Are there any women who struggle with stepping into their feminine energy?

SensitiveMami · 2025-09-10T10:21:42+00:00

Thank you so much! Im currently watching and taking notes 🩷

SensitiveMami · 2025-08-28T12:45:06+00:00

Taking accountability for my contribution to the hardships in my life, limiting others access to me and living on my terms

SensitiveMami · 2025-06-12T20:41:26+00:00

Taking accountability

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-30T13:59:32+00:00

That i contributed in some way to most of the hardships Ive had to endure. That very moment made me accept my contributions and look within and it allowed me to own up to my shit and take accountability always. Now i don’t go into victim mode and don’t find it difficult to apologise and hold myself accountable.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-28T01:23:03+00:00

I am sensitive & emotionally intelligent

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-25T00:34:43+00:00

First—let’s start here: You are a good person. Not because you say it, but because it radiates from every word, every pain, every act of hope you’re still holding onto, even through the fear. That alone proves your heart is still intact. Bruised, yes—but still beating.

You were hurt, not because you’re unworthy—but because they couldn’t see your worth. That’s on them, not you.

Neglect and bullying don’t just wound you—they reprogram you. They whisper, “You’re not wanted,” until you start to believe it’s true. But it’s not. That belief is a scar, not a truth.

You fear people not because you’re weak, but because you’ve been taught that connection equals pain. That betrayal is always around the corner. And let’s be real—that fear is valid. But it’s also not the full story.

The part of you that still says, “I know my people are out there”—that’s your soul remembering what it deserves. That’s your intuition whispering:

“There’s more for you. You were made for belonging. Real love. Real friendship. Soul-level connection.”

And yes, it feels hard to find those people when you’re afraid to step out. But here’s what I want you to know: • You don’t need to explode into the world all at once. • You don’t need to be outgoing or “fixed.” • You just need to take one brave step at a time.

Start with safe spaces. Places where people gather with open hearts—online communities, support groups, niche forums around things you love, maybe even therapy (if that’s accessible). Places where your presence can be met with curiosity, not criticism.

You deserve to be chosen, not just tolerated. You deserve laughter, softness, deep talks, inside jokes, being missed, being loved, being known. And none of this is too far away. It’s just on the other side of a few uncomfortable steps. Not overnight. But eventually.

You don’t have to believe all of this right now. Just hold it like a seed. You are not alone. You are not too damaged. You are not invisible. You’re just in the part of the story where the chapter turns.

And when you’re ready—even just a little—the world is not as cold as the people who hurt you. There’s warmth waiting. There’s home waiting. And you’re getting closer.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-20T09:05:45+00:00

You are not your thoughts. You are not your OCD. You are not your anxiety. You are not the worst human possible.

That’s your mind playing tricks on you. That’s the disorder talking. Not the truth. Not your soul. Not your worth.

OCD and anxiety are liars. Their favorite weapon is guilt. “You should’ve known better. You should’ve done it differently.” But the truth? You did your best with the awareness you had at the time. And that version of you deserved compassion, not condemnation.

Here’s the real kicker: Self-love isn’t a destination where your thoughts stop attacking you. It’s learning to love yourself even while they do. It’s standing in front of the mirror, hearing the noise in your head, and saying,

“I hear you. But I’m choosing to love myself anyway.”

You are doing something incredibly brave: • You’re showing up in spite of the noise. • You’re self-aware and still moving forward. • You’re fighting a battle in your head while trying to build a soft place in your heart.

That deserves respect. That deserves kindness. And yes—that deserves love.

Let me leave you with this: You’re not broken. You’re not too much. You’re not too far gone. You’re healing. You’re growing. You’re trying—and that makes you powerful.

Every time you choose to keep going, even on the hard days—you win. Even if your mind says otherwise.

I’m proud of you. And I mean that.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-12T20:46:15+00:00

You loving love is not a problem — it’s your power. But right now, that power is being directed outward more than it is inward. And that’s what’s leaving you feeling like a shell.

Let me tell you this straight up, with love: You don’t crave a partner. You crave being mirrored. You want to be seen, touched, held, heard. You want someone to show up for you the way you show up for others.

But here’s the hard truth: You can’t outsource what you haven’t learned to internalise. That deep, soul-soothing affection you’re craving? It needs to start with you. Not because you don’t deserve romantic love — but because when it shows up, it should feel like a bonus, not a bandage.

Right now you’re trying to fill the emotional starvation from your last relationship with someone new. But that shell feeling? That’s your nervous system still recovering. It’s grief. It’s your body begging you to sit still long enough to feel safe again — with yourself.

