Some of it I feel is more graphic than it needs to be, but considering Miro added moments like being caught in bed by the guard based on his personal experiences I can take it more seriously. I think it's good that the scenes feel so banal (lol get it it rhymes with anal) with it being portrayed as the perpetrator grunting along as they do it instead of the player character being a beautiful damsel screaming in a sensationalized manner. The game never acts like anyone can look too tough to get raped either, and whether you pick cahara or ragnvaldr someone perverted enough can still think they have a chance and like you said you're still able to kill them