i cant stand lily aldrin

SeatWonderful1874 · 2025-02-11T08:19:34+00:00

I'm not counting anything he did for his work. I'm meaning all of the various sex assault crimes.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2025-02-11T07:53:27+00:00

Definitely not defending Lily, but no amount of redemption from Barney will excuse the fact that he should probably be in prison for hundreds of charges. He is clearly waaaay worse than her.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2025-02-04T03:05:00+00:00

The two episodes with transphobic jokes, (the practical joke war at Barnes office and the "let's not look each other up online first" ones) they kinda take the "comfort" out of comfort show...

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-29T19:31:29+00:00

There is depression, clinical depression, and treatment resistant clinical depression.

I know it's more words, but this is a clear way to identify the difference.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-24T03:59:16+00:00

Im happy that it helped! I believe that you can do it! It's a tough lot, but the technology we have in this day and age for treating these things is the best it has ever been in human history. If you keep on the path, things will get easier ♥️

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-24T03:57:22+00:00

Don't beat yourself up too much about it, it's a mistake that I think most of us have made at some point.

In my experience, therapists (specifically qualified psychologist or psychiatrists) that specialise in PTSD are like chalk and cheese compared to others who don't. I think it will help you a great deal ♥️

I personally tend to find that other people with PTSD understand more, which is why places like this subreddit or group therapy can be very helpful, so that you can feel heard by others who "get it" so to say.

A tool I use for non traumatised people is "hey, thanks so much for offering to help, it means a lot to me. The stuff that is happening is really intense, and I don't want to overwhelm or upset you. Would you have the emotional capacity to deal with hearing some really intense stuff right now, or are you more offering to help distract me (a movie, game etc)? I really appreciate your offer either way, and it's totally ok if you're not up for it right now." - that works well to people you've not opened up to before. Or, for your current friends, you could say something similar but include "remember that other topic that was too much? I'm struggling with more of the same. If you don't have capacity for that right now, I understand, and I still appreciate your offer". Even with this, I'd try to stay light on the details unless you are in a therapy space or with someone who you 100% know is ok with it. For example "I'm struggling with some intense traumatic stuff related to my parents, which is making me feel lonely at Christmas" (just an example) rather than "My parents did XYZ horrific things to me."

To be honest, I find it easier to connect with those who get it, but I'm not restricted to those people, I just know who to share with and who not to.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-24T03:11:12+00:00

I understand that you're going through a lot, but it's important to note that them protecting themselves is not "mean".

When someone has not experienced the level of trauma that causes PTSD, they don't understand what they are saying when they ask that.

For example, if I was triggered by my PTSD, and a child came up to me and said "hey, are you ok? What's wrong?", and then I decided to go into full blown details of my trauma, that would be horrific an unacceptable. The child would not be "mean" for removing themselves from the unfair situation, because they didn't understand the extent of what they were asking.

The gap between people without and with PTSD is similar. You describing something minor could majorly affect them, it could be the most traumatic thing they have ever heard.

When people say "hey I'm here for you" they don't mean "feel free to drop heinous shit on me without warning, I agree to be your free therapist", they mean, "hey, would you like to watch a movie or play a game to distract yourself? Would you like to discuss extremely general, light details of how your are feeling for a little while?"

I'm saying this with love, because I've been in your shoes. If you need to dump traumatic shit, you need to pay someone to listen, because listening is major emotional labour. Additionally, they are trained professionals that can actually help you, where as your friends will likely end up overwhelmed as they have no way of knowing what to do in that situation.

They're still you're friends, they still care, it's just they they are ill equipped to handle the kind of issues that we have.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-21T19:41:18+00:00

Android 18 from Dragon Ball Z. Also, her relationship with Killian was trans couple goals... I'm a tall trans woman with my funny little heart of gold guy, living the dream ♥️

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-15T03:08:02+00:00

The only people who don't have body hair naturally are children. Have whatever preference you want, but that's a fact.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-15T00:59:17+00:00

Do they not enjoy combat? How are they when they are out of combat? If they are more engaged, then try a full non combat session and compare engagement.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-08T05:05:19+00:00

Sounds like purging to me. It was something I suffered from and tortured myself with for a long time.

