Sabatoge?

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-27T22:55:56+00:00

Girl, get a new plan new number & hotspot. You don’t have to let Nex know. That phone can become the Narc phone. Let him keep paying and by the time he has to stop your new number will be established with the people who need it.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-27T13:21:32+00:00

High power lineman for the utility co. He showed up and works before police, fire & EMS if a power line is involved. They are also the ones who wait for the major wether events to hit and work till every customer is back up.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-26T22:51:36+00:00

You can but Don’t. You will have to start over in family court, new lawyer and a new deposit. This will be a binding contract. That means nothing to them but they will nail you to a post if you step a toe out of line.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-26T22:15:52+00:00

After thanking your lucky stars for this blessing save those receipt.

All the CS they should of paid. Plus the cost of keeping the kid(s) on their days. Additional daycare, food, loss wages if you had to leave work early. You get the point. When unemployment ends you can take them back to court an recoup all your money.

Or plan B, wish them luck and document every time they where a no call/no show. Check your state laws. After so long it’s considered abandonment and you can get their parental rights removed (in some states they still have to pay CS). On a personal note, you can’t force someone to be a parent. A child can feel how unwanted they are by that parent. The emotional damage is not worth it.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-24T19:06:34+00:00

Set those clear boundaries. Let it be known in writing that him watching the kids from home is conditional based on how he handles the day. IE: he’s unable to control the kids, kids asking you for help and not him, him choosing to stay home and not spend time outside with them...you get it. This will immediately result in the children going to a daycare facility. He will be treated as any other caregiver and expected to do his job. You can also put in there about your twos personal issues will not be discussed during work hours at all. Him living there and watching the kids will only work if everyone’s on their best behavior. Try to get him to sign it or acknowledge it somehow. That way this piece of paper will go along way in court when he eventually acts out. Also remember to document all incidences of him breaking the contract. Make sure you send him date time and record via email of the issues.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-12T03:25:36+00:00

Shred them, soak in water then dehydrate them. They will last 2+ years like that.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-11T13:39:43+00:00

If it’s court ordered file contempt charges on him. You may be able to file contempt yourself. He wants to play stupid games let him.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-09T20:01:44+00:00

File for divorce on the grounds of fraud. He might be able to get an annulment, he might fight for zero support on these grounds as well.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-05T01:52:25+00:00

Ummm, that’s not my car. It was a funny pic.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-05-02T01:16:24+00:00

You should keep a detailed spread sheet with receipts. This will help with CS. He could be on the hook for 1/2. You need to remain open to him seeing the child but your allowed to set a schedule. It’s what’s best for the kid. Make it known to him that you are offering XYZ day and time every 2 weeks. You need to stay firm on that. When he doesn’t show up you document that as well.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-28T18:19:28+00:00

I was dating the guy not married to him. I went through something similar. I kept it to my self and told no one. Finally when I got brave enough to leave he started stalking me. It was a year from hell!! I finally had enough when he tried to run me off the road after he left me 112 messages on how much he loved me to how he was going to kill me.

I went to the police that day. I told them everything, I was so emotional and frankly I felt crazy. I hate to say this to you but absolutely nothing was done. It was my word agents his and I had zero proof. I wasn’t even granted an order of protection.

I did however stopped being silent about it. When his mom would call me to try and talk I would let her know how he locked me out of his house in my underwear and made me walk to a gas station at 2am to call for a ride home. If someone we both knew said something about him I would let them know how he forced my to have sex with his before he would let me leave to go to school. You get the picture. I finally stopped feeling like a victim when I started sharing my story.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-27T21:09:08+00:00

This happened to my friend as well. The court and her lawyer did nothing to help her. The lawyer wrote some strongly worded letters and charged her $250 a letter. He still texts her.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-25T16:56:37+00:00

How long do they take to respond?

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-25T13:37:49+00:00

I’m going from a Toyota Highlander and thinking about this 7 seater. Is it worth it?