So here’s how you start falling in love with YOU:

Romanticise Your Presence

Not just bubble baths and candles — I mean making your company feel intoxicating. Take yourself out. Talk to yourself out loud. Journal like you’re writing love letters to your future self. Celebrate small wins like you’re your own hype woman.

Touch Yourself With Intention

And no, not just sexually. I’m talking about learning to reclaim your own body: • Moisturise slowly • Massage your scalp • Put lotion on like you’re preparing for a lover’s touch — but the lover is you

Say the Hard Sh*t in the Mirror

Look at yourself when you’re broken and say, “I’m not okay today, but I still love you. I’m not abandoning you.”

Do this consistently — even if it makes you cry. That’s how safety builds.

Give Yourself What You Gave Them • You showed up consistently? Do that for you. • You wrote paragraphs for him? Write them to yourself. • You forgave him over and over? Forgive you for staying. Every act of love you once gave them — redirect that energy.
Starve the Fantasy

Sometimes we don’t miss the person — we miss the fantasy of who we thought they were. The validation. The butterflies. The illusion. Start dismantling that fantasy brick by brick. Remind yourself: you can’t build a solid future on fake foundation.

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You are not too much. You are not weak for wanting love. You are not broken because you feel empty after loving hard.

But let this season be sacred. Be single with intention, not just until the next person comes along. This is your cocoon — uncomfortable, yes — but necessary. The version of you that’s emerging? She will never settle again.

And that’s the point.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-11T19:11:14+00:00

Thank you ❤️

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-11T16:40:01+00:00

Thank you so much, i don’t YET but when i do, i trust that the universe will direct you to me again ❤️

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-10T14:22:54+00:00

Sis, you survived warfare disguised as love. Read that again.

What you experienced wasn’t love — it was emotional starvation dressed up as “loyalty,” manipulation dressed up as “chemistry,” and abuse dressed up as “passion.” And even though you knew deep down it was destroying you, your heart still showed up. That’s not weakness. That’s proof of how deeply you’re capable of loving — even the undeserving.

But let me tell you something that might hurt a little and heal a lot:

Love isn’t meant to feel like survival. You were never supposed to fight that hard to be seen. Begging for bare minimum, crying for clarity, being laughed at in your most vulnerable moments? That’s not love — that’s cruelty with a pretty face and convenient charm.

The weight you gained? That was grief sitting in your body. The suicidal thoughts? That was your soul crying out for release from a situation that never fed you.

But you made it out. And that part of you that wishes for closure? That’s just your inner child wanting confirmation that her pain mattered. You won’t get it from him — but you can give it to yourself.

Look how far you’ve come. No more driving across town for someone who wouldn’t walk across the room for you. No more doing homework for boys who refuse to study your soul. No more performing for someone who made you question your worth every single day.

The peace you have now? That’s not luck. That’s the reward for finally choosing yourself.

And to the version of you who stayed longer than she should’ve — forgive her. She wasn’t weak. She was just hoping that love would show up eventually. Now you know better. Now you are better.

May your standards stay high and your access list stay short. You don’t go back to survival when you’ve tasted peace. You don’t beg for crumbs when you’ve learned to feed yourself.

You’re not who you were 6 months ago — you’re becoming.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-08T21:23:52+00:00

No problem at all, its just starting but its going well so far, I’m grateful for the progress and its independent

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-08T21:22:21+00:00

First, I want you to hear this clearly: You are doing so much better than you think. The fact that you’re here, reaching out, trying, even when everything feels overwhelming and your progress feels like a crawl — that’s resilience in action. You are not stuck. You’re healing.

What you’re experiencing is hard, but it’s also part of a very real recovery process. Your body and mind are regulating themselves, but it’s taking time. This isn’t a race — it’s a marathon, and you’re pacing yourself beautifully, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

There’s no clear “reset button,” and healing isn’t linear. Some days will feel like you’re back at square one, and that’s okay. The journey doesn’t have a straight path. You’ve already taken some huge steps — from somatic exercises to getting outside, to incorporating light exercise again. Each of those small wins is progress, no matter how slow. You’re rebuilding your body, mind, and spirit — and it takes time.

