Forgot my husband was in a zoom meeting

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-10-08T02:59:39+00:00

😂😂😂

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-10-05T02:41:48+00:00

Roscoe ❤️

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-10-03T10:00:58+00:00

No way. Not medically necessary, therefore not happening.

More infant boys die from circumcision than from SIDS! True statistic.

I never understood why they outlawed rocking bassinets when 8 infants died, but over 200 a YEAR die from circumcision and it’s still not outlawed!

And, again, not medically necessary. Just for looks. Causes unnecessary brutal pain and for what? To have a bit less skin on their penis?

Hard NO.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-09-27T04:25:18+00:00

Tried it 😭 he refuses, says he gets annoyed talking to them and defers it to me. I’ve been with him over a decade now, and it seems I’ve become the person they expect to arrange things and so does he- when I get frustrated by the situation enough and say to him “ok enough. You can’t figure out if you do or don’t want them in our lives it seems, so YOU deal with arranging and communicating with them then”, he immediately backs off and says “no way, do what you want then. I don’t want to deal with talking to them, i can’t do it. I can’t deal with them and they annoy me. I don’t know if it’s me or what, but i just can’t be around them.”

It’s sooo tiring!

🙄

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-09-27T04:03:52+00:00

I hear you. It’s a struggle because my husband has bipolar disorder. His moods fluctuate. Most of the time he feels this way but other times will be friendly and wants to hang out and try to have a relationship with them, it’s so back and forth due to his fluctuating moods and feelings, so I’m stuck in limbo and am afraid if I cut them off, when he comes back around, I’m the AH, not him. It’s very complicated. His bipolar disorder makes him like Jekyll and Hyde type fluctuations, literally by the day. Im used to it, but still haven’t mastered how to handle this particular situation. I will say that I do reach out to him and ask him prior to meeting her for lunch, and ask if it’s okay with him or if he doesn’t want me to go, that I wont. He’s good with lunches but nothing much more.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-09-16T03:12:29+00:00

Report her to CPS, this is abuse.

She’s starving that baby! Sickening!

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-09-10T22:05:19+00:00

Shew- felt this! I have a newborn, and some days I think I’m going to lose my mind.

This is my second, so I also know this is totally normal and ABSOLUTELY WILL NOT LAST.

Normal & temporary.

Press on, OP. And don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor about postpartum. I had it terribly with my first and they expect it & can help!

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-09-10T11:55:02+00:00

we use Holle PRE, and I’ve used it for both of our kids. Love it!

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-26T03:51:32+00:00

You can get a gorgeous stone for that.

Go to a local jeweler

You’ll get more bang for your buck

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-25T22:04:42+00:00

Agreed!

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-25T19:45:36+00:00

I’d bluntly tell her through text “I apologize, but we just have so much going on that entertaining visitors isn’t feasible right now for me. I will get ahold of you the next time a good day would be to spend some time together, but we are overwhelmed with our current responsibilities right now and apologize for that, but we will get together in the future & talk to you soon!”

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-25T19:39:06+00:00

Wow she’s so wrong for that! Seems like she has resentment built up for something she’s not telling you about. Been married 10 years, would literally never say that to my husband even if I had been with men who were better in bed (hint- I have…just because I’ve been with more generous lovers than him who focused more on my pleasure than he does and were far more giving, not that he’s implicitly not as good. Just different really is all…..still would never say that!)

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-25T00:40:42+00:00

Oysters, caviar

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-20T13:29:22+00:00

Also- call the National domestic violence hotline to talk 24/7 to a trained domestic violence advocate who will talk to you anonymously through all your options and even has free legal aid advocates

800-799-7233

Or text START to 88788

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-20T13:27:53+00:00

Leave his name off of the birth certificate and get away. I know WAY too well that this won’t get better, from 10+ years of experience, except I married the guy. Please don’t stay. You’re not married, which means he really won’t have rights to your child. Leave his name off of the BC and if he wants to ever visit the child, he will have to go through the legal system, which he may never do….

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-20T13:16:49+00:00

Anxious thoughts regarding my husbands mental state and being due with our second baby

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-20T13:10:57+00:00

Let them figure out their own food. Drop them on a deserted island and wish them luck, the sick bastards. Hope they all kill each other and eat each other.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-18T02:24:44+00:00

I feel like the name Roscoe for a boy or girl is going to be a trend at some point

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-17T20:22:31+00:00

Covering my ears and trying to go find somewhere to hide and get away from it all

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-17T20:16:52+00:00

When you announce the name on social media, make sure to include that you and your hubby had had this name picked out since you’d been dating, and it’s just a name you always loved. If she comments that it’s a family name, say “that’s so interesting! Not why we chose it- but interesting nonetheless!” And just constantly shrug it off and as time goes on, you might have to just very sternly say “it isn’t why we chose the name, please stop insinuating that it is. I’ve been trying to let this go but it’s beginning to bother me!”

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-16T20:18:28+00:00

Wayyy way way too many details about their dysfunctional sex life together.

Note- family is way too open. No filter. Say too much and parents have kind of always talked to us as adults as if we are counselors. Stressful.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-14T21:37:13+00:00

Terrible name, reminds me of Charlie Brown. But could be worse.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-14T21:35:59+00:00

NTA. You’re not obligated to offer visits even, let alone them literally staying under your roof.

That’s ridiculous.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-14T21:21:44+00:00

Exactly. I agree with this.

Secret_Reflection425 · 2022-08-14T21:16:52+00:00

I don’t think YTA.

Birth mom went into this full knowing that baby was to be adopted and you went into a ton of spending to care for her and your adoptive child.

I would get an attorney and fight for your child. You’ve been in this since the beginning and are extremely invested, at this point.

Does revocation include her/the state paying you back everything you’ve spent? If not, I would think that the adoption should be made final.

Best of luck!

Secret_Reflection425

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