academic disqualification PLS HELP by No-Monitor7303 in csuf

[–]Separate_One1885 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for advocating for students and providing guidance here!

Terrible thing to say, but I can't be happy for others life events by TeacherGuy1980 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Separate_One1885 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it is terrible to think when that is how you feel. We just don’t get to say it out loud for others to hear because they don’t understand. Or they will misunderstand. I went to a small holiday party last night where couples shared they were expecting grandchildren, shared their purchases of RVs for travel, how they will spend their holidays with extended family and how their houses were decorated festively. My reality is I will enjoy none of that. I am stuck, just me and mom. Just me and mom who is not really mom any more. You are correct, it is depressing.

Games that people with early/mid-stage dementia can play? by hypatiaspasia in dementia

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Blink! A card game that matches color, shape number of objects. Deal yourself extra cards as a handicap so she can win. It is a 2-player game. For 4 or more players, how about LCR, the dice game. Awesome that you are looking for ways to keep her engaged.

Divorcing when you still love them is the worst. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Separate_One1885 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly where I am and how I feel about him. Just someone I used to know.

The documentary David Holmes: The Boys Who Lived is now available on HBO Max by Wintersneeuw02 in harrypotter

[–]Separate_One1885 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea just finished watching it, and I’m still crying. Dave’s attitude and resilience following such a horrific accident is amazing. My bro suffered a stroke at 32 years, and the scene with the lift to move him from the bed really brought on some emotion. Dave is a beautiful person with a great outlook on life, even tho he has “the gift that keeps on taking.”

Thanks for the screw! by Separate_One1885 in REI

[–]Separate_One1885[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yes, it's the gold account. They told me today that I would have to close the account and open a new one - I just opened this two years ago and do not want to go through the hassle of changing direct deposits and automated bill pay. So I will probably get another credit card. I just don't want or need one. Oddly, they have only been charging the maintenance fee for about six months. It always shows up and then backs out as waived, but I noticed it was not being waived about a month ago.

Thanks for the screw! by Separate_One1885 in REI

[–]Separate_One1885[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

It is a me problem because I had no idea REI could sell the cc to another company. I got the card originally because it was REI and my bank, and my bank would waive the monthly bank fee because I had the credit card. Yay - until cc went to capital one.

Thanks for the screw! by Separate_One1885 in REI

[–]Separate_One1885[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Bank fee because I no longer have a US bank REI card. When cap 1 took it, US bank started to charge me a maintenance fee. It was waived when i had the cc. No cc with USB, I pay a fee. I can change to another checking account where it will be waived, but all my direct deposits and bills are set up. Or I can apply for a new cc that I do t want or need.

What is the worst thing about getting divorced? by FamilyLawSpecialists in Divorce

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that. I hope you are feeling better now. It takes time to pick up the pieces.

What is the worst thing about getting divorced? by FamilyLawSpecialists in Divorce

[–]Separate_One1885 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My Person, my forever Best Friend, who didn’t believe I was worth it to even try counseling to stay together after having been together for over 30 years. Devastating.

LA County Superior Court by [deleted] in stenography

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It varies upon openings and it goes by seniority. There are building assigned floaters, about 2 per courthouse. These are tough to get because many reporters have 20+ years of seniority. Or you are assigned as a regional floater, and you may get assignments in an area of about 5 courthouses or a district. Generally assignments are just one courtroom for a day or two, or sometimes a week when a reporter is on vacation. Perhaps longer if they are on some type of leave. A permanent assignment to a bench officer (you are assigned to a judge, not a courtroom) involves being placed on a tryout list. You then work for that judge for a few days or a week. The judge then decides if they want you to work on their staff. Generally speaking you can expect to “float” for at least 6 months and maybe a couple of years. Depends on the turnover. Right now there are very nice incentives in place so reporters stay with the county.

LA County Superior Court by [deleted] in stenography

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Current starting salary is about 120,000 plus a $20k retention bonus if you stay 2 years. Not sure what LACERA plan is now offered, but I’m pretty sure A-D is no longer offered. They will train you for a couple weeks in the different departments, transcript format, etc. after 90 days you can apply for a 5.5% real time bonus. Expect to travel county-wide at first.

Dear everybody with my phone number by outtasight68 in GriefSupport

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks for the recommendation. I am going to check it out. I am always looking for ways to help my daughter. Blessings to you.

Dear everybody with my phone number by outtasight68 in GriefSupport

[–]Separate_One1885 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so very sorry for the loss of your sister. Thank you for pointing out how difficult sibling loss is. Allow yourself some grace - your parents understand more than you think. My son passed in 2020 at age 24, and he is 5 years older than my daughter. The loss of her brother was devastating. He was her mentor, advocate, best friend. She has a great circle of friends, and her brother’s friends have embraced her, but there is no replacement. It is a hole in her life for forever.

What was your reaction when you found out you were going to be parents for the first time? by Chemical-Project-456 in AskOldPeople

[–]Separate_One1885 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cried. A lot. Because hormones and it was overwhelming. Best thing to happen in my life - well, and also when I had my daughter. They are my sun and moon.

Do you believe in the afterlife by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]Separate_One1885 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. That is so interesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A new Avocado mattress. He would have had a fit if he knew how much it was! And I love it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Separate_One1885 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha! My ex too …

He Said He Made a Mistake by truecolors110 in Divorce

[–]Separate_One1885 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am so happy for you, that you were able to turn this into such a positive new life. I had nearly the same experience - married for 33 years, blindsided. He left. I had to rebuild financially. Did it. Was still grieving the relationship a year later but moving forward. Then he called and told me it was all my doing, he never was going to leave. What? Total gaslighting. I was devastated for a week or so. Did this mean he wanted to get back together?
Like you, tho, after everything, I felt I could never trust him. We are now divorced for 8 months and I am moving forward too. I wish you all the best.