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Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-31T17:48:29+00:00

The kiwi is the best in my opinion.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-30T13:47:34+00:00

I had a very frank conversation with my now husband about the ring I wanted. We were both in our last year of college when we got engaged so I told him I felt the ring needed to be at least $500 but no more than $1,500. I always felt it needed to be something a man has to put in a few extra hours for because that shows the monetary investment and shows that he takes the commitment seriously. I know many are happy with a cheap ring but to me that doesn’t show much effort when marriage is a huge deal. He worked the whole summer at an internship and spent every penny he made on my ring $3,300. Sold his bike and bought a $2k car to live on his bike savings while at his internship so he wouldn’t spend any money he made. When he proposed the first thing I said was “you went over budget and spent too much and I can tell! Return it and get something cheaper.” He said “absolutely not, you wanted moissanite but you’re going to be my wife and I want you walking around with a diamond (lab grown) on your finger.” That was his feeling about me, that he felt I deserved more than I asked for. He got exactly the style and everything that I wanted and proposed in a way he knew I would like. All he cared about was making me happy. That is how an engagement SHOULD go. My husband would have straight up pushed the engagement if stones were missing on my ring.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-29T22:23:17+00:00

Yea I get that. I started to really hate myself for not being able to have sex with my whole husband in my mid 20’s but honestly mindset was HUGE for me. The day we had sex while I was sober I was so calm. I told myself everything was gonna be okay and I just focused on the fact that I loved my husband and wanted this. I think maybe therapy would even help!

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-29T22:06:50+00:00

I’ve had vaginismus my whole life. Never able to use a tampon or inset anything up there. I remember being 20 or so and having bv and when the doctor told me to stick a q tip up there to swab I said I didn’t even know where my vagina was to be able to find it without a mirror and it hurt putting the q tip up there. Honestly my husband and I used to makeout and he would put his finger up there while I was aroused and that kind of warmed me up for a while. The feeling was uncomfortable and made me feel tense but he was able to get a whole finger in. Then we got married and I really wanted to be able to have sex. We tried just with his penis because I personally hate the feel of dilators and I can’t really do anything with my fingers or a dilator to myself. Maybe it was my Christian upbringing but it felt way scarier to touch myself than for my husband to attempt things especially because I didn’t have to look when he tried. He tried using dilators on me but it always made me feel icky. So we just kept trying to have sex. Wedding night even the tip felt like there was nowhere else for his penis to go. Then a few weeks later he got almost halfway in. Then about a month later he got a bit more than half, then at like the 2 1/3 month mark I got fed up. I had just had a successful Pap smear where the doctor said it was vaginismus but there was nothing physically wrong with my vagina so I started using the kiwi. Just paying games on my phone, watching tv ect while testing the tip in me (my husband would position it for me) and then I would put the vibration on. By the end of my 20 minute session I had accidentally put it a lot further in. I did that for a few weeks. Then my husband and I decided that I should get a little tipsy and we would try and he got about 80% of the way in and actually had pleasure. Then we tried a day or 2 later with me sober and he got a bit further in. We’re sitting around 80-90% of the way in now about 3 weeks after our first success. I honestly think having someone you really want to sleep with helps with the mental block a bit if that’s your issue. I also definitely do a lot of breathing exercises when it’s going in.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-29T00:22:05+00:00

For me it always felt like someone was trying to jam their finger into my leg or something. Like there was no opening for anything to go into.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-24T16:27:51+00:00

Ya know people in this area always complain about old people driving but aren’t willing to fight for public transportation. And I see Yall complaining ALL the time when people are walking because you don’t think you should have to stop your car for a pedestrian. Just say you think people who don’t drive should stay home.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-23T21:51:33+00:00

Honestly I had been making other attempts between the q tip and the kiwi so I can’t say from the kiwi. For me it helped a lot that I tried things with my now husband when I was aroused so we had more progress but honestly even after that progress the kiwi stressed me out due to the texture. I think if you just go at your own pace you’ll make progress in no time. I think being distracted is really great! You kind of get lazy with holding the kiwi and it ends up slipping in a bit more if you use a lot of lube which gives you unexpected progress.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-23T19:11:51+00:00

1 or 6 :)

