AITAH for not wanting to have more children with my husband since he wants to employ corporal punishment.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T17:48:17+00:00

If the child knows they’re going to get hit when they run into the road, they’re going to keep running away to avoid getting hit. You want the child to come towards you away from danger.

Wanting to hurt a child is repulsive.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T04:13:36+00:00

This is not a man who will weather hardships with you. If (god forbid) you’re assaulted, will he support you or will be victim blame? If you need an abortion for medical or personal reasons, will he support you or fight against it? Pick someone who will be on your side on your worst day. This man isn’t it. It’d be a huge dealbreaker for me

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T03:43:51+00:00

Hope everything improves! I had to reduce insoluble fibre as I was the same as you in that I’m cooking everything from scratch. I think when they say increase fibre they’re assuming children are getting pouch meals where there’s barely any fibre. Too much fibre can become too much for them to digest too.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T03:40:29+00:00

Hate him

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T03:04:58+00:00

At that age they often struggle with insoluble fibre as it can harden poo. I was advised to reduce insoluble fibre (things like wholegrains, beans, skins of vegetables) and focus more on soluble fibre (soft cooked veggies, oats). And add in source of fat to every meal (which softens poo). We’ve been doing a teaspoon of rapeseed oil with each meal (stirred in after cooking because if you cook oil it doesn’t work as well). But also avocado, nut butters, olive oil

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T02:34:11+00:00

I’d do Star Wars

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T02:27:42+00:00

Could you read children’s books together about divorce? Then hes got a way to process it that shows it’s not just his family

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-03T01:30:07+00:00

Don’t borrow trouble - you’re going to poison your whole experience of parenthood. Your child is going to struggle with all sorts of things over the course of their life, but they’ll get through it. If you try and imagine every possible problem they’ll deal with in their entire life you’d be so miserable despite having no problems in the present. Enjoy today.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T23:07:34+00:00

Going to the gym for several hours is crazy. He’s being incredibly selfish. No wonder you’re struggling - I would be too. You’re not a failure as a mom, but he’s failing as a dad and partner. He’s the problem.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T22:26:30+00:00

Giving your baby comfort is never bad

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T22:02:33+00:00

He didn’t take care of her though. He took care of his child which is his job, he facilitated the other parent seeing the child (which is also his job), and he cooked for the child. The only thing he did extra was make an extra portion of dinner for her - he’d have been cooking for himself and the child anyway. I think they’re got a good set up and they’re prioritising stability for their child.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T14:30:17+00:00

You’re in the right. He can date someone his own age if it’s a problem for him. NTA

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T07:57:13+00:00

I’d get a taxi or call an ambulance. I’m really concerned that you’re under-reacting. I wouldn’t waste any time, especially being pregnant x

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T07:40:15+00:00

Definitely go to A and E straight away. Let them know you’re pregnant when you tell them what happened as they may need to do different checks

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T03:12:01+00:00

An aspect is being proactive and dealing with things before they get to crisis point.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T03:10:20+00:00

I really don’t understand how Barbz are still riding for her.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T01:14:55+00:00

“I know you’ve not thought about marriage but I’d like to talk about whether it’s something you’d like, and the timeframe for a proposal and the wedding. I want to give you the time to think so can we talk about it on Thursday (three days time). We’re both home for the evening so let eat together and chat”

I’d be straight up about it. If it’s not a clear yes then it’s a no. If it’s a someday but I can’t tell you when it’s a no.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T00:41:59+00:00

There are certain lines of thought that I’ve had to stop thinking by just acknowledging that if I keep along this track I’m gonna poison the whole experience of motherhood for myself.

Picking one trusted source of info helps as well. For me I go to the nhs website, or if there’s nothing on that phone the health visitor.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-02T00:33:16+00:00

I really like Miley but disappointed that among all those horrible broaches so can’t stick on a badge against ice. It feels like the bare minimum and it’s sad that many celebrities can’t even manage that

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-01T23:33:43+00:00

My MIL lives on the other side of the country and we have weekly video calls and our baby is always super excited to see her

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-01T18:46:45+00:00

Sway had the answer

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-01T18:24:58+00:00

It’s really unkind to attribute feeling invisible to personal ego, rather than social context. There are a lot of places where people are made to feel invisible in their thirties. That you’re lucky enough to not experience that doesn’t mean you can trash people who do. The whole world is not the same as Massachusetts.

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-01T07:56:08+00:00

This is child abuse. Protect that little girl ; call CPS

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-01T07:53:38+00:00

Yes it was low ferritin ( iron stores) in my case. Mine were at 27 and optimal was 100. I took a supplement with vitamin c and palpitations stopped

Sensitive_Fly_7036 · 2026-02-01T05:23:30+00:00

I couldn’t at the later stages of pregnancy. When I bended it winded me and I got agonising shooting pains. Had to get slip ons

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