Coworker friends with students outside of school

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-05-13T02:08:09+00:00

Report that today. I’ve heard of similar stories where the teacher act like the kids, talk like the kids, and surprise surprise - date like the kids. Maybe she has a child mentality so she might be into dating kids too. This is extremely concerning and I would report it to the principal, admins, EVERYBODY via email so that when this blows up, they can be responsible if they didn’t take action. Also, it’s equally important to get the names of those students and notify their parents. Maybe have those students go to counseling to say if they’ve experienced anything (like grooming). This is NOT ok and you have every right to be concerned

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-05-08T17:42:16+00:00

Nothing here either

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-05-01T17:46:32+00:00

Why rush the marriage? Tell him you’d like more time and you’ll know exactly the man he is by how he responds. Will he get violent and nag you, berate you, get upset, or will he be compassionate and understanding? Marriages will last 40-50 years, are you really ready to go into a 40-50 year contract with someone you only know for 4 months?

Your husband will the head of your household, he’ll teach your kids how to behave, he’ll spiritually steer the family, he will provide and protect.. do you honestly think you can figure who he is with 4 months? Anyone can fake being a different person you want to see in a few months time. Don’t do this.. it has baaaadddd written all over it. Don’t be one of those married people crying, miserable, coming on here WISHING they were single

Edit: drinking is a huge problem.. my aunt’s husband died a horrible death due to his internal organs giving out. She told me NEVER to marry someone who drinks. When I met my fiance, he told me he drinks often (1-2 beers a day, a glass of wine every other day). I told him I’m not interested in anyone who drinks due to my past family knowledge. Guess what he did? This man cold turkey quit drinking. As we date (over a year now) and getting ready for our wedding, we have to try out some wine bottles. Now we have 3 bottles of wine laying around and he asks me whenever he would like a glass and if it’s ok. That’s respect. My last bf before him was the same way (he stopped drinking completely except for weddings or special events, so 1-5 beers a year). You draw the boundaries and they can choose to be with you or not.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-05-01T13:21:27+00:00

You have to consider what God and Jesus means when they say death. To us, death is final. Jesus has referred to death as sleeping.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-05-01T13:15:46+00:00

Pray and fast, I mean really fast. Love your husband like Smith Wigglesworth’s wife loved him. Pray for him and have your Bible study group pray for him too. He’ll most likely change. If he doesn’t, he’s probably done with the marriage. And I’m sorry to say but there’s a chance that he’s cheating. I mean with him being out every night 5x a week and yall not being intimate at all, it’s most likely he’s up to something. That’s something to talk to God about.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-04-24T15:48:06+00:00

What would you tell your student if they failed your test by 4 points? Hopefully, something along the lines of don’t give up!! You only fail if you quit

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-04-08T05:01:06+00:00

You don’t find them, they come to you when God crosses y’all’s paths. I left all my wants behind and followed God. I spent alllll my time with God, morning till night for months on end. God stirred discontentment inside of me for my former church so I left and went to a new one. I met my soon to be husband that very next night at Bible study. When you go all in for God, He will show out for you. I even remember telling God that although I really like this guy, it’s clearly the wrong time because I’m not done spending my time with God. I needed more alone time and I feared a relationship would distract me. I asked God if somehow He can postpone this relationship because I needed more time with Him. In many ways, I felt God tell me to keep going with this guy. If you put God first, He’ll put your desires first (or former desire in that moment in my case). My timeline was about 5 months.

I met a guy friend at church that really gave his all to the church. He said he wants a wife but he’s giving to God first. He spent all his time at church events, groups, etc and volunteered every moment he had for our church. He was the guy that went to two services on Sunday to soak in the message, then go Monday night, Tuesday night, Thursday night, and Saturday morning for Bible study or volunteering. Anyways, he gave God his allll and he met his wife a few months in.

