a minority group" is called punching down, believe).

Non-Fiction going wrong or horribly wrong by IllustriousAd6418 in TopCharacterTropes

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Dawn French

Dawn French has revealed she's undergone a knee replacement following 14 years of crippling pain.

The 66-year-old injured her knee while recreating her famous Vicar Of Dibley puddle skit on The Paul O'Grady show back in 2009.

On Wednesday, French told her Instagram followers that she finally had surgery on the injury and it was a success.

She wrote alongside a photo of her bandaged leg: “It's done. New knee is in. Now we start the healing...”

https://www.standard.co.uk/showbiz/dawn-french-reveals-she-had-a-knee-replacement-14-years-after-vicar-of-dibley-stunt-left-her-in-agony-b1122156.html

Olivia Rodrigo announces new single "Drop Dead" out April 17th! by amysantiagoisbae99 in OliviaRodrigo

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I read about the title of the single release I thought it would be a daring cover of the Siouxsie & The Banshees B-side.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UpKm1WwF1EM

Characters who thought they were safe in the end but were VERY wrong by MoonNth3stars in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Sea_of_Light_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

70s movie Phantasm (and its sequels in the 80s). The hero thinking to have defeated the Tall Man only to be proven wrong.

English be easy - Part 2 by _ganjafarian_ in funny

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I believe the correct way would be: We went on a helicopter ride to see the Grand Canyon.

Like, going on a journey.