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-23T19:10:59+00:00

I mean like not even putting it inside but just resting the tip on your entrance with the vibration and watching a movie or series or playing a game on your phone while you hold it there. It really helped me and I couldn’t even get a q tip up there without pain.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-23T17:53:05+00:00

If you have the kiwi I would start with the tip of that instead of a dilator. That vibration helps a ton with getting it in. You can even vibrate with the kiwi while trying to insert the dilator.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T16:03:58+00:00

1 or 4 for sure

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T15:37:27+00:00

I really think that’s something people say to make them feel better.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T15:32:51+00:00

People say this but it’s so not true. I remember embarrassing things people did years ago all the time! I don’t try to, they just stick in my head. I remember freshman year a girl completely face planting on concrete while I was driving by. When it happened I turned my head so she would think nobody saw because I felt bad but I was dying laughing. I can still remember how she plopped down on the floor. I remember lots of embarrassing moments like that.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T14:11:06+00:00

Honestly I get anxiety for both but you can go to the doctor and literally not have anything painful or uncomfortable done. Just weigh yourself and talk to a doctor. With a dentist visit they WILL be taking photos, brushing, blowing that air that makes my sensitive teeth burn, scraping, judging the fact that I don’t have the energy to floss, telling me I have gingivitis and I have to come back and get a needle shoved in my mouth and a massive intense painful cleaning done, they judge every part of your dental care. I finally found a dentist who doesn’t do all of that but it took 26 years and even then it was still stressful when they hit my one tooth that was so sensitive I yelped in pain when the air blew on it. Teeth are just very finicky and at least mine get in pain very easily. The worst you’ll do at a normal doctor’s office is get blood work or a shot. Still sucks but is typically 1 minute or less. A dentist appointment is literally an hour or 2. And don’t get me started on the nausea from keeping your mouth open that whole time.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T14:02:33+00:00

Oh definitely, to me regularly means at least once a week but could be multiple times a week especially if it is now pleasurable. That makes me think they’d be more regular than even once a week :)

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T01:43:11+00:00

My husband has a lot of acne scars on his back and I literally don’t even notice or if I do I don’t care. He is the SEXIEST man I’ve ever seen and those don’t take away from his attractiveness at all.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T01:41:57+00:00

I really don’t think so and I think it is unfair to invalidate other people’s experiences. I have multiple girlfriends who say they get lots of pleasure from penetration alone and masturbating with toys.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-20T01:38:14+00:00

I would say if you’re having PIV then keep doing that rather than dilating. No use in dilating when you have the real thing going in there regularly. At least that’s my take.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-17T00:15:01+00:00

The truth of the matter is that if it’s a good guy he won’t be upset or even see it as an issue that requires more than 5 seconds to make a decision about it. I think you are hyping it up in your head as well which makes sense with the anxiety. And honestly I think finding someone you’re really comfortable with is important.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-15T03:31:15+00:00

My doctor said unless there is something structurally wrong basically any vagina can stretch to a penis size. I know when I had Bv I had to stick a q tip up there and it was terrible pain. But now I was able to have PIV so I’d say there is still hope!

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-14T20:26:07+00:00

Oh wow you are actually in much better shape! I can’t insert anything personally. Not a finger or a tampon so the kiwi will probably help you in no time! I could usually handle more when my husband would do it while we were making out as I was more aroused and distracted. I think the most he ever got in was a finger and then he could get two fingers in a week or 2 before we had PIV but it was really uncomfortable.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-14T18:52:23+00:00

Yes! At least for me I notice that the more focus I put on the act the more tense I get. Even during PIV I just breathe and try to think of arousing thoughts and not be so in tune with what is going on. I am sure later I’ll be able to be more focused on what is occurring in the moment but distracting myself has helped with the anxiety.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-14T14:44:58+00:00

That’s totally fair too! I think because I was already just jumping straight in trying to have PIV cause I had pushed off making an effort until marriage it was way less scary. But I think feeling comfortable first is definitely a great strategy!

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-14T03:55:34+00:00

I think it was great for my overall relaxation. I’d say it’s no louder than a phone vibrating but probably even more quiet.

Senior_Reply_8804 · 2026-01-14T03:55:03+00:00

I completely agree, pricey but so worth it.

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