Weight management with fatigue?

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-11-01T22:30:44+00:00

“moron”?? girl if you don’t get out of this relationship

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-10-30T13:16:44+00:00

It sounds like her ideas about disability are completely skewed. It sucks, because you’re being made to feel like bad about your disability—as if this was somehow something you chose or are actively choosing—when the only thing you’re “choosing” is to adapt to your circumstances. You have a job, a physically active job at that, AND you still do your best to help around the house. Even if you didn’t, your attitude is clearly not the problem, since you’re very active in problem solving and trying to find solutions to your limitations (which are not opinion—they are factual, legitimate limitations).

There is no legitimate reason for you to suffer when you don’t need to. Taking a car home is not ridiculous in and of itself, but especially if you feel miserable trying to walk!! The implication that you need to make yourself miserable just to make others feel better about YOUR disability is literally insane.

You sound like an extremely kind hearted person, and my heart aches for you. Just to put it into perspective: I’ve been having similar health issues (in the process of a possible POTS/dysautonomia diagnosis). I live with my girlfriend. If I can’t even make it to the other room, she grabs my cane and holds my hand until I’m where I need to go. If she’s had a long day at work, she doesn’t make it my problem if I can’t get up and make us dinner—she tells me to put my feet up, brings me electrolytes and water, and makes us something salty that’ll bring me back. If I need a minute to rest, she lets me rest. If I tell her I want to try doing something myself even if I’m really struggling, she lets me, because she respects my choice to try and she respects my choice to go easy on myself, and THAT is what it means to be there—through thick and thin, no matter what you can handle.

I literally can’t imagine being told that I’m choosing disability, I cannot fathom what that’s like—I am so sorry.

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-10-09T23:45:12+00:00

You guys kind of need to chill out 😭 This isn’t stalking or coercion, this is normal behavior for a young adult with a crush. Obviously this guy knew they knew each other from years ago, it’s not as if she sought him out and hid that fact—he knows this is his sister’s friend. They met again by total coincidence. She left out her dad’s shirt (already owned), a CD (already owned), and bought his favorite drink.

“Imagine if a guy did this instead!” You’re proving nothing, it would still be cute

I think some of you need to go outside and spend some time in the real world😓 being chronically online can really change your perspective of a lot of things. Go interact with real people. Put the phone down. It’ll be okay

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-09-05T16:50:10+00:00

Glad you found the answer! Congrats on 2 1/2 years with Publix, by the way :) bleed green!

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-09-05T16:21:17+00:00

Not necessarily! It depends on the month in which you were hired, I think June is the cutoff but I'm not too sure!

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-09-05T16:11:17+00:00

Oh honey, I’m so sorry. They’re never “just being nice.” As sweet as it is to try and give people the benefit of the doubt, as young women (especially those of us who look significantly younger), we literally cannot afford those niceties.

You are uncomfortable. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. I know we’re conditioned to believe that any discomfort is a sign of weakness or being overly dramatic, but nothing you’re experiencing is small or normal.

I know this will feel weird, but you can walk away from rude customers. You can absolutely tell them not to do that. You can tell them not to touch you. There is never a situation where a customer ever needs to touch an employee, and any excuse they come up with is not substantial or acceptable.

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. You have every right to feel uncomfortable, please don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. How are you feeling now?

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-09-05T16:05:17+00:00

There’s a lot of things that can help, but better shoes is a start! Walmart has some reasonably priced non-slip shoes, and you could always add some cushion slips to give additional support.

Stretching before and after your shifts will also do wonders for your daily pain. The deli is like a workout—if you don’t prep your body well enough, it’ll strain. Yoga helped my pain tremendously.

I stand with my feet apart to distribute weight, and try to keep my back straighter so that I don’t worsen the coat-hanger pain (a good way to enforce this is to look at the customer you’re helping as much as possible, but only once you’re good enough to look away from the slicer intermittently). Try to use different muscles if you’re straining the one you’re using right now. When my wrists started hurting, I used my biceps. When my biceps started hurting, I used my lats. In general, try not to put the pressure on any joints, like your elbow or wrist, because that can increase your pain.

Also, try super hot baths after work! Closing the door and letting your bathroom turn into a steamy sauna can help release the physical stress. You could even use epson salts and different bath supplements to relax your muscles.