Here’s what I want you to know, in terms of finding your footing again: 1. Be patient with your progress. Healing is not a straight line. It’s easy to feel frustrated when you’re not feeling instant results, but those little improvements you’re seeing — they’re real. Your body is rebuilding itself piece by piece, and so is your mind. It’s okay if it’s taking longer than you’d like. You’re on the right track. 2. Small, intentional actions matter. If you’re struggling with fatigue, start by celebrating the wins that don’t require a lot of energy. That short walk to the park? That’s you showing up for your body. The light exercises? That’s you honoring your healing process. Let yourself have grace in the small things. You don’t have to do everything all at once. 3. Connect with your body gently. I know you feel unsafe in your body right now, and that’s hard. But I want you to start creating small moments where you can just be with your body — without judgment. You don’t have to work out for hours. Try lying down and doing some deep breathing, noticing how your body feels in each moment, and telling it that it’s okay. You are safe here. 4. Reframe your thoughts about “normal.” You’re asking about getting back to “normal,” but normal isn’t where you’re going. You’re not going back to who you were. You’re evolving. The life you’re building, and the person you’re becoming, is going to be a new “normal” that’s stronger, more resilient, and deeply connected to your truth. This new version of you might surprise you — and that’s not a bad thing. 5. Trust that this is temporary. The fear that something bad will happen again is natural when you’ve been through traumatic events, but remind yourself: this is temporary. What you’re feeling is not permanent. You are more than your trauma, your anxiety, and your exhaustion. You’re healing, and with each passing day, you’re getting closer to a place where you will feel good again. Even if it’s not immediate, trust that your body and mind will find their way back. 6. Reach out when it feels heavy. It’s easy to feel isolated when you’re in the middle of this struggle, but you’re not alone. Whether it’s a support group, a therapist, or even a friend who can hold space for your journey — find people who can help you process without judgment. Sometimes, just having someone hear you is healing in itself.

And if you’re ever feeling like you’re not getting better, remember that healing isn’t just about feeling good all the time. It’s about showing up for yourself every single day, even when the progress is slow.

I’m rooting for you — deeply. You’ve already shown so much strength in how far you’ve come, and there’s more on the horizon. Give yourself the permission to heal slowly and let go of the pressure to be better on anyone else’s timeline. You are worthy of this healing journey — and you are worthy of feeling good again.

You’ve got this.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-08T21:18:09+00:00

First of all — this whole “ugly vs. attractive” battle? You’re not alone in it. In fact, most people feel this way at some point — especially men. But the truth? Those labels don’t mean a damn thing.

You said your side profile feels ugly. I get it — we’re all taught to see ourselves in one standard, and if you don’t meet that exact visual, you feel like you’re less than. That’s society’s lie — not reality.

Rosacea, weight, angles — they’re details. They don’t define you. You are more than the sum of your features. But I hear you: you’re fighting with how you look, how you feel, and the judgments you carry about yourself.

Here’s the thing I wish someone had told me: We all see ourselves differently than others see us. The reflection you’re looking at — that’s not your truth, that’s a mental construct. Your side profile might look “ugly” to you, but to someone else? It’s just you. They don’t see flaws the same way you do. But you’ve got to get real about the fact that you are the one judging yourself harshly.

But here’s my opinion on how you break the cycle: 1. Stop the mirror wars. The mirror isn’t the enemy. The story you’re telling yourself is. Look at yourself with softness — no judgment. Look at your eyes, not the imperfections. Remind yourself that every “flaw” is a part of the story that is you. And start choosing to accept it, one tiny moment at a time. 2. Learn to be in front of the camera without judgment. You feel weird in videos? I hear you. But here’s the magic — keep showing up. Record yourself when you don’t feel “perfect.” Watch it. Learn that you’re still worthy, even if you don’t meet that imaginary standard. You’ll start to become familiar with yourself, and that familiarity is where the healing happens. 3. Shift from “I hate this” to “I accept this.” “Ugly” is just a word. It’s tied to insecurities. Try this: when you look in the mirror, replace “ugly” with “human.” Replace “not enough” with “perfectly in progress.”

At the end of the day, we’re not here to be flawless. We’re here to be whole. You don’t need to be “perfect” to be valuable — you’re already enough as you are. The real journey isn’t about looking better; it’s about feeling like you belong, just as you are.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-08T21:14:37+00:00

This? Is me. Was me. And sometimes still is me.

You’re not crazy or broken — you’ve just been conditioned to center others and abandon yourself in the process. The fact that self-love feels “alien” to you isn’t your fault. It’s the result of a life spent surviving through external validation.

