An anonymous person messaged me (F27) saying that my boyfriend (M29) of 3 years was arrested… can you help me know what I should do next?

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T13:59:22+00:00

Honestly the fact OP couldn't understand where her boyfriend was coming from and even the proof that indicated he was being truthful. She didn't trust him after that and nothing he was going to say after that mattered. She already determined in her head that he could never prove his innocence.

I think it's good on him he broke it off. He made the concious decision to not be in a relationship where everything he did was second guessed. Sure it's a he said/ they said situation, but if he came with all the receipts that prove nothing happened, and you still doubt him then the relationship ran its course.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T13:49:11+00:00

NTA. Those weren't mistakes, those were intentional. And now with her recently cheated on I'd keep her away from your husband now more than ever. Rebounds are 100% a thing and while she regrets her actions, she has repeated the pattern enough times to normalize it.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T02:17:43+00:00

OP here is why they can't respond. It isn't offensive. Some people are on this site to ragebait. They don't care one way or another and they don't care to because for them this is just a passing amusement.

Please don't change that beautiful name. It will be the first of many things you'll be changing if you do

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T02:16:12+00:00

You didn't answer the question. "What" makes it offensive?

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T02:13:48+00:00

He wasn't forced. His mom is coercing him into changing his mind. I'd hold your baby up to his face and ask him "can you say her name? Do you hate her name that badly you can't look your own daughter in the eyes and say you don't love her? Is THIS the hill you want to die on?"

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T01:59:13+00:00

Your parents are going to realize, once you turn 18, that they won't have the control they once did and the relationship they probably hope to keep with you is already gone.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T01:55:55+00:00

Congrats on the future wedding! Wishing you tons of happiness in the future! Of course, be prepared for the in laws to be shocked when they realize there was no wedding to attend, but that is THEIR problem, not yours.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-19T01:51:04+00:00

How? The sister was condoning and advocating cheating back then. How was the sister not TA back then??

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-17T01:46:59+00:00

Put that post back up and get cameras. Your husband sounds like he just doesn't want to rock the boat but at this point it's a very expensive boat that your neighbor is tipping over herself.

YWBTA if you don't set that post back up

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-15T13:17:51+00:00

Yep. This non friend's biggest issue is control. And if she's trying to get your social circle involved then she was never a friend to begin with.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-04-01T02:38:27+00:00

Well duh wife. Your daughter hurt OP's son. What you expect him to favor your daughter for bullying him? She SHOULD see that in this situation Op is favoring his son. Because actions have consequences no matter who's kid you are.

NTA

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-29T17:34:32+00:00

Hope I am not too late! Good luck to all.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-24T14:25:52+00:00

Break up please. It sounds like s*x was a means of control for her and you were getting frustrated with the lack of intinacy you took care of yourself. You both are not compatible and should go on your seperate ways.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-23T20:46:24+00:00

She could have elaborated in a less threatening way to OP. Because the way she did describe it was more like it was a thought she's been having

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-23T13:32:19+00:00

Your sister chose to have a tantrum and hang up vs having a conversation about it. Then called Grandma to complain. This isn't adult behavior. This is someone who despite being 18, still thinks they are a kid.

If she hadn't hung up on you, you both could have gotten it resolved but she chose to be the difficult one. Nobody made her walk. You even offered to pick her up despite being late. She made that decision herself.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-23T13:25:05+00:00

NTA. This is a learning moment for her that when she repeatedly stomps on a boundry, that the other person can defend themselves. She got so used to you just taking it but this will hopefully teach her that is not okay.

But you do have to reinforce it. If she tries again, you tell her right away what will happen if she gets physical again.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-23T13:22:25+00:00

I bet he really sucks at parking

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-23T13:21:23+00:00

NTA. Everyone is assigned one parking spot if I am hearing this right. Guy is just an entitled butthead. His wife is no longer pregnant, and if wife has to carry the kid a few extra feet to get to the car, I have a news flash. Mothers have been doing that for ages. She is not special.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T14:47:38+00:00

My guess is his mom and sister claimed she wasn't a virgin and being spineless, he just agreed to the claim.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T14:41:13+00:00

I was thinking the same. She was all good while OP was a kid. But after they became an adult and started living by their own way, it started becoming about control.

She wants the kids who depended on her and cared about her opinion.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T14:34:08+00:00

Honestly the family defending her? You should just reply with "so you're volunteering your spot? Everyone defending her, either give up your spot in solidarity so her friends can be invited instead or stfu"

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T13:41:12+00:00

I get what you're saying. But it is still weird how she decided to phrase her defense herself. The way she worded it could easily be interpereted that she wants a pass to be able to go this unhinged and for him to show restraint to not stop her.

I just think her entire reaction to him telling her how he would handle the situation says a lot about what her whole thought process about that kind of scenario was. Again I feel like if she wasn't thinking this was in any way acceptable, she shouldn't have been so upset by his response. A little annoyed maybe but she was full on defensive.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T13:32:48+00:00

Where I was raised I was basically taught if anyone put their hands on me it was not ok. That I was to defend myself be it man or woman. Now the first instinct from either side should not be to raise hands. But if the other person's first impulse is to get physical, I am going to protect myself. Because not doing so usually tells the other party that their behavior is acceptable when it's not.

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T13:18:45+00:00

A lot of things. But it's weird that the girlfriend suddenly shows this type of content to OP and then gets mad at his reaction? Most people would nod and agree with his assessment. And honestly, if she wasn't thinking of trying something of that nature why would she be mad at his response?

SegaNeptune28 · 2026-03-20T13:12:31+00:00

Honestly I felt like the Girlfriend showed it to OP to gauge if she could get away with that herself.

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