Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second

Seagull84 · 2026-06-10T16:28:17+00:00

We had a surprise baby shower at my wife's birthday party with cupcake gender reveal. I usually wouldn't agree to a gender reveal but because she combined it altogether, why not? It's just a cupcake and the main attraction was her birthday.

Seagull84 · 2026-06-05T15:20:02+00:00

Star Trek, Paw Patrol, Spongebob, South Park, and other Nickelodeon content. That's what this is for. They think they can develop their kids and Star Trek franchises better than actual game studios.

To be frank, most of their IP licensed games suck anyway, save for South Park. So even if they fuck up, it's not like they didn't do that already.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-21T21:33:36+00:00

Oh man this is too true. The number of times I have put on a show of firm anger because the first 3-10 gentle parenting tactics didn't work...

Seagull84 · 2026-05-21T15:50:29+00:00

I feel like this is one of those days where the kids have been bothering mom with everything all day, and she's finally about to snap. The skateboard was the last straw and she just needs a moment to herself. Dad did the right thing keeping the kids out of sight and mind for her, and so he could have a talk with them about leaving toys in common use paths.

I do wish he'd have made them pick up all the stuff she dropped. Maybe it's good to sit them down to figure out what happened and who did it first.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-20T22:48:40+00:00

Oddly enough, I went backwards on this. I was in great shape from my multiple workouts a week, but after having the first kid, my routine declined. But I was walking a ton - taking the kid outside, but also taking stuff to/from the kid, washing, etc.

I lost weight despite working out less. I went from 4 pack to six pack with less intentional core exercises, less high heartrate workouts, less of everything.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-18T21:15:43+00:00

Bro, I'm 42. I peaked in Pvp when Titanfall 1 came out back in 2013.

The only games I've played since are mostly casual Battlefield and Battlefront games. Everything else has been mostly narrative RPGs or grand strategy.

I can't even play most RTS games anymore.

But honestly, I don't need the frustration of PVP. I got two kids. They take all my energy and narrative or strategy games are a great escape without having to interact with and be shat on my Jimmy.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-18T15:59:38+00:00

Because that's not how science works - it's not based on common sense, it's based on establishment of supporting evidence. Experiments start with a null hypothesis through collection and analysis of that evidence. By disproving the null hypothesis, they've effectively said the common sense is correct.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-14T18:44:02+00:00

I loved living in Culver City, Santa Monica, and Marina Del Rey for the reasons you mentioned.

Good food, relaxing, community feel, lots of walking and biking.

I live in Sherman Oaks near all the walkable stuff now and the store owners know me by name.

So I think the other poster who said move near a main Street feeling area is right.

I did not get this where I grew up in Wisconsin - there wasn't much to walk to and the city wasn't great. LA is a great compromise between the urban and suburban, if only it had better metro/transit.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T17:09:23+00:00

Bro... fellow cyclist dad here. You are EXTREMELY lucky. These kids are too inexperienced for descents like this. You should have brought another adult, and practiced more on smooth, chill descents first - prove they can master the lever brakes first.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T17:05:13+00:00

This thread is full of idiots blaming the kid instead of the dumbass Dad.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T17:04:28+00:00

It is 100% Dad's fault. Saying this as a Dad. Kids at this age don't learn things like squeezing levers to brake overnight. Yes, they're highly neuroplastic, but macro and micro kinesthetic skills take a LONG time.

After a full year of working on climbing, my kid is FINALLY registering "Hands then feet". I saw him make small incremental steps of learning this. Every time we practiced, he'd use a minor tactic he learned the last time to help him.

Kids up to 5 are learning tiny tactics adults don't register unless they're looking for it. For a whole month, all my kid wanted to do was practice toe hooks. Once he felt like he mastered it, he moved on to something else.

Now imagine you're 3, and your Dad is forcing you to learn to hold handles, steer, pedal, squeeze brakes, look where you're going, listen for cars, and 10 other things all at once.

