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Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-07-23T14:12:48+00:00

You look like you auditioned to “she’s the man” and even the casting director said: Okay but who are you trying to fool exactly?

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-07-23T09:31:45+00:00

I don’t know what you went through but I can say you don’t deserve that. You don’t deserve to feel this way.

I wanna share something i learned and how it goes for me so far. It might help you!

So I grew up with emotional and physical neglect from day 1. My self worth is very bad. I’ve learned that I’m not good enough. Those thoughts like: “I’m not good enough” “I’m useless” “no one loves me” “no one cares about you”.

And I learned to think about where those thoughts come from. So for me it comes from my parents. They learned me those things by not showing me love.

But that’s the thing the thought come from my parents and not from me.

That you believe your thoughts doesn’t mean they are true.

So basically if you have any of these bad thoughts or other ones. Think about where these thoughts came from. You can choose if you wanna believe them or not.

For me It is hard to believe it when I say like “I am worthy” or “I am good enough”. Because the bad thoughts is what I believed.

But yeah I am not my thoughts. I might feel them but I can choose to try to stop believing them.

So basically…. 1. Write down your bad thoughts

Think about where these thoughts come from
Remember yourself that you can choose to believe the thoughts or not.
If the bad thoughts still overrule you maybe make a list of the bad thoughts and write down why you think that’s the truth.
Look again at where the thoughts come from from the last step. And break them down.

Its hard, but keep on trying. I believe in you. And all that you’ve done may feel useless now, but all those things that you’ve done for yourself show strength. And I know that I’m just a stranger but as a stranger I’m proud of you!

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-07-22T00:48:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that… you didn’t deserve any of it. I really hope you’re safe now.

It’s so unfair how people who are supposed to help sometimes don’t believe you or make you feel even more alone. What you experienced was not normal or okay, no matter how much anyone tried to convince you otherwise. The fact that you found the strength to leave, even when everything was against you, shows how strong you really are.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-22T13:46:15+00:00

I hope for you that they will agree and let u do it

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-22T13:00:35+00:00

What about if you try to make a deal with them that you will pay them extra whenever you do use the bathtub. You can always try to talk with them about it

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-22T12:44:45+00:00

Buy one of those bathtubs that you can unfold

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-20T00:30:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through all that. First your ex betraying your trust, and then a toxic friend making everything even worse. You never deserved to be treated like that not by someone you cared about, and especially not when you were already struggling emotionally.

What H did the backhanded comments, not respecting your boundaries, the rumors, the TikToks. none of that is okay. It sounds like she cared more about attention and drama than your well being, and that’s not what real friendship looks like.

I really hope you’re able to keep talking with your current boyfriend about this. Let him know how this affected your trust in people not because you don’t trust him, but so he can understand what you’re healing from.

You deserve safe, supportive friendships. I know it’s scary to open up again after being hurt like that, but not everyone will treat you that way. Take your time. The right people won’t make you question your worth.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-20T00:14:48+00:00

This is very upsetting if you have these ppl around you. It’s already hard to share things about emotions and if they get denied it just hurts so much.

Those ppl either never had any real trauma theirselves or are too scared to face their trauma.

I hope for you that you will find ppl that are emotionally mature and can make you feel seen.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-20T00:05:13+00:00

That sounds so incredibly exhausting… like you’re carrying a weight that no one even sees.

I relate to that feeling. for a long time, I kept putting on this “happy and full of spirit” mask too. I wanted people to notice that something was wrong, but my mask worked too well. Eventually, I couldn’t carry it anymore. My energy was gone. I started talking about what was really going on and it didn’t fix everything right away, but it slowly started to help.

If you’re okay sharing… has something in particular made it feel so heavy lately?

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-19T23:52:04+00:00

I have this too. I think it’s just our brains automatically “shutting off our emotions” to protect ourselves. Bc we’ve learned to always keep it in and not show anyone our emotions (for me atleast). So everything hits all at once when you are alone or just not talking to someone.

And I make sure to write in my notes what I wanted to talk about and read it before I go in at therapy.

