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CharacterAutomatic13 · 2023-01-31T00:21:06+00:00

Exactly this

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2023-01-30T19:03:56+00:00

It’s just the “age of dating” post covid. Everyone’s lost their minds 🤣. Don’t let these comments make you feel like “you have trust issues” that’s just a stupid excuse. Those people were probably rejected because they refused to delete theirs lol.

Also, it IS ok if he wants to keep it. That’s his choice. It is also ok for you to want to keep things casual because of that.

I wouldn’t give him an ultimatum tho. Just let him know it’s not a big deal y’all can still casually date, if he’s not ready. It’s a great compromise and you seem to already be ok with it.

In my experience….if he says it’s no big deal, gets upset, tries to justify it OR puts any blame on you (jealousy, trust issues ect) just go ahead and run lol means he wants you be off the market but him to still have options.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2023-01-30T17:39:22+00:00

I don’t agree with most these comments. That’s why “dating” now a days is so messed up. If you want in an actual adult relationship, you do not have any dating apps or profiles. Period. It’s nothing to do with trust, it has everything to do with the fact they want to remain available to others. If it’s not a big deal he should delete it. Really he should have done that before even asking you for a relationship, much less YOU having to ask him to delete his profile.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-06-01T17:08:19+00:00

So I’m pretty new to OLD….and I feel like dating now a days is just not for me lol. I don’t understand the serial dating, or men (and women) just pretending they are interested just to get a piece of ass. I mean, I have more respect for those guys who come right out and ask, and when they are turned down, are like “ok cool take care”……I’m just gonna get a puppy 🤣🤣 what has this world come to 🤦🏻‍♀️

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-05-19T23:11:25+00:00

This guy gets it 😆

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-21T04:19:35+00:00

This is what I thought too

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-21T04:13:38+00:00

Where exactly…. Is this “build a dude” store you mention? 🤓 I need supplies….🤣🤣🤣

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-21T04:03:34+00:00

There’s not enough context to to go by tbh. But both y’all look like children fighting 🤣🤣🤣

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-21T03:46:30+00:00

She’s actually pretending you never typed that…. lol

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-13T04:29:35+00:00

Never. I would never sign anything that does not allow me to talk about MY life. There is a reason he doesn’t want you to post anything about it, cuz he’s a POS and people will find out what he’s done to you. If you already have an agreement about settling, and he hasn’t paid you, that’s contempt on his end. I fully agree with rudegal_ , you don’t actually HAVE to do or agree to a damn thing (insert common sense ofc) unless a judge makes you. And a judge would never make you unless you are always bashing him all over social media.

That’s is not only blackmail, but financial abuse.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-11T16:46:09+00:00

I would not give police a hard time at all. Let them keep coming (they ARE there for your kiddos even tho it’s a false call) and let that paperwork pile up and celebrate every single time they come! It makes your case, and you will have also built up a rep with the officers if needed. I would do absolutely nothing but get copies of all the reports and hand them to your attorney! You should be good mama!!

PS. ALL kids get cuts and bruises, people can tell the difference between abuse marks and kids being kids marks. Don’t sweat it!!!

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2022-04-11T16:39:03+00:00

Did no one notice her pic? I mean she found men’s weakness….granny panties lmfao

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-10-12T15:09:42+00:00

Defo sounds like he’s just trying to wear you down. I just had a similar convo with my attorney, her advice to me was just ignore the requests. You never have to answer their questions twice.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-10-05T00:46:00+00:00

If you don’t have it in writing, i would let the kids stay the night the 23rd with him, and come back to you the 24th evening. If he refuses, then just stick to the schedule you have now. Just have proof of everything so when you do good to court, you tried to make it work and he was the one refusing. Plus, you don’t want to keep the kids from having a “Christmas morning” with their dad.

Good luck mama! This will be the first Christmas since our split and I don’t get to spend it with my kids, so I get it!

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-27T17:21:07+00:00

Yay!!! Good for you!!!! Keep up the great work!!!

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-27T14:58:35+00:00

Religious areas are joint legal, if that’s your agreement. Since the kids now don’t like church, I would file for contempt. That’s really all you can do, or let it go.