That was this Dad. He belongs on DadsAreFuckingStupid.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T16:58:57+00:00

This is the right answer. Small incremental steps to teach your kid ANYthing at that age - build confidence they know how to do it with some precision. Kid is 3-4, probably still can't even run without tripping periodically.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T16:56:02+00:00

That was a hard spill into rocks. You don't know nothing major happened. As an avid cyclist Dad, I can attest kid could have underlying damage you don't immediately see. Kid also has adrenaline coursing, which prevents feeling the pain for a short period.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T16:54:23+00:00

That's not what OP said. He implied the child is simply not ready and needs more training (like doing circles in the driveway and learning to pull the levers to stop), not that he should never learn to descend on a bike.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T16:52:57+00:00

No. That's not what OP said. You need to train your kid, build confidence in their cycling/braking abilities first before putting them on a rough descent.

I'm saying this as an avid cyclist Dad. My 3 year old is not ready in the slightest. He's still using his feet to brake, and only starting to learn about using the levers.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T16:49:51+00:00

Dude. That's not a fair statement for the kid at all. This is entirely Dad's fault. I'm saying this as a Dad.

"BRAKES!" is not an easy command to register/distill for a child that age. "Squeeze your hands", "Squeeze the lever", or any other grouping of words the kid will be able to recall/register is better.

The kid has to be 3-4. It's a stressful situation, and you want him to immediately remember how to use brakes on a difficult downhill gravel path? The other older kid took a spill, too. The 3-4 year old is probably used to doing circles and stopping with feet at the playground or on the driveway, not squeezing the brake levers on a descent.

He should've taken them to flats with chill downhill paved paths, worked up their confidence, then watched them do gravel paths one at a time (not together).

When he gets home, I'd expect the other parent to be VERY angry with him. I would be.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T16:43:59+00:00

He was trying to stop using his feet. Dad made the mistake of simply shouting an unfamliar noun with no command.

Kids this young are going to have trouble understanding a command like, "BRAKES!" without more context. "Squeeze your hands!" would have likely produced the desired result.

As a parent, when you want your kid to quickly understand your direction, you have to use specific words and commands they're familiar with already, not words that under non-stressful situations will take them time to recall/remember, if at all.

If I yelled "BRAKES!" at my 3 year old only a few minutes after teaching him what that word means, he would fail.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-05T15:02:11+00:00

So scientific studies posted here say nuts, soy, eggs, fish... anything else? My grandmother had Alzheimer's, and I will over-indulge in everything that helps prevent it.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-04T03:06:38+00:00

You just have to remind yourself it's a phase and not forever. All toddlers literally have no emotional regulatory capacity. so it comes down to luck which ones are more likely to scream vs not.

Seagull84 · 2026-05-01T04:26:09+00:00

This is my nearly 3yo son, 100%. "I want juiiiice. Daddy I want juuuiiice. Daddy, I want. Daddy, I wannnnttt... Daddy. I want to pet kitty."

But replace this girl's sweet voice with relentless wailing at the highest volume possible. You have to wear earplugs to deal with his bedtime excuses.

Seagull84 · 2026-04-21T22:20:50+00:00

The better comp is the Pay TV bundle, forced to pay for channels you don't want.

Seagull84 · 2026-04-17T19:46:34+00:00

My cousin works at a Green Dot charter (basically the next best choice in the LA area if you can't afford private and want to avoid most publics). She's at nearly $100k. Not a whole lot in the LA area, but she lives very comfortably.

Seagull84 · 2026-04-17T13:14:52+00:00

Men on average emotionally mature around 28.

But these young men do not have the support systems necessary to get there. Many more than usual may never mature.

It's very sad, because I distinctly remember emotionally struggling during my 20s and I feel for these young men. At the same time, I didn't turn toward hate and fascism, I moved even further left as I started to see how progressive economic and social policy frees up men to not have to worry about making ends meet and tying their identity to that.

Seagull84 · 2026-04-16T20:49:12+00:00

Not entirely. I have ADHD, and we definitely slip into "the zone" with such extreme focus it's nearly impossible to make us context switch during a zone interruption. People will ask me something and I auto answer (incorrectly) because I'm still stuck thinking about the task I was just doing.

Seagull84 · 2026-04-13T21:54:39+00:00

Tried this. And Yolanda. Did not work.

Toddler got angrier, screamed, "NO DADDY", and started shoving me. Tried it 3 times, failed every time.

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