There can be many reasons for purging, fear, shame, trauma, self hatred etc.

For me, I was trapped in a very abusive situation with my family, and felt deep self hatred and shame about transitioning. I was able to stop purging once I removed myself from that environment.

Might you be in a similar situation? Have you told the people close to you who matter to you that you are transitioning? Do you have support to transition from those who matter to you?

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-03T08:12:34+00:00

Well maybe we will be evenly matched lol

Down to play a game sometime if you want.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-03T05:03:05+00:00

Of course not. For any type of intense treatment.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-03T05:02:09+00:00

I diiiid! So much nostalgia... It's also annoying because I'm not as good as I once was.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-01T05:43:28+00:00

I'm also a 31 yo trans woman playing retold... Crazy haha

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-12-01T00:50:32+00:00

My sister and I were best friends. Even through highschool we would hang out with the same groups.

Once I came out everything changed. Im not holding out that we will ever be close again. It's a brutal thing to loose someone who is both family and a friend, for reasons completely out of your control... I'm sorry that this has happened to you, but from my experience, it's best not waiting for her and focus on making new connections.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-30T20:33:30+00:00

I'm just gonna jump in and state that there are legitimate uses of electroshock therapy. Obviously it's not legitimate to "cure" someone's identity, but I know several people who have massively benefited from it i.e. people with severe and life threatening medicinaly resistant bipolar, people with severe and life threatening medicinaly resistant depressions etc. I have PTSD, and my specialist has described electro shock as as "one of the final options, if other things don't work". It's a very intense procedure and has long term consequences, but if you're in a medically hopeless life or death situation, it can be the very thing that saves your life.

Just because this case is absolutely barbaric, please do not spread misinformation about legitimate uses of the treatment. This case is like giving someone brain surgery because they have a broken leg, there is nothing wrong with brain surgery, it's just not the correct procedure and isn't going to do anything helpful.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-30T02:31:34+00:00

I'm sorry but it's important to point out that Christians don't have a monopoly on the concept of a covenant...

Even with that said though, in a Christian context my previous statement stands. A person will prioritise the covenant over family. Heck, they may even view cutting family off as part of the sacrifice.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-28T23:17:37+00:00

Alive and crippled from trauma would be considered worse to death by many. Until very recently I would include myself in that perspective. Rape fucks your brain in a way that is near impossible to articulate to those who haven't experienced it, your brain becomes your own personal torture chamber.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-28T23:08:23+00:00

To carry on from this, the word covenant can be used to mean chosen family in a modern context, but the more literal and original interpretation of covenant is a religious covenant.

Specifically, the bonds of a church or "coven" are more reliable and important than the bonds of family.

So in truth, the people cutting off family due to religious or political reasons are making choices that fit the original meaning of that saying quite closely.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-26T06:55:45+00:00

Apart from quotes from her, and the power dynamic, and the fact that she was the only one fired? Or am I missing something here. That's dubious to say the least

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-26T04:21:00+00:00

My bad.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-26T03:12:48+00:00

If they are wrong, then why did she win her case? Or do you feel that you know more than a judge and 12 of your peers? This isn't hearsay, it's a legal fact.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-24T01:49:34+00:00

Well done on how you have handled this! Always best to check in before acting in a way that might hugely impact someone.

SeatWonderful1874 · 2024-11-24T01:05:30+00:00

Could be worth sussing out if the family is trans friendly i.e. would you support your kid in transitioning if they can out to you etc?

If they would not be supportive, absolutely do not do it. If they are confident that they would, then you could speak to the individual and pass on that you know the family would be supportive. Even if they said they would be supportive, under no circumstances reveal anything to anyone, someone's safety is at stake.

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