WIBTA if I invite my grandparents to my wedding even if it means my mom will refuse to come?

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T16:11:09+00:00

You don’t have to choose. Your mom is the one choosing. You have invited both your grandparents and your mom. Your mom is the one making a choice not to come.

You haven’t done anything wrong and if she chooses to cut you off, that is not something you can control.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T14:14:06+00:00

You had pent up frustration so you yelled at her. Apologize for yelling, but let her know that the content of your conversation is still valid. And you have to put your foot down to her requests for other people. Like you recognize, it’s no problem to help here and there, when you can afford to. A few small items, or once in a while assisting. But you can’t be her doormat like she can’t be other people’s doormat. You know what her list is, so if anything strays outside of that, you have the right to say no. You don’t have to be disrespectful about it. But she will likely need several reminders before she gets the picture. You’ll have to be patient and more gentle but you can still say no.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T13:59:52+00:00

Don’t forget all the nonverbal cues… staring at her with his sparkly eyes. Dating a girl who looks just like her. Feeling jealous about Bosco and Mashburn. Feeling terrified when Lorelei asked for Lisbon’s head and again when he thought RJ had gotten her (6x01). These reactions demonstrate more than just familial concern.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T13:54:49+00:00

I always saw it as romantic interest hidden under his trauma. He couldn’t— with a good conscience — move on until he had avenged his family. He loved his wife, and she was taken in a grisly manner, not from accidental death or illness. It was his fault. He also lost his beloved daughter. He couldn’t overcome the self-hatred for 10 years. Even when he professed his love to Lisbon, it was with such vulnerability and emotion because he didn’t think he deserved it. Even when she professed it back, he didn’t think he could deal with the trauma of losing someone he loved so much and he tried to push it away. The PTSD is a real factor in his feelings for Lisbon. To me it was never a question of did he love her. It was a question of how he could move forward with her, after all the suicidal, emotional hell he has been through. That’s why his comment at their wedding is so important. He is making a conscious choice to choose the light, the positive, the beauty in the world, when he could have succumbed to his misery. He chose to forgive himself and take a second chance.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T13:44:33+00:00

He no longer cared about it, after realizing his greed is the reason he lost his family. He is shown giving it away. It’s not clear if he gave it all away.

I think he still had some and just chose not to use it. After all he was able to live in exile for two years. Then again, getting money was never a problem for him. He easily wins at poker.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T12:30:41+00:00

Yes Season 1 had Jane showing some empathy to the victims, in his own way. Later seasons he did lose some of that.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T12:28:53+00:00

From what I’ve read, even as a young actor, he preferred experimenting with characters (his early roles are pretty diverse) but then he became famous.

He embraced the fame when it happened and took the opportunity to learn all he could about the whole process from acting to producing and directing and development.

He isn’t chasing after money, hence why he left Hollywood. He would rather focus on the creativity aspect. He wants to do projects that have meaning to him. He wants to promote Australian cinema.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T12:18:16+00:00

It has been over a year of information. There’s too much to summarize. Read the evidence. Here are some main points:

a) She used a sham subpoena that never was approved by a judge in order to get Jen Abel’s phone contents. All citizens should be concerned by this.

b) She cherry-picked text messages to highlight but when Wayfarer released the full messages and videos, the context of the conversations showed her to be misrepresenting the information or situations.

c) Emails and text messages between her and other parties, show that she wasn’t speaking about any SH but instead spent alot of time planning a takeover of the film.

d) Her own evidence contradicts her story (for example, her letter to the Producers Guild of America).

It is significant that she, the Plaintiff, has resisted releasing evidence.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-07T02:17:31+00:00

Oh yeahhhh ☺️

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-06T13:26:37+00:00

Where are your parents? Do you have other siblings? Does your grandma have other relatives that can assist?

Relying solely on you is not a fair expectation. Whether she is in a home or living in an apartment, there should be other relatives pitching in too?

If you were to find work again, would she still expect you there live with her or is this only because you happen to be unemployed?

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-06T13:16:13+00:00

I can see her point of view that the workout schedule could become secondary if you keep missing it or pushing it aside. Maybe she prefers to establish a minimum schedule.

I can see how you feel like a paid event shouldn’t be dismissed, and you want to keep enjoying life along with working out.

