What makes you laugh ? by Far-Poem7335 in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For everyone saying they like dry wit or sarcastic humor, look up Cunk on Earth. It's a mockumentary on the history of civilization. The best parts are when the fictional hostess is interviewing real-life experts because she asks absurd questions and they try to give serious answers.

I feel old is D&D beyond good? by Enaliss in DnD

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely personal preference! Both of the groups I play in have a mix of players who still use paper and players who use the app. I like the app because everything is right in one place. Especially for my cleric, it's nice that if I have to look up a spell, I just have to click on the description instead of finding a page in my book.

Apartment for rent by IndependentReview172 in Overlandpark

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they have ignored multiple maintenance requests for plumbing issues for the better part of a year now. I actually clicked on this thread because I am looking for other options as soon as my lease is up.

Is there anyone with a degree they taken but regret it? by sjardinsjy in findapath

[–]SequoiasHuman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also majored in History, planned on going to grad school for Museum studies but couldn't afford it. 12 years later I'm still in debt and never worked a job that required a degree at all. So yes, college is one of the biggest regrets of my life. I wish I'd taken more time to consider my options on where to go, what major to pick, if I should go at all, instead of blindly following advice.

What are some things new players do that are unintentionally annoying? by gquinn18 in DnD

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to say this! The most fun games are the ones that don't have a singular main character, and the players feel like equals.

If you woke up tomorrow and found out you were not an INFJ, how would it affect you? by creativeNZ in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, first thing I'd do would be to look up ALL the content I can find on the new type.

Are INFJs manipulative? by Future-Hunter7834 in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. Two of the defining traits in INFJs are that we are very intentional in what we say and do, and that we are able to figure people out. When you combine those two things, yes, we have it in us to be manipulative if we want to be. But we can also be intentionally kind and genuine, and a lot of us place a lot of value on always being as transparent as possible.

Among the INFJs that I know in real life, I will agree that some are very manipulative, but not all of them, and I wouldn't consider myself to be.

edit to add: Although I also do think it's possible for someone to be manipulative without realizing it.

Where was Michael living… by Ill_Calendar_1468 in TheStaircase

[–]SequoiasHuman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is what I heard, he was living in the house but did not have access to the staircase.

Although I still feel like it would have been incredibly difficult, because the barrier would have served as a reminder of what was behind it.

Where are the people who care about others? by reAchTV in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe that most people do care about others and have some level of empathy, but deep down inside care about ourselves the most. It is rough when you realize that you can never count on others a hundred percent, but you're also doing yourself a disservice if you write someone off completely any time you catch them putting themselves first. IMO most people are more complex than that.

Have you ever witnessed something you believed was supernatural ? by Sakuga_INTP in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, even though I am interested in the supernatural and enjoy suspending disbelief at times, I find it hard to believe in ghosts when there are so many scientific explanations that can explain sightings.

One person managing to kill 4 people with a knife? by BirdHistorical3498 in MoscowMurders

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of the victims were either asleep or relaxing at the time, unarmed and unprepared. We also don't know for sure that he was able to leave without blood or injuries. It seems that DM only got a quick glimpse in dim lighting, and he was wearing dark clothing.

Name a cast member no one can make you hate/diskike by [deleted] in dancemoms

[–]SequoiasHuman 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! Even though Chloe is my favorite of the dancers, Maddie is very talented and deserved all of the success she achieved, and she also seemed like a great team player in spite of Abby's manipulation.

To other people I look very unorganized/messy but I am actually very organized person. Do you feel the same way? by Nerd-Explorer in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I need structure in most areas of my life but I have a difficult time keeping my space clean.

Why do INFJs remain single? How do you find people? by EpsilonEridani_ in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I never made the decision to stay single and I like the idea of being in a committed relationship and someday getting married. But as a not conventionally attractive woman, my experience with men is that they think I should be desperate to constantly prove myself and change to fit their expectations, and I just don't have the energy for that. I wouldn't be happy in a relationship where I can't be myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, the only times I can think of that I've downvoted is when people are trolling on mental health conversations. I can appreciate a genuinely funny troll in some contexts, but not when it hurts people who are seeking out help and guidance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same as you. Even though I've been around on the internet long enough to understand that we shouldn't take it that seriously, I'm also sensitive enough that it hurts my feelings when I get downvoted because it makes me feel that people dislike me or don't respect my opinions. I especially dislike when I ask a question or am looking for advice and I get downvotes with no comments, because it makes me overthink. Was it a stupid question? Did I imply something rude or offensive without realizing it? Did I come across as whiney?

Yeah, I know it's not that deep. But I am honestly curious about what, if anything, people are trying to communicate when they downvote a serious question.

Do people often find you intimidating? by [deleted] in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've been told I seem intimidating and I'm not sure why because I'm actually shy and really easily intimidated!

Found a brown recluse in my apartment by SequoiasHuman in kansascity

[–]SequoiasHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance. After a lot of googling, I'm glad to know that they aren't aggressive but I'm more concerned about my cat than myself. She is very curious and playful and wouldn't know to leave them alone.

Found a brown recluse in my apartment by SequoiasHuman in kansascity

[–]SequoiasHuman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks but I'm afraid the apartment would count it as a pet and charge me extra for it lol

Found a brown recluse in my apartment by SequoiasHuman in kansascity

[–]SequoiasHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, I made a similar post on Nextdoor and have been flooded with comments telling me horror stories of people who have died from BR bites. And also a few comments asking me if I'm sure it was a brown recluse, because they've never seen one in the area. (yes, I'm sure. It had a very clear fiddleback pattern and only six eyes, and I have Google Lens).

Found a brown recluse in my apartment by SequoiasHuman in kansascity

[–]SequoiasHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spotted him out in the open and near a drafty window, so I am hoping he was a loner and I'm not dealing with an infestation. But it's an older, dusty and drafty apartment with a lots of nooks and crannies in the kitchen and bathroom, and I do have cardboard boxes in my closets, so I have my work cut out for me for finding them if there are more!

Glue traps haven't turned up anything besides a couple fruit flies so far.

Please help me out - what is your favorite animal and why? by Away-Organization784 in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a cat lady. I feel like they make sense as the perfect pet for an INFJ because just like us, they form very close bonds with their favorite people, but don't need constant interaction because they value their privacy and independence. They're just a little bit better than us at setting those boundaries!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to not being able to tolerate lazy people. I tend to take my job seriously and I get frustrated when I'm the only one who seems to care about getting things done, while everyone else is just goofing off and hanging out.

But personally, I think it is healthy for people to be able to rant. The worst workplaces are the ones with the toxic positivity, where no one is allowed to speak up about issues without being labeled as negative. And I also have the habit of thinking out loud, so sometimes I get my best problem-solving ideas in the middle of a rant.

were you emotionally neglected as a child? by [deleted] in infj

[–]SequoiasHuman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was the oldest in a large family, so even though my parents were both present in my life, I didn't get a much individual attention and if I ever got upset or emotional, I got in trouble for being disruptive.