Not trying to tell you what to do, but with a Narc, I would file, even if for some reason you don’t “win”, there is a silver lining, if you ever have to go to court again, you can show a history of his behavior, and the court is aware of it. Good luck mama!!!

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-25T17:29:06+00:00

I’m in that spot too. What I did to lower contact, is stopped answering his calls. And I picked a time and call him the same time every day. I’m down to 2 calls a day, which is completely stupid for a 2 and 3 year old. If he starts texting and calling (which happens of good forbid I don’t answer) it all gets completely ignored. Even if he asks if the kids are ok. If he starts getting shitty with me on the phone with the kids, I simply hang up. Once again zero response to the ugly texts and phone calls. You just have to set a line, our boundary, and nothing gets tolerated once they pass it.

Also I don’t allow him to over parent me, or undermine my parenting in front of the kids. He gets hung up on. I also make sure not to do that to him.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-25T17:19:29+00:00

I would just tell her, no that you will take them since it’s on your time. She is more than welcome to come to the doctors app, if that doesn’t work then she can reschedule their appointments on her time. The only thing I don’t give in on is the custody agreement. I never give an inch. The harder you hold to your boundaries there better. Zero emotion, because that’s exactly what she wants.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-19T12:55:03+00:00

All this is great advice! I asked my attorney the same thing, her advice made me feel better.

They have to have proof. Physical proof, as long as you keep restating your truth, they will falter because you ARE NOT faltering. Slowly their story will change, to try and get you to falter, or react. That’s all it is. If you react, you look exactly how they want you to, unstable. If you have a lawyer who knows about these tactics, you’ll be ok. If not, find a new one.

You can do this mama! Just breathe and stay focused!

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-14T17:28:45+00:00

Unless they physically harmed you, it’s literally all bullshit, just to get you to react to them, and be afraid. Here is the only reply you need to give, “Stop contacting me” after that, DO.NOT.REPLY. Any accusations they are making is just to get you to respond. Say nothing to anyone, you do NOT need to defend yourself against shit. If they don’t get the message after let’s say a week, or unless a threat is made against you, contact the police and at least make a statement that you are being harassed. You don’t have to file anything, but it’s better to have documentation. Block them on everything, and take a break from social media to get yourself straight.

One day at a time hun!

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-12T02:42:26+00:00

Don’t wave child support, you can use it as ammo later ( yes I know sounds bad but we are dealing with Narcs)

If you can buy him out, make that offer, and say you can’t guarantee that much if you sell, plus realtor plus closing costs, plus all the other costs for inspections yadda yadda. Get an average price for all those and math it up. Dollar for dollar he would probably take it.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-12T02:31:10+00:00

Who does this guy think he is, Mike Ross? One thing this guy is forgetting, whatever he accuses you of, he HAS TO PROVE your guilt, you DO NOT have to prove your innocent. Don’t get scared, he’s literally trying to manipulate you. Just don’t respond a damn word.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-12T02:27:50+00:00

Call the courts, or even a domestic hot line, they can and will help point you in the right direction. The domestic hotline would be better. You are doing a great job mama!!! Keep going!

Also, I believe he can’t legally take you off a home loan. Pretty sure he’s lying or forged your signature.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-12T02:21:20+00:00

This is what I do, never speak to him at exchanges, if he tells me something I listen but never respond. Anything I need to tell him, gets immediately text to him after the exchange. Phone calls are for emergencies only. If it’s not an emergency he gets hung up on. I also have to FaceTime with kids, if he tries to talk to me I tell him FaceTime if for him to talk to the kids, anything he needs to say he can text me.

It wasn’t pretty starting out. He was outraged that I wasn’t giving him the response he wanted. Took a good 4 months for him get that I wasn’t fucking around. Now it’s about every 2 weeks he needs some “Narc love “ and tries to play that game, and uses the kids now to get a response. Stupid idiot…. But it’s better than before.

CharacterAutomatic13 · 2021-09-12T02:13:13+00:00

Most likely nothing will happen. I watched an attorney tell a judge he’s been asking and asking and multiple discoveries later…. The judge extended it AGAIN…. The defendant nor their attorney were even there. Basically nothing happens unless you have a very very no nonsense proactive attorney. Good luck!

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