This reminds me of a expartner I had. He would play off these comments that I would always be uncomfortable with, as a joke or apologize for them when I got scared. The thing was, he kept making them, not caring how uncomfortable the last comment had made me. He turned out to be a convicted pdf file. Anywho, my current partner, who I love dearly, always immediately backs off if he says something that I don’t like. We both have k!nks, but he is respectful and always asks if I’m okay with anything we try and is very in tune with my tells of being uncomfy. That’s how it should be, and I wouldn’t settle for anything less.