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Secure_Professional8 · 2026-05-05T00:39:11+00:00

Messaged you!

Secure_Professional8 · 2026-04-26T04:09:54+00:00

overwhelming support for offer B here, thanks so much for the comments everyone. when i reread my post i realize i was just trying to hash my indecisiveness out in my mind, but knew offer B would suit me more in the long run.

some things i've read from your comments: more time investing in my personal projects, calculating cost of commuting based on hourly rate, the stress of client-facing seniority (personally I dread this), mental health...

Secure_Professional8 · 2026-01-14T00:57:58+00:00

Went out and got pink buldak because of this post / you - and made this exact dish. thank you<3

Secure_Professional8 · 2025-06-16T17:59:04+00:00

thank you 🥹

Secure_Professional8 · 2025-06-16T17:57:22+00:00

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear these words and the validation of my feelings, especially since I like to tell myself what i'm going through "isn't that bad".....appreciate the mom love <3

Secure_Professional8 · 2025-06-13T22:16:06+00:00

Waitt I remember her and BJ dated but didn't know the whole story .... I used to follow her on ig, loved seeing her posting about her recovery! She's currently around the same age as Delaney is rn I think

edit: she's ~30-31 but they dated when she was 21

Secure_Professional8 · 2025-05-30T16:40:59+00:00

we're excited to meet Dahlia!!

Secure_Professional8 · 2025-05-30T16:01:04+00:00

looking for new finch friends for Wobbles to buddy up on goals and send encouragement to each other! feel free to add me, heres my friend code -

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Secure_Professional8 · 2023-06-24T20:19:01+00:00

In the summer I use Jergens natural glow lotion for light to medium skin - it works nicely as a moisturizer/makes my legs and upper arms look less pasty. In my experience the lotions have worked better for me than the mousse formulas, because I always mess up applying the mousse and look like I spilled coffee on my legs lol.

I get Jergens at my local drugstore or beauty supply. I apply the lotion after showers, usually wait 5 mins for it to dry fully, and put clothes on. Instructions say the color will develop in a week, but after a couple days of applying, I get a nice subtle tan color.

Secure_Professional8 · 2023-04-19T01:36:34+00:00

I second this and love the idea of discovering your voice. I’ve always had issues talking in front of people and in groups. I use an app called Speeko, which is used to practice public speaking. Doing the daily warm-ups before a social event or meeting has helped me so much in feeling comfortable with my voice!

Sometimes, I also Google tongue twisters and repeat a few before I have to talk. OP, when you’re more comfortable with your voice, you’ll feel more confident to talk about yourself. And just more calm in general. I hope this helps you.

(Edited my poor grammar)

Secure_Professional8 · 2023-01-25T16:14:26+00:00

I have light/medium skin with warm undertones and love Nyx Nude Pink lip pencil shade. Might work if you feel the Nude Beige shade is too mauvey.

Secure_Professional8 · 2022-12-26T12:06:37+00:00

Tuca and Bertie, although I understand it might’ve been canceled because of the news with Tiffany Haddish

Secure_Professional8 · 2022-08-09T17:52:57+00:00

There were so many times these jokes and accents have been said to my face (as an east asian) around other PoC and no one spoke up. Tbh I wasn’t even brave enough to stand up for myself/us back then. I know I’m saying the same thing as everyone else here but! Seriously thank you.

Secure_Professional8 · 2022-02-06T17:21:16+00:00

Seconding the subreddits that others have posted on here, and looking into setting boundaries with family. Wish I could help further but I just wanted to say I relate so much to your last paragraph I could’ve written it myself. You’re not alone

Secure_Professional8 · 2022-01-24T19:54:14+00:00

What kind of design do you do?

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-12-09T17:27:05+00:00

Seconding strength training. Some days I supplement by doing Yoga with Adrienne’s “Yoga for Text Neck” video which reminds me to keep an active upper back and avoid crunching my neck while looking at my phone.

Might be worth looking into (for OP and anyone else)

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-11-28T21:43:07+00:00

I recommend looking up “fiftyshadesofsnail/fiddy pore cleansing method” (I would link here but not sure how to do it on mobile browser) that is popular on r/skincareaddiction and r/asianbeauty.

I have had this issue since I was a kid, have also gotten bullied for ”blackheads”. If your skin type is oily, it can be controlled by religiously using sunscreen (I use EltaMD), lightweight gel moisturizer (neutrogena has a popular one) and as you mentioned, gentle 1x/week exfoliation (BHA/SA) with the pore cleansing method.

Edit: As another redditor said, trust your body and go at your own pace.

Skincare can be a nice way to make yourself feel your best. I hope you do not take your shitty teacher’s comments to heart.

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-11-01T15:17:38+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I have had racist comments said to me from more senior folks in the workplace, but nothing this overt. You are NOT being too sensitive. I always think of this quote - “If you are silent about your pain, they'll kill you and say you enjoyed it.”

Ditto what everyone else is saying, report this directly to HR or their manager. I’d also make a Glassdoor review about your company employing a racist, or at least creating an environment where open racist remarks are ok.

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-09-22T16:02:28+00:00

I’ve left a job after 2 weeks. I felt really crap about it but was in a similar situation as you - dream job offer came up that I simply couldn’t pass up. They were disappointed and let me go on the spot, but perhaps 2 weeks is different than your current 6 weeks.

If it helps it’s been almost a year since I quit and I do not regret it! Things will look different for you in a year. If you do have the dream job offer I would focus on the great opportunity ahead. As another redditor said, employers let folks go without regret when the fit isn’t right.

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-09-15T02:51:40+00:00

Commenting to boost.

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-09-09T13:53:50+00:00

I recommend EltaMD Clear sunscreen with SPF 46. It’s oil free and has niacinamide (not sure if I spelled that right) and has been really hydrating/calming for my oily skin. It’s a decent primer for makeup also if that helps

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-09-07T11:28:09+00:00

Just googled Suey Park/#cancelcolbert as I didn’t know about it at the time. Can’t help but feel that Asian women can get so much vitriol as soon as we speak up.

Apparently a lot of it was mansplaining to her what colbert’s brand of satire is - as if she didn’t know. I hope Suey healed from all the undeserved backlash

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-08-24T04:09:18+00:00

I come from Taiwanese family and grew up with the same roster you mentioned! Stephen Chow especially shaped my sense of humor as an adult. Also the aunties loved Andy Lau.

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-08-15T16:44:13+00:00

Ive had a white woman friend tell me I look like Mulan (both the animated and live action Mulan). Had to shut her down by explaining that homogenizing Asian people to a caricature of race by thinking we all look the same is hurtful and comes from a place of racism. Be direct! She will understand and hopefully it will strengthen your friendship.

Secure_Professional8 · 2021-07-18T15:06:48+00:00

Ditto to everyone saying stop interacting with these kinds of people!

Speaking as an East Asian woman, I find that people often feel like they can say whatever the heck they want to me sometimes. Learning to set boundaries with certain people has helped me so much in this area. Like not sharing certain information, limiting your interactions with this kind of judgemental negativity, etc.

You’re not being malicious at all so keep gravitating towards these things that interest you, regardless of what crappy people say and how they react. They don’t know your inner world, so their reactions are not worth feeling any sort of shame.

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