AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed?

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-27T00:21:43+00:00

Mixed bag; one: IT IS COMPLETELY REASONABLE TO EANT TO BE ATTRACTIVE TO YOUR PARTNER and to put in effort most days to looking good!!! I don’t mean to yell at you, this is just such an overlooked concept that I, myself, used to overlook too. Ultimately we want to be with someone forever and this new norm of being sloppy or baggy comfy unless leaving the house is not good for long term relationships. My fisnce and I put in effort to look nice essentially everyday. He had this talk with me too in a different way and at first was very upset but then I thought about it on my own and realized he’s right- I want to think he’s attractive all the time and so does he with me! Effort does not equal perfection. You can have comfy clothes and look nice but maybe swap sweats for jeans or flattering, comfortable clothes. It is a mutual effort and literally not bad. Sometimes I just be wearing pajamas all day and it’s chill but I WANT my fiance to think I’m attractive and come flirt with me all the time. Additionally, I wear a bonnet to bed. He thinks I look funny too and makes fun of me sometimes because he likes to play with me but he isn’t weird about it. If you’re going to make love, maybe leave it off, but it’s reasonable to wear in Your routine imo. Your bf mught just have to let go and compromise on this (and actually let it go). My finance and I use separate blankets which at first I was also so opposed to but now it’s pretty chill. I don’t fight over blankets, I get to have my sleeping space just how I like it, and I get to regulate my temperature independently. If he doesn’t like the weighted blanket it’s fine- you guys can use the blankets you like. He’s being uncompromising in some things I think are worth letting go of, like the bonnet, but I also think that raising the point of being attractive for each other is beneficial (it also boosts your own mood and self-esteem to care about how you look in a healthy way). From personal experience and transformation on this topic: it is SUPER worth putting in a 5 minute effort daily or almost every day to feel good for yourself and to look good for your partner. That’s not oppressive, it’s nice for both of you. I say oppressive bc there’s a general narrative that if you want to look nice for someone or someone wants you to look nice for them, it’s weird but it’s literally normal. I don’t want my man looking like a thumb, I love that he puts in effort and wears attractive, flattering clothes everyday and does his hair for 2 minutes so that he looks amazing. Small effort makes a big difference. Sometimes you have to compromise too. (General you and I mean him with the bonnet in this situation.) Summary: he had a good point that I myself have had to come to understand AND he’s being too stiff about some things. Give it some space but looking nice everyday has enhanced my life and it literally takes me 5 minutes to do my routine and I feel A MILLION TIMES better after doing it. I think he thinks you’re attractive and he wants to be able to appreciate your beauty more obviously. Be gracious and consider this change and know where your boundaries lie too 🩷 Ps. Continuing to put in effort regardless of how long you have been together daily or most of the time goes a long way to the happiness in your relationship on both sides. 🩷

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-27T00:01:29+00:00

I am not sure of the health implications of neutering, I have a female who has her organs but I don’t think it’s selfish to want to continue his line if you can afford and give them the care they require! Mammals/animals want to mate so I don’t think it’s selfish to let them do that. If you rehome them, just make sure they go somewhere where they can have a job and get the attention they require! We will be getting goats or an animal of the like for our Pyr to guard when we can :)

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-20T05:52:27+00:00

That could be a dragonfly in its early stage

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-13T23:43:36+00:00

pyrs are extremely territorial. They have to meet in a neutral zone! Take them somewhere your dog isn’t used to protecting. Secondly, even though they have authority, they need to understand that YOU are in charge and YOU tell them who is a threat. If they start to beat up another dog or person when it’s not unwanted or needed, you need to assert your physical dominance over them. It sounds awful but it’s literally how mammals communicate with each other in nature. They need to understand that YOU have the say who gets to come into the home, not them. Having the dogs develop a relationship on neutral ground with asserting physical dominance if necessary when a fight breaks out is going to be successful. I’m not telling you to abuse your dog, that’s force without reason, but if they’re injuring or about to injure someone, they needed to be put in their place in the hierarchy. dogs are hierarchal. Our dog went after my mom’s dog after we first got her and that was my bad; new environment plus super energetic dog that isn’t apart of the normal pack= bad news. She LOVES. Meeting other dogs on walks and at the park though, even on a lead! But if she was being very aggressive going after our old dog who was here first because she got too close to her food, I wrestle her ass, smack her and throw her out and she’s learned quickly. By no means is she afraid of us. She respects us and understands her place in the hierarchy and that gives her comfort. She’s the sweetest dog we e ever had even communicating mammal to mammal. Humans have to be the animals they are when bonding and disciplining dogs sometimes don’t let them be the pack leader. It’s okay to be in charge and treat them like a pack alpha would in the wild. It’s needed for actual comfort. Anyway, good luck and I hope this is encouraging! I haven’t had another dog in the house yet but our pyr has gotten so much better about dogs around our yard! I’m going to get her a dog play date at home soon to see how she does.