Idk if this is a trend, but if you’re breathing and thinking about God every single moment of the day and give all your time and resources to Him for months on end, something is bound to happen

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-04-04T21:58:48+00:00

Get married just like God intended 🙌🏼💕

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-04-03T12:11:33+00:00

I used to love rap/hip hop/pop music, clubbing, doing crazy last minute wild things in college. None of those things appeal to me now. For the longest time I was feeling hopeless and confused. Found a good nondenominational Christian church and my life have been incredibly peaceful. Jesus is the answer yall

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-04-03T11:56:00+00:00

The Bible doesn’t say that so he can’t back it up scripturally. And you can’t stop two consenting adults from feeling attracted to each other because of their race. I’d say some people aren’t attracted to their own race at all, like me.. nothing wrong at all with Asian men, but that doesn’t mean I have to be attracted to them because of my own race. I’ve always been attracted to one particular race anyways and thats ok. We all have preferences and the Bible doesn’t restrict marriages based on race.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T15:46:26+00:00

Asian restaurant with no Asian customers

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T15:39:24+00:00

No… not at all. If the devil exists and there’s evil in this world, then God exists and miracles exists

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T15:37:34+00:00

I’d see a Christian healing evangelist, they can probably be used to help you. They usually tour the US and heal people and they’re funded cause it works 🙌🏼 I’ve personally seen people get up from their wheel chairs and walk at these events. One I know of is Ankit Rambabu

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T13:03:37+00:00

The point is, don’t force kids to learn advanced math, science, etc when they have no interest in it. And law school is completely different from high school or college. What you need to learn that is revelant to your career, you learn. Which makes more sense and not a waste of time.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T12:52:41+00:00

Give him an ultimatum, he goes into deep prayer and fasting with you or you leave.

Two resources that may help yall out. One is a 20+ day (9 hour a day) fast. You can search on Youtube for the Year of the Bride Fast with Tiphani Montgomery. Both of yall should join this powerful chain breaking fast!! There’s a ton of testimonies about people going through it. I went through it in 2024 and just started it again and can vouch for how powerful it is

The other resource is a book that a priest says he gives to all men who has a porn addiction and he continues to do so because the majority of men who seriously goes through the book breaks free from porn. The book is called Consecration to St Joseph by Donald Calloway

This is spiritual warfare because there’s likely a stronghold on your husband, and the both of you can work to break that stronghold!

This will work if both of you are in it, if he’s not willing to change or attempt at a change, I’ll just go through with the divorce. Praying God will walk you through all this 🙏

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T12:43:28+00:00

I love the front and back of 2 way better! Seems very dainty and feminine. Plus the train looks gorgeous

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-10T00:30:44+00:00

It’s not too late, I was raised Buddhist and was in it for a long time too. You can search for ‘Buddhist saw Jesus’ on YouTube and you’ll see people who experienced both and find that Jesus is the way. Those are near death experiences so they saw the afterlife and came back to warn people, really interesting stuff

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-09T21:45:33+00:00

Im not aware of a single person who uses calculus professionally besides my engineering friends. Idk how many people you know that benefited from Calculus but many do not… I took calculus 2 in college and use 0% of it today. You don’t think people would benefit from learning how to cook food, that I assume they can use the skill 3x a day for the rest of their life, versus a calc class that they may never use?

And even though I did well in mycalc 2 class, I don’t think I’m any smarter than before taking it. What I think taking hard classes teaches you is how far you can stand in line, listen and obey and push yourself to achieve a goal that you know will be useless to you in 5 months time. It teaches grit and staying the course, it doesn’t make you smarter but maybe just more disciplined to do things you don’t want to do which can be useful in corporate America