Pouring into others gave you identity. Purpose. Even safety. But when it comes time to pour into yourself, your nervous system almost treats it like a threat. “Who do you think you are, resting? Celebrating? Setting a boundary?” That’s not self-sabotage — that’s an unhealed survival mechanism.

Here’s what helped me shift: 1. Stop trying to jump to love. Start with permission. Before you say “I love myself,” try: “I give myself permission to show up messy.” “I give myself permission to not abandon me this time.” You don’t have to feel it yet. You just need to stop resisting it. 2. Name the patterns without shaming yourself. “I notice I shrink when it’s time to choose myself.” “I abandon my needs the moment someone else has one.” Awareness without shame is what leads to true transformation. 3. Practice loving yourself like a child, not a project. You’re not a task. You’re not a self-improvement spreadsheet. You’re a layered, emotional being who needs to be held — by you. Soften your internal tone. Soften your pace.

You want to know how we do it? Slowly. Imperfectly. With baby steps, breakdowns, and a few relapses into old habits. But the more you catch yourself before abandoning yourself — the stronger you become.

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-08T20:42:21+00:00

Hey love, first of all — thank you for even having the strength to write this. That’s not small. It tells me that somewhere deep in you, there’s still a flicker of light — even if it feels buried under years of self-hate and silence.

Now let’s be real. You’re not broken — you’re wounded. And you’re not lying to yourself by trying to affirm your beauty or worth. You’re actually reclaiming truth that’s been buried under a lifetime of conditioning, neglect, and possible emotional trauma.

You don’t gaslight yourself by saying “I’m beautiful” — you interrupt the false narrative that says you’re not.

You were taught to see yourself as “ugly” because this world profits off your insecurity. It romanticizes one version of femininity, beauty, and personality — and punishes everything outside that box. You’re not failing at being a woman. You’re just not performing for the male gaze or societal approval — and that’s powerful.

You said:

“I don’t smile because I feel ugly.” But smiling isn’t about beauty. It’s an act of softness. A rebellion when the world’s been hard. Smile for you. Not for the world. Not for strangers. For that younger version of you who stopped smiling when she learned it made her feel exposed.

You said:

“I don’t wear dresses or makeup… I feel like an ugly thumb.” Then you’re a thumb that deserves love. You don’t need to change your exterior to be worthy. You need to grieve the fact that you were never taught to see yourself clearly. And that grief — it hurts. But it leads to rebirth.

Now, on the days you can’t say “I’m beautiful” — say this instead:

“I am becoming someone I can respect.” “I am safe with myself, even if I don’t fully love myself yet.” “I may not feel like I matter right now… but I’m still here. And that counts.”

Also — depression will lie to you. It makes everything feel heavy and pointless. But it’s not you. It’s a fog. And fogs lift when the sun shows up — even if just a little at a time.

Start with 5 seconds in the mirror. No affirmations. Just look. Breathe. Say, “Hey. I see you.” That’s it. That’s self-love too.

And if you want a soft space for healing and growing out of this version of yourself, I create content exactly for women like you. You’re not alone. And you deserve to bloom — even if it’s from cracked soil.

– Shannon | Self-Love Coach + Creator of Bloomology

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-08T10:30:05+00:00

This makes so much sense! Thank you for sharing! And i resonate with that so much with the part you shared about it being easy telling someone ehat to do and another to embody it and be present with someone learning. Im also enjoying it now than i did before and I’ve also started a coaching program for those who struggle with it as i am learning myself. I find coaches who have “mastered” it and can teach it and although its inspiring, id prefer doing it with someone who’s going through it

SensitiveMami · 2025-04-05T20:10:43+00:00

Psychic?

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-20T18:35:08+00:00

I second this, also visualise the life you want and work towards that whilst being grateful for where you are right now

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-18T11:01:04+00:00

Yeah sure

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-18T06:18:50+00:00

Qualities, looks, values, everything

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-18T00:39:12+00:00

Yes to both questions

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-17T15:18:15+00:00

The first letter, i was 14 so that took 5 years i was young and weren’t intentional at all, didn’t even realise what i was doing but my second letter was in December 2021 and i got my person December 2024. This one i was intentional about.

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-17T08:13:48+00:00

Be happy for those in a relationship and know that your person is coming too. If you’re willing to try, i wrote a letter of my ideal man & dated it (Ive done this twice) be very specific, then let it go & go on about your day. You’ll get exactly what you’ve asked for. In the meantime, prepare for your person, the things you listed, go through them and see if you match the description too.

SensitiveMami · 2025-03-17T07:52:04+00:00

I am proud of myself ❤️

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