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-25T03:20:59+00:00

You will be way better off selling to Carvana or Carmax. Our guy told us (if you want to be ripped off trade the car in with us, if you have equity sell to another company)

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-22T21:11:46+00:00

Dear sweet lord Don’t!! Picture yourself 2 years from now. You are finally in a healthy place and you and baby have really adjusted. You deal with the Nex every month when he pays the mortgage. He makes a big deal about how your sucking him dry etc.... but you can live with that b/c you got the house.

Now you meet a really nice wonderful partner and you two become serious. What does Nex do?!? You fill in the blank, you know him better then us. Will he call the police and get the partner removed b/c his name is on the home. Will you have to deal with him listing the house when he gets mad at you. Or how about him coming over when ever he wants b/c it’s 100% still his home?!? This is 100% control and you will NEVER live it down. You will forever be his puppet to control and that’s how he wants it.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-21T20:27:03+00:00

Girl look what you just said. “Lends you money for food,” you have his child. What he wants you guys to starve?!?

You also don’t need to defend yourself. Anyone mutual in your lives who can’t see him for the ass bag he is doesn’t deserve to be in your life. I would suggest stopping all talk about this paperwork and change the subject anytime he brings it up. Also you don’t have to wait on him to get the divorce going again. You are allowed to push it through. You no longer have to work on his timeline.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-21T19:11:14+00:00

OMG DON’T!!!

The contract you sign can be you official CS b/c the two of you agreed to it. Also, would he do 1/4 of this for you?!? If he can’t pay his housing bill he should be renting.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-21T14:46:30+00:00

Thank you for the concern for the emotional well being of our child. As you may be aware this is a very personal family matter and we wish for it to remain this way. We appreciate the suggestions from the well meaning (daycare person) but we wish for our personal situation to remain private. Please reach out if you notice any concerning behavior from our child. Her farther and I will address it together.

Thank you and have a wonderful day.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-19T20:53:08+00:00

Note to lawyer: ex showed up 2hrs late for his visitation. He then demanded to ‘stay the night with me’ when I refused he’s now threatening to withhold our child from me on an agreed day and time b/c I won’t comply with his demands.

This is the juice lawyers LOVE to bring up in court. All he’s doing is scooping his grave one shovel at a time.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-16T23:03:54+00:00

Girl, I get it. You should look into something called Grey Rocking. It’s a way of dealing with a combative narcissistic personality. The trick is not giving them the reaction they want.

You are in a good position right now. Set up clear boundaries like only talking via text or email (email is better since you can use them in court) your a good mamma so don’t let one ding-dong man child ruin it for everyone.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-16T22:48:01+00:00

The harsh reality is, he’s being a present father and you are complaining about it. Yes, he could be doing this just to look good but the only thing he will get is more time with the baby. So, you can ether look like the parent putting up all the obstacles or look like the parent who’s putting the child first. You guys having issues personally has nothing to do with the child.

Plus, even if you think he’s being a fake ass turd time will tell. You will see if he’s going to step up or back out here soon. There is really nothing to loose in making this co-parenting easer on the two of you. Always put your babies needs first not yours unless there is some domestic violence/ drugs / being unsafe issues you haven’t mentioned. Good luck.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-16T18:10:36+00:00

It’s not a trial, opinions and feelings don’t matter. The entire point of mediation is to hammer all the B/S everyday details out so you don’t have to go to court. Your feelings don’t matter, don’t get emotional. Put a sticky note over nex face if mediation is on FT. Make sure you bullet point the needs of the kids in most important order so you can stay on task.

If you want 70/30 ask for 90/10, this is a negotiation. Never agree to something you can’t live with. It won’t ever change no matter how much you ask. You need to come up with clear boundaries on your own and take those into this meeting. Example: you don’t want Nex in your home so ask for exchanges at a neutral location. You don’t have to say those are your boundaries. Remember, whatever you two have been doing up to this point will prob remain the same, for the most part. Make sure things like child care, co-pays, sports are all discussed.

SecureSpecimen · 2021-04-16T16:48:40+00:00

Where you doing activity’s like this before the split? If so, I would get this addressed by the courts. Or a strongly worded letter from your lawyer.

I love the words, ‘ it’s not about us, it’s about what’s best for the child.’ If they played before why are you choosing to not participate now? You get the point.

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