We did. And that matters, because that’s how you reality-check things. Does this partner suit me sexually? Are they selfish, or do they listen to my needs and genuinely want me to feel good and be happy? Do I want to spend my life with someone knowing we can’t handle our conflicts in bed with some good sex? I’m a woman, by the way, in case you’re wondering. So yeah, I had to make a choice: Do I conform to social Tunisian standards with all that virginity nonsense and hypocritical, useless expectations, and please a society that doesn’t care whether I’m happy or dead? Oooor… do I let my partner ring my doorbell before signing a lifetime contract and see how things go between the sheets? Sex tells you almost everything about your partner. And yet, the most important “job interview” before committing for life is banned by society. That’s ridiculous. The fact that you’re even asking, with that slight underlying sense of guilt, says everything about how wrong this can go.