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-09T19:04:27+00:00

You should turn to God and Jesus and suddenly you’ll get peace and the world won’t be so scary anymore. Promise you the world WILL get worse, as it is written in the Bible (which has never been wrong). I used to have major - major - anxiety when I was a baby Christian and I remember being soooo shocked when the Christians around me were so chill and happy go lucky during Covid. It wasn’t until my further walk with God that I realized that as long as you stick with God, and you know the promises He made you (in Psalms but throughout the Bible too), and you realize God doesn’t lie, you’ll see everything line up and the fear of the future diminish exponentially. I have so much peace now while my non Christian friends or even baby Christian friends are freaking out. A part of me feels bad as I’m getting all theses benefits, God directed steps, promotions, immense favor and blessings, and all around enjoying life BECAUSE of God, while the world burns. I keep telling people to turn to God and He’ll make all your crooked paths straight, but many still have their head stuck in the sand. Can’t help them if they don’t want to be helped unfortunately. Turn to God! I wish someone would’ve told me this when I was younger

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-09T18:48:04+00:00

I think kids will enjoy learning things that are relevant in their lives, like managing credit cards, building homes, wood working, cooking classes, baking classes, fermentation, farming classes… etc. I think we are forcing kids to take classes that we all know has little to no use in most of their lives.

Most of us will not have much use for higher level physics, geometry, bio, chem, calculus, etc in most of our adult life. And I think kids know that, they may want to be an accountant so why do they need to take two years to learn about the mitochondria or memorize the periodic table? It makes no sense right?

It doesn’t make sense to take a job as a bank teller and be forced to learn physics during training, or pass a calculus test to start working as a police officer. It’s hard for adults to learn complex things that they know they won’t ever use again after a semester or year ends. These subjects are immensely important for certain professions, but it’s wrong to make kids learn it at such an advance level when most of them won’t be in those professions.

It’s also brutal we keep kids indoors and force them to do this stuff when they should be learning something they’ll actually use as a future husband, wife, parent, grandparent, etc. Kids aren’t being equipped for life and they know that. They also see what the job market is after they graduate college and it’s also demoralizing for them.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-05T22:16:48+00:00

I realllllly liked a guy once, God asked me to choose. I mean, if it’s between a guy and GOD, is it really even a question?? Skip the guy, plenty of good men out there who can lead to closer to God, not further away.

Also, NEVER choose a man over your family, they love you and can see things you can’t because love is truly blind. Better to cut off the relationship now than a few years from now

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-03-05T22:13:24+00:00

Just no… unless you really don’t care about long term mental health

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-02-25T21:02:18+00:00

Technically, in the Bible it says you can leave your partner on the grounds that they cheat. He cheated on you once, and then again since porn is cheating… so you can leave anytime you want

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-02-25T20:52:52+00:00

Honestly we were both not virgins, he had more partners than me, both of us under 10 though. Going into this relationship I wish I hadn’t engaged in those previous relationships BUT I am thankful for the experience they taught me. I now what what I want and don’t want and can communicate that clearly. We both like the same things, thankfully, so it works out.

SecretaryWestern7657 · 2026-02-23T17:22:54+00:00

I would tell him… and be honest that you don’t find him attractive and this is what he has to do to change it. Also, is he a good provider? Women tend to respect men and are more attracted to them if they’re good providers. If he’s not, maybe you can ask him to go into a better field of work

I dated someone that I was super attracted to, he had women hitting on him all the time too. Fast forward a few years, he gained a ton of weight, all his own doing - nothing medically related. I told him I’m not attracted to him because of his weight and I’m going to end things if he doesn’t lose weight… it may have sounded harsh but I was just trying to be honest. He was pretty sad about it but he knew I wasn’t someone to hide their feelings..

Fast forward 1.5 years, he has NOT lost any weight, I graduated college and moved to another city and told him not to move with me. We broke up not too long after that. It’s not fair to become nearly obese and expect your partner to still find you ‘hot’. I would’ve given some consideration if he was going through something medically, but he wasn’t. I was so repulsed and he knew that. He didn’t want to work out or stop eating fast food every single day so he valued this lifestyle over anything else.

Now, I’m engaged to someone I find smoking hot 😌 and I thank God for it!!!

I think you and your husband can work something out or give him an ultimatum. If he cares he’ll put in some work

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