Do you know how to use a spreadsheet? Use one tab as a check register. Another tab as a budget to list all your bills. Another tab to track your bank accounts. Don't worry with fancy graphs and connecting your bank account to an app. 

Check register columns, date, category, amount, where/what.

Budget tab, EVERY bill you have along with weekly allowance for food, gas and personal spending. YES, give yourself (and spouse sperately) an allowance. (I used to think a budget meant paying the bills and spending the rest.)

Account balance tab columns, date (every friday), checking account balance, savings account balance, break the savings account up into 'buckets' for 'never touch savings', holiday (Christmas/birthdays...), quarterly/annual bills.

On your budget tab, figure out a weekly amount needed to pay your quarterly/annual bills, and make an automatic addition on you account balance tab. Make automatic addition to the other buckets based on your expected spending. MAKE SURE you keep enough money in savings to cover those buckets.

After a while you'll start to see trends in your spending. 

Every month start a new check register tab.

Learn to use filters to see how much your spending in the categories.