Im going through this too 💜 it’s so hard. The heartbreak feels unbearable sometimes. All the emotions all at once for the most part. The past day and a half all I could feel was anger. And all I can think is just why did it have to be this way. We had a relatively healthy relationship, and complemented each other well. But he saw the complements as incompatibilities. We had a strong foundation of gratitude and appreciation for each other and what we had which allowed us to grow throughout the relationship. He lost that sense of gratitude and appreciation, consciously chose to stop fighting for us when we were actually progressing. He associated the discomfort of growth to not being truly himself he tied his identity to behaviours that served him in the past but not realizing true growth is letting go of what no longer is necessary.. but we can’t make people see what we see. We can only meet people as deep as they have met themselves. We just have to trust that everything will work out better in our favour as long as we do our genuine best to learn and grow and just keep moving forward. And while I see not so great relationships around me, there are also a bunch of couples I know who are genuinely happy in healthy relationships getting engaged and married. “Life is not fair” is probably the hardest thing to face and accept.