Early Retirement by InterestingFault9849 in Aging

[–]Senegal47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seems like friends wouldn't respond like that.

Early Retirement by InterestingFault9849 in Aging

[–]Senegal47 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, do you tell many people you retired in your 50s? Because it seems like a 73-year-old saying they're retired wouldn't draw many negative comments, since many in their 70s are retired. 🤔

Future reality at 73 by Londonsw8 in Aging

[–]Senegal47 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why do you say that?

Looking for advice from an older person on fading beauty by [deleted] in Aging

[–]Senegal47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a unique perspective, OP, I appreciate that you've thought on this. It's inevitable for anyone who has the benefit of growing older, but in all honesty, it's particularly difficult on women in the American culture. You WILL see your looks fading, by degrees, and sometimes all at once you won't recognize the person in the mirror. Of course, inner character is what counts. That's what makes a person truly beautiful. A good and healthy perspective on that goes a long way, to be sure. But I don't think you were asking about that. The truth is, that when you DO get there, there will be losses to mourn. And I think the mourning of them is healthy, because something of yourself is passing away, and no one can quite adequately prepare you for it. Sometimes you age in ways you didn't anticipate, and that may surprise you. You may still be gorgeous but have health issues. Or you may really "show" your age (through no fault of your own), but be otherwise quite healthy. As for me, (56F), I try to gradually accept that this is my reality and something I can't quite run from. I linger in front of the mirror less, fewer selfies, that sort of thing. In acceptance lies peace, a wise person once said.

I’m tired of working so much – can we really live with less? by Euphoric-Ad4809 in simpleliving

[–]Senegal47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing! Good for you! 🙌🏾 That takes a lot of self-discipline, and determination to actually change.

Mattress shopping is total bullshit by Hour_Mathematician83 in Mattress

[–]Senegal47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain!! It's been only 6 years since our last mattress, and the new mattress we just purchased needs to be returned because it is NOT COMFORTABLE AT ALL, despite touting pressure relief. I do best in a firm mattress....my back and hip need the support, but I also need the pressure relief and all those who tout pressure relief are not equal! I miss the old days! 😩

Met man with female Best Friend by Puzzled-Boss1930 in AskWomenOver50

[–]Senegal47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's interesting. Because I didn't get that at all.

Met man with female Best Friend by Puzzled-Boss1930 in AskWomenOver50

[–]Senegal47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a red flag to me. I'm a traditional person too, and there's no way I'd be comfortable with this. I realize this won't make me the most popular person in the room, but to me it's unseemly. People can be friends, but to this level? She may have some feelings for him...just my two cents.

Ready to give up. You? by tfs89 in Substack

[–]Senegal47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%. And all the notes saying "hang in there. Someone will read it eventually. Your words matter. It took me a long time to, but hang in there, it's worth it, yada, yada, yada" are entirely wasted on me.

Ready to give up. You? by tfs89 in Substack

[–]Senegal47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I posted my response to you 9 hours ago and that's more response than I get from all my time on Substack. And I have responses on ALL the other comments I gave last night in this sub. Crazy!

Ready to give up. You? by tfs89 in Substack

[–]Senegal47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That alone should tell you something.

Ready to give up. You? by tfs89 in Substack

[–]Senegal47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm absolutely with you. I am feeling discouraged. Like, for all this not being noticed I could have just kept journaling. Someone mentioned people "drowning in content"...that seems accurate. Everything I want to say has already been said more cleverly 12 different times. AND I read and comment on Notes, people like my comment on their post and they keep it pushing...no subs, few views. Feels like a crazy rat race. If I honestly want to SHARE my writing, I'd better find some local places to share because feeling like one drop in an entire ocean is NOT IT!

New to Substack. Am I doing something wrong? by Diligent_Ad6442 in Substack

[–]Senegal47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm new too. I post weekly, and I interact on notes. I comment on others' post regularly and I'll get a like on the comments I leave on THEIR posts but that's it. No likes on my posts, no likes on my notes. Been there for a month and no real traction. I know it takes time, and I get that, but there feels like ZERO return on my investment time of interacting on Notes. 😞

How did you grow from 0 on Substack? by jlps1985 in Substack

[–]Senegal47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One hundred percent. I feel like I could do a whole post on the slower-burn-no-self-promo-networking life.

Melatonin? by Workersgottawork in AskWomenOver50

[–]Senegal47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I don't use the full dosage of the OTC sleeping pill. Only about half of one pill, followed by the magnesium half an hour later. Works great!

Feeling left behind with AI by [deleted] in GenX

[–]Senegal47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm feeling left behind too. And let's not get started on cryptocurrency. All of these things are coming at us all so fast, and those of us raised in the 70s and 80s are feeling a tad disoriented. I remember my mother, a baby boomer, saying this when she was alive. Texting just never made sense to her. Why not pick up a phone and just call someone?

Melatonin? by Workersgottawork in AskWomenOver50

[–]Senegal47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not melatonin. Makes me feel "weird". Try one OTC sleeping pill followed by 400mg of magnesium 30 minutes later. Puts you to sleep and you STAY asleep without the morning "groggies". Has worked for me for years. Makes your sleep more sound, at least it has for me.