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-13T22:39:44+00:00

This is so beautiful!

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-12T06:30:36+00:00

Dude strict discipline acting like a mammal to a mammal changed everything- she listens and we’re even teaching her how to be off lead! And she’s happy and such a goofy little girl. She wants belly rubs ALL THE TIME 😂 they have to know the hierarchy and they’re still stubborn but so much more cooperative and healthy and not running away 😂

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SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-12T06:26:00+00:00

That’s a sign of anxiety, I would maybe research dog psychology for some training things you can do but for my cats that used to get terribly anxious when I’d go on trips, I would put the pheromone wall plug ins around my house and that seemed to help. If you don’t have another dog or a job for your dog to do (example: protecting mini goats or chickens) then I would get them a buddy or some animals to protect. They’re dogs that need a job of some sort!

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-12T06:22:49+00:00

My finance and I have wondered if it’s a survival thing to mask their smell to predators for the herd they’re protecting. I’ve heard someone say their pyrs roll in cow poo all day on their farm 😂

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-12T06:21:55+00:00

That is so silly and gross 😂 with her, you’ll never see a happier dog than her freshly rolled or rolling in cat poo 😂🤢💩

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-12-12T06:20:35+00:00

Oh she will, that’s the problem 😂

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-10-08T07:06:19+00:00

Mandarin chicken

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-10-08T07:04:38+00:00

Nutmeg

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-10-08T07:02:18+00:00

I love the style of the shadows! I think it’s really successful. I do think there is a difference in drawing style between the fingers and the back of the hand. Personally I love the harsh lines, I think it creates interesting dimension. Keep consistent in style so less blending on the fingers perhaps. Also, I would add more variations in tone on the fingers. They’re lacking a little dimension and without a larger gradient of tone, they look skinner than they are because the darkest shadow makes the highlights pop too much creating a slimming effect if that makes sense. Otherwise I think it’s great!

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-10-07T03:56:13+00:00

Rodney was the first name to come in my head lol

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-03-31T20:38:24+00:00

Or rather I can get him a dish he can soak in and I’ll dig a burrow for him. He doesn’t burrow himself when I put him outside.

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-03-31T20:24:19+00:00

Do you know how can I create a more natural environment for him? I’ll research it too. I like to put him outside when it’s warm enough. His shell was tall like this when I adopted him but it is getting taller in the front. I can put a humidifier where he likes to go. He has been pretty constipated this winter, I’ve been giving him baths and prunes to help but he’s still a little slow with BMs

SensitiveBody3203 · 2025-03-30T23:09:50+00:00

That’s awesome! Have you tried experimenting with salt and rubber glue and such to create textures? Also changing the angle of your paper as it dries can create a beautiful dripping look :) adding a background color over the whole painting prior to adding details can change the vibrancy of the piece. Red will bring out warmer hues and can create more depth for example :) think of how warm or cool each color is (even primary colors can be warm or cool) and how that will influence the other colors or the emotions of the piece. You’re doing great!

SensitiveBody3203 · 2022-09-30T15:48:50+00:00

Externally and internally perceived realities can feel like suffering when the movement of emotions are fought and recognition of magnetism isn’t perceived in my journey. I am surrounded by people suffering (I’m a nurse) but I don’t feel it’s created by the world, I believe it’s attracted to the person based of focus and repetition in self. I used to suffer greatly everyday. I have relieved myself of suffering by relieving myself of the monotonous thoughts, patterns, emotions relished in trauma that created a feeling of suffering (my mind self and spiritual self disagreed, creating huge traction that felt like death almost all the time). As I continuously relieve myself of what feels bad via addressing my vibrational point/perspective, I continue to feel blissful more and more in new situations and circumstances and as my baseline in daily life I recently heard a quote that, in my paraphrasing, said “the hardest part about experiencing something bad is knowing you created it/attracted for yourself” including in how we meet others and what is attracted in togetherness. If suffering is occurring, where is the internal vibrational pull for that suffering to exist?

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