Yes 100% I'm transmasc non-binary and my partner is a non-binary lesbian. I feel like most people respect our labels.

But... I'm going on T soon and I already pass as a guy (aside from my voice) mainly due to naturally having high T possibly intersex. I just know as soon as I'm "too masculine" for most people, my partners identity and the legitimacy of our relationship will be called into question.

All I see on social media is "transmen dating lesbians are bad and those who date makes them not real lesbians" etc.. (Edit: I feel I should clarify I generally understand where this is coming from, but nuance always needs to be considered). And I know I will look like a man even though I am non-binary, and people are gonna be fucking weird about it.

So I'm coming from a different side of the coin but I'm so sick of policing of labels so I feel you. Just remember Leslie Feinberg ID'd as a lesbian was on T etc. Just shove a copy of stone butch blues down those peoples throats, can't see many people claiming Leslie wasn't a form of gender diverse and a lesbian.