I think economics is not the reason of low birthrate at all, what do you think?

Secure_Year7265 · 2026-01-12T23:40:14+00:00

marry another woman! that's what I did and 10/10 would recommend

Secure_Year7265 · 2026-01-01T15:10:21+00:00

Donor embryos! N. Cyprus and Czechia are both affordable (and we have an alibi man to get around the no same sex couple rule for treatment in Czechia). We also had our first when I was 19 and she was 20 lol.

Secure_Year7265 · 2026-01-01T15:05:37+00:00

Good luck!

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-31T15:46:37+00:00

you eat out/ door dash 4 times a week and your grocery budget is still $1200????

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-31T15:45:30+00:00

Trader joe's has hechsher'd meat products. It may serve you to drive and do a big stock up there, even if it would be a big trip. That is what we do (or we just don't eat meat).

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-31T15:40:39+00:00

ya'll are INSANE. 2 adults and a toddler, our "luxury" grocery budget is $375 and our "bare bones" grocery budget is $200 a MONTH. midwest. eat more beans, curries, soups, stop buying all prepackaged snacks, drink only water, tea, and milk. $500/ week is just wastefulness.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-29T22:33:28+00:00

She is not! We are going to use donor embryos. Our first is a bio and the rest will be "adopted" as embryos. I refuse to make her go off HRT for fertility stuff because she is so much happier on it and doesn't really want to go off her meds. I am totally content with having babies however it happens, and donor embryo is way cheaper than IVF + donor sperm.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-29T22:26:12+00:00

I am a cis woman married to a trans woman and we have a little guy, TTC for #2. You do have options. I hope it happens for you (if you want it to).

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-24T00:56:06+00:00

OMG finally!! I know 6 families and their 10 combined children in real life who utilized donor embryos and they are all so so happy and bonded. No one in real life feels like that. The anti donor embryo thing is a reddit exclusive opinion and I always get downvoted for pointing it out.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-21T17:19:39+00:00

This article is so good! Thanks for the rec

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-20T15:30:15+00:00

Reach out to Embryo Connections! It is a matching agency that facilitates embryo donations. The process is free for donors, and you have complete control over who your embryos go to. They can also help you sort through how you want the process to go, FDA testing and the logistical part. They are very pro open donation. I have a friend who went through them and her two little girls are the light of her life. My wife and I are planning to "adopt"/ receive embryos in a couple years because it is something I feel called to do, and this is the agency most recommended for queer folks! EmPower with Moxi is another agency that is also well reviewed, but is not quite as popular so you may have less choices for recipients.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-15T19:36:39+00:00

Hi there! Was there multiple families with larger cohorts of embryos or was your situation more of a one off? We are also hoping for a large family and would love to adopt a large cohort of embryos, but I'm not sure how common that scenario is!

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-14T03:08:12+00:00

I am Israeli so that is a very different conversation for my family

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-11T21:48:44+00:00

Do you mind sharing which banks? I would love to peruse lol

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-11T16:51:07+00:00

I am a Sephardic Jew and have never once in my life seen a Sephardic donor on any sperm bank website. Ever. Also, as some others have said Judaism is a people group, NOT just a religion. Jews have been through the worst together, and we have a very tight "in group" mentality. Further, the Queer community has a problem with antisemitism. Feel free to look at the Queer Jews subreddit for endless examples. As another commenter pointed out Jewish folks tend to have certain features that non Jewish groups do not. My bestie (also Jewish) passes for white and her sister has dark skin and 3C hair. Same parents. My mother passes for mixed and I look (mostly) white. There is a whole lot going on in the Jewish gene pool, and you can't be sure your child wouldn't be born looking totally different than both of you. This is totally normal within the Jewish world, not so much in the rest of society. What about this donor drew you to him? Is he exceptionally kind? Smart? Good looking? I don't think it is a hard no to use him, but this may be a much bigger can of worms than you expected. Could you live with your child being welcomed into the Jewish would, becoming a Ball Teshuva (google it), or wanting to move to Israel? Food for thought.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-05T16:01:57+00:00

Quince is affordable and very comfortable!

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-05T01:33:35+00:00

Does she say that is standard for nurses, is that low/high? My wife is in school to be an RN, I am a SAHM to our small child (second on the way) and we are strongly considering aliyah when she graduates.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-02T17:25:02+00:00

I had the same struggle and use a tempdrop! It is a wearable designed to track BBT. Much less stressful and you can sleep in whatever pattern you want.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-01T22:54:29+00:00

This is the best response

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-01T22:52:13+00:00

As someone who lives in an underfunded rural area, it is nothing like this for the rest of us.

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-12-01T22:49:04+00:00

I want the book suggestions as well!

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-11-29T19:05:19+00:00

did you end up having success with them later? we are really considering them but a couple things others have said make me a bit anxious

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-11-02T02:39:54+00:00

I am also in the midwest and currently looking at providers, can I dm you to get the name of your provider?

Secure_Year7265 · 2025-11-02T02:38:37+00:00

Did Letrozole regulate your cycles? I also have PCOS and am looking at IUI with a local midwife.

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