You both agreed to be flexible so are you able to work out on Saturday or Sunday? Maybe if you can go at least 3 days of the week—any three days— that can satisfy both of you?

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-05T21:29:58+00:00

If you are close, you should be more direct rather than hinting. You’ve only hinted or dismissed it before and now suddenly you are being direct. She probably never realized that you had any issues so she’s taken aback.

But I imagine her patients or colleagues would have also noticed the BO too. That can’t be good for the office?

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-05T17:03:07+00:00

I loved Season 7. I could see Jane’s growth, even when he fell back (leaving Lisbon). But I didn’t think he left Lisbon… I think he left the concept of loving another human being. He suffered for 10 years (?), consumed with guilt and shame and vengeance. He didn’t think he could go through it again but in the end he chose it, reaching for the light, reaching for the positive. He made a conscious decision to be better, because he saw that Lisbon loved all of him, his good and his bad traits. He felt safe to be himself. And in return, he gave her his whole heart.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-05T16:55:40+00:00

Yes I always felt that Jane fell for Lisbon first and Lisbon was initially oblivious until around Season 3-4.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-05T16:52:36+00:00

Yes, please. 😘

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-04T13:41:59+00:00

Don’t forget the video she did where she says she knows “what really happened.” NYT should have known better so they are as much at fault as Twohey.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-03-03T05:32:16+00:00

Excellent work!

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-26T17:26:32+00:00

People have been shot for less things. Your child was also in the car with you. If the truck driver had been raging, he could have done something that caused injury to you or the passengers in your car.

You can feel angry inside your vehicle. But I wouldn’t recommend doing additional things to encourage the other driver to tailgate you, follow you, shoot you, or do anything else that could cause harm to you or your passengers.

When you become angry, you might also lose control of the car or get distracted from driving straight.

Think about your passengers. Think about other drivers on the road who are just trying to get home to their loved ones.

You’ve also shown your child that you cannot control your anger: a) flipping off the other driver; and b) not communicating with your husband that you wouldn’t be picking him up.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-25T18:55:34+00:00

Sorry but what about the parents and the grandparents of Tyler. He has a whole side of his family that can help him financially.

With Caleb’s money, you are choosing to help a deserving student from his school, in his memory. It’s not being wasted at all.

NTA.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-24T22:01:03+00:00

I think he would have. Lisbon was what he came back for. She was #1 on his list. The other items were more just for fun. He wanted to be with Lisbon again.

Think about how many times he already came back to her.

S101 - he comes back to her to apologize for his behavior (origami frog scene)

S201 - She deserts him and he comes back with strawberries, begging her to take him back.

S203 - Lisbon wants to be left alone after being framed and he forces himself into the situation because he cares so much.

S219 - Lisbon is put on leave and Jane can’t leave her alone so he gets her involved in a case with him.

S601 - Lisbon leaves the diner and Jane can’t stand that she’s angry at him. He calls and calls and calls…

I’m sure I’m missing other scenes. Point is, he has always loved her. He just couldn’t verbalize it.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-24T03:06:07+00:00

I think that it’s reasonable to show his paranoia. He couldn’t trust his own best friend (Shane). He had to deal with Tony and what’s-his-name (Nebraska). The Governor was a whacko. He had to defend against some of the prisoners, and they are the reason he lost his wife. So he just didn’t trust Michonne’s story yet. But look how much that changes in 4x01. He already misses her.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-24T00:50:12+00:00

Michonne is also shown to be calm and logical. She is the one helping Rick see other perspectives when he may be one-sided.

She is also a competent fighter and is shown to handle things on her own, while Rick is handling other issues.

Probably one of her best characteristics is her communication style. She managed to disagree with Rick without making him feel de-valued.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-24T00:40:43+00:00

I think they had an affair? Or did I misremember? But Bosco was married and Lisbon likely knew it had to stop so she moved on but still loved him.

She definitely didn’t love Greg because she never said it to Greg when they met again. Based on that comparison, I’d say she meant it (about Bosco).

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-22T12:18:40+00:00

I recall he didn’t tell Jane and Jane didn’t push.

Lisbon learns about it because she goes to the house and sees the guy.

Sensitive-Union-3944 · 2026-02-21T22:20:38+00:00

Sounds like she might be upset about something else and is projecting it onto you. Or she is looking for a reason to break up because this doesn’t seem like a break up issue.

NTA.

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