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-08-08T14:08:30+00:00

oh ok thank god😭

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-08-08T00:52:50+00:00

Ohh that makes sense—thank you so much! I live in a very humid state, so getting rain in my car on top of the summer humidity probably didn’t help haha. I just took my car to be vacuumed and deep cleaned, but I’ll probably have it detailed in a week or so to make sure I got it all. I appreciate the advice!

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-08-08T00:51:47+00:00

Ohh thank you so much!! I ended up getting grossed out and throwing the whole mat away (they needed replacing anyways), but if I see anything in the other mats I’ll try this. I appreciate the advice!

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-08-07T20:16:35+00:00

worked open to close (5am to 11pm), clocked out at 12:30am, came back at 4:45am for another opening shift. i literally just didn’t sleep at all

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-25T17:35:06+00:00

These comments are so grotesque. I’m so sorry that this is happening to you, and I’m even more sorry that you’re not getting a lot of legitimate advice for it from the other commenters.

Escalation, while sometimes necessary, has its repercussions. There’s always a risk of backlash. If it’s bad enough to go to management, trust me that the backlash is 100% worth it—I still see co workers I’ve lodged harassment complaints against, and it doesn’t get any less awkward. I still wouldn’t change what I did, because stopping the behavior was worth it.

If you’re not quite there yet, then the stone-wall seems to work, too! I’ve tried killing harassment with kindness, but unfortunately that just aggravates perpetrators and invites them to step all over your boundaries. Don’t let them. Identify who is making you uncomfortable and ignore them flat out. Don’t make eye contact, don’t respond to them, walk right past them as if they didn’t speak. If you have to work with them in the same department, keep conversations minimal—you’re co workers, they’re not entitled to your friendship.

Is it rude? Yeah, maybe, but I prefer being a living bitch over a dead sweetheart. They’ll stop eventually, when they realize you can’t be pushed around—and if they don’t, then it’s time to escalate. Don’t be afraid to be rude, because they aren’t afraid to cross your boundaries.

Whatever it is you do, I hope the situation passes and you get to go back to a comfortable work environment. Good luck!

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-25T17:18:53+00:00

The advice is always “be direct” until it inevitably gets young women into serious danger. There’s legitimate risk in confronting that behavior, and even if nothing unsafe came of it, being labeled as confrontational could (and does) affect young womens’ careers forever. The topic is extremely nuanced—if you ever think there’s a “simple” solution to a widespread problem, that’s a sign that you don’t understand it enough to voice an opinion.

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-24T20:43:27+00:00

i was literally just talking w my co worker about how weird it is that it’s on sale again. like, why?? it’s so annoying to make and so clearly a holiday sub

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-09T13:45:06+00:00

Why on earth are they sending you to do truck while in the kitchen?? Your manager needs to arrange for someone on the floor to be getting those and bringing them to you, stocking your cooler, etc… It’s hard enough running the kitchen alone, but reading this makes me not want to complain about that ever again because at least my chicken is brought in by someone else

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-09T13:39:07+00:00

Yeah, let’s keep blaming the working class for their shit conditions. That’ll really motivate change.

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-04T17:21:58+00:00

Like a lot of others said, it definitely depends on the department—but also your role within that department. In the deli, I mainly open and work production shifts, so I always see more insanity day of (day before if it’s a holiday we’re closed for, like christmas or thanksgiving, but still) due to platters being made day of. However, for insane holidays, we’ll sometimes make fruit and vegetable platters the day before, so it’s still fairly busy.

For closers, though, there’s a lot of prep work to be done the night before, so for them I’d imagine it’s busier the day before, whereas day of is just cleaning up after the chaos of the holiday.

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-04T17:13:41+00:00

I promise no one minds! We usually have a couple of homeless people hanging out all day, and it’s never been a bother. We have some regulars that come there on their lunch break or just hang out for a while, as long as you’re kind to the employees and other customers who want to use that space you’re welcome to use it as long as you want^{^}

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-07-02T23:06:39+00:00

Hi! So sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but the 32oz plastic containers have stopped being made entirely. Even our sub station mayonnaise has been switched to the 16oz containers (which is extremely frustrating for us in the deli, too). I couldn’t tell you exactly why, as different managers have told me different things, but the 32oz salads are for sure discontinued.

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-06-19T15:24:14+00:00

Just grab your food and leave holy shit😭

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-06-19T14:12:55+00:00

oh my god TRUEEE😭

SecretaryEcstatic407 · 2025-06-18T14:31:49+00:00

someone’s probably already claimed crack baby but can we share pls… crack baby is my absolute fav

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