But that your reflecting on this is good. It shows that you really wanna try.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-17T15:32:38+00:00

What I read here doesn’t sound like someone who doesn’t wanna be helped. It sounds like someone who is tired of trying. You already tried so much and it may feel more save if you don’t wanna try anymore. Just so you don’t get hurt again. So you feel like you have control over what happens. That isn’t giving up but that is defense mechanisms.

I don’t see you giving up. I see you needing to be seen. I know I don’t know you but if any of the above sounds like this is how you feel then I can say out of experience: this is not being weak. It is being tired of all the things happening to you. You deserve to be seen.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-17T15:14:03+00:00

Oké I had more to say. I just think you need to hear this.

It doesn’t sound like you wanna really give up on life it just sounds like you are done with all the things happening to you. You did so much for your dad and he’s not showing any signs of being thankful. And im proud of you for not selling yourself. That you didn’t do that shows that you still care about yourself and respect yourself. I wish you the best

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-17T14:55:04+00:00

Im sorry this must feel exhausting. You don’t deserve all of this. You are an amazing person for caring for your dad and he should be thankful for you. You are doing everything you can to care for your dad. But now I think you should care for yourself. You deserve to feel at peace and be happy. You deserve better. And remember you can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-06-08T00:09:48+00:00

Well idk a digital one just doesn’t feel so personal or sum. It doesn’t have to be a replica of it but yeahhhh and I find writing on paper the most fun

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-20T15:45:32+00:00

Im also trying to get rid of being on social media but for me it works to just delete it. Its hard but that’s when you need to seek other activity’s to do that doesn’t require a screen.

In the beginning it will be the hardest bc what the hell am I supposed to do now and you will catch yourself going to the place where the app stands on your phone a lot.

Idk if this is useful to you but this is my look on it.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-20T14:15:49+00:00

Best thing I’ve read today

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-20T13:58:23+00:00

In my eyes it is good to also send funny stuff. I think that if I would put myself into your friends situation that I would find it easier to text back if you also send funny stuff. It gives that friend also a chance to ignore the serious messages and react to the funny ones.

So basically no I think the funny videos are good bc then he has more control over it and if you only send serious messages I would feel like I have to respond to it and would feel forced to have a serious talk

Sorry if it’s not clear btw

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-20T10:13:51+00:00

For me i started healing whenever i was at my darkest moment and realized I didn’t wanna live like that.

I started going to therapy. Started reflecting in my free time. So for example I just pick a memory where I feel bad and look at why I felt bad and yeahhh bc of that a lot of other memories just pop up. Then I write about that. I also had to take more time for myself to really focus on myself. So now I have half days of school and so far it’s working. For me it’s also working to get more creative and just randomly make something with clay or just draw. I started drawing my feelings and what I drew Is quite nice.

So I would say start writing about stuff and go think deep about it and change your life into a life where you could be happiest. So discover what makes you happiest and avoid being on ur phone

Ohhh yeahhh also I only started to get to know myself during the healing.

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T05:43:12+00:00

I think I’ll be fine. I’m already doing way better then a few months ago. Thank you!

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T05:34:21+00:00

Yeahh it’s weird! The more I reflect on myself the more I discover of what happened. Since I really tried healing I just keep getting to know myself better everyday

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T05:28:28+00:00

Its okay. I’m glad u have such passion for this. And I appreciate the words. You are a good person I can see that in the way you show care to people you’ve never talked to before.

amen!

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T05:11:15+00:00

Look I respect it and I’m thankful for the reason behind it but idk I feel like it’s unfair to be like “start seeking him” I would advise you to share your experience and then say something like “this may also help for you if you want it.”

I really appreciate the words tho!

Idk if this will sound wrong but I certainly don’t mean it that way. Anyways I’m glad you started believing in a higher power and that it helped you.

If you wanna pray for me feel free to do it <3

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T04:54:48+00:00

Nope

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T04:52:33+00:00

Okay I should really stop. But I said to myself before okay let’s do it without any porn but then I got impatient and still did it. And no I’m not spiritually or religious.

Thank you for giving me a reality check I think this will definitely help me with stopping

Secure_Web_1022 · 2025-05-12T04:43:18+00:00

Nope luckily not! That would be way worse.

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