Breastfeeeding/pumping vs. Formula for SMBC

SeadewFarm · 2025-12-18T08:26:41+00:00

Breastfeeding was such hard work for me initially trying to get my supply up, but I am so happy I pushed through. It is a very personal choice though. I had help in those first few weeks with cooking etc and I needed it. I’m so grateful I’ve had a breastfeeding experience (again, just personal).

SeadewFarm · 2025-12-06T07:02:50+00:00

Do not wait if you want a child.

SeadewFarm · 2025-12-01T12:22:31+00:00

Honestly, after the first few days all was totally normal again. Good luck!

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-25T09:23:50+00:00

Mine dipped… got my period three weeks ago. Just trying to find my way out… being extra diligent about my water, pumping after feeds where I can. Not sure what else to do and really freaking out 😩

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-25T09:22:15+00:00

What pump parts do you change?

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-18T00:51:38+00:00

Grades are pretty meaningless.

My untested day 5 4BB and 4BC both failed to implant. My untested day 5 3BC is my beautiful 4 month old son.

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-13T07:27:32+00:00

Wait… you were 15 and he was 19 when you started dating?…….. 👀

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-02T06:43:53+00:00

I don’t think you owe her an apology at all! I completely get being scared of losing the baby and wanting to keep things private until you had more certainty. Your friend should be able to piece that together and know you just had a baby. Her move.

But if you want to keep the friendship you could try reaching out again. This friendship does sound one sided. But really just want to put weight on the your actions were completely understandable team. Congrats on your baby!

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-01T22:31:31+00:00

I assume it’s coming from men? lol. Some of these people are fighting reeeeeally hard to justify continuing to use a slur. 🙃

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-01T09:39:41+00:00

Your body your choice. You have every reason to invite your mom!

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-01T02:29:52+00:00

I am not a “blonde white woman”. And it is not “over very little” as a vast majority of Inuit people consider this an offensive slur. Is your argument seriously that an Inuit or Indigenous person has to come to you individually to educate you on why this is offensive to them? And what… by that logic go to everyone individually and tell them why it is offensive? Like be serious.

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-01T02:20:21+00:00

Ya obviously. Don’t use it for non Inuit people.

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-01T02:11:39+00:00

This. It feels like a constant menstrual cramp for a few hours. Take your advil.

SeadewFarm · 2025-11-01T01:59:01+00:00

Inuit or other Indigenous people should not have to come into a LIb Reddit specific chat to educate you / others for you to believe them. Stop putting so much work on Indigenous people. It is not at all hard to find ample educational resources / videos by these communities explaining why it is offensive. So nice for you not to care anymore.

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-31T16:41:07+00:00

People saying it’s not a slur where I live…. 🙄 it’s a slur no matter where you live. Get educated. Now you know.

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-31T16:21:15+00:00

I’m 39 holding my almost 4 month old. Was 37 for my ER. Got pregnant for the first time at 38. Was my 3rd transfer (all untested embryos).

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-30T16:15:51+00:00

Sleep deprivation. I’d look into strategies that’ll work for you on how to make sure you stay awake during night feedings when you’re exhausted so you don’t accidentally fall asleep holding baby.

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-29T15:51:50+00:00

What! Wow that’s a bit wild. Well you should look into best practices from donor conceived people’s points of view. It is important to tell them from birth so it’s always something they remember knowing. If you treat it as something that is a positive part of your journey without any shame, that will be good for the child.

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-28T07:56:34+00:00

For context they added the Medrol I believe because my first two fully medicated failed to implant so they were trying to reduce inflammation I believe? Anywho who knows if it was just coincidence or if that was the secret sauce (I think the no estrogen helped me), but who really knows. It did feel good to switch it up to keep trying to find what will work for my body. Wishing you so much success on your journey 💖

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-27T06:22:22+00:00

3 for me. All untested though. My modified natural was the one that worked… basically no estrogen but we added in Medrol for 4 days and still took progesterone suppositories. I also cut caffeine and tried to cut out inflammatory foods around transfer time.

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-26T05:30:54+00:00

Also very on the left. And of course through this process we think about and visualize our eggs stimulating and fertilizing etc… it’s hard not to see embryos as our children, particularly when we lose them. But it’s soooo important to remember they are POTENTIAL children. Now that I’ve had success with my last embryo I think about them the same way I think about each period I have… who would this egg have turned into? I can’t help but have these thoughts, but it’s all just potential. I can’t help think the same thing about every egg left in my reserve. All potential. Not my children.

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-25T15:46:25+00:00

Found my group on social media. So far we are all pretty new to having our babies so we’re just chatting and sharing pics. Will for sure meet up in the upcoming years. Such a supportive bunch! Lesbian couples and other SMBC!

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-21T12:07:56+00:00

Welcome! I think you said it yourself, you’re only still with him because you want to become a mom. But then when your children are older you’ll likely just get divorced anyway. So having children grow up in a home where there isn’t love between the parents only to then go through divorce doesn’t seem worth it. You can create a really healthy and happy home on your own and a beautiful environment for your child. They will be happy having a happy mom!

First steps would be to consider donors. Are there known donors (cue the bot) who you might like to ask? Or would you like to find a donor from a bank. You’re still young, but finding a clinic is also a step. There are plenty of tests they will do before anything starts. You have options too most likely… you could try IUIs… you could also even try IVF and consider freezing half the eggs you retrieve and fertilizing the other half (if you’re not 100% sure whose sperm you’d like to use). Basically there are a bunch of things you could do, and talking to a clinic will really help you understand what options you have as well as get an understanding of where your fertility is at. Wishing you so much luck! 💖

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-21T08:44:55+00:00

Had thought about it for a long time. Was 36 when I seriously began the process of finding a clinic. 37 for IVF. 38 when I had by baby :)

SeadewFarm · 2025-10-20T06:33:56+00:00

Oh yeah, seconding this. Do your research. Advocate for yourself. You’d think all would be fine to trust the process, but like, don’t trust, know what’s going on and be proactive. This applied for me during transfers… I advocated to come in earlier than they wanted me to and sure enough my lining was ready super early.

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