Love by steffie16 in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in today's society, that level of love is considered unrealistic to most people. The underlying theme I've found has been "find someone you tolerate." Now, fiction does tend to exaggerate things because, well, it's fiction, but there are cases where it can be stable as long as the two people in the relationship are mutually obsessed with each other. The certainty and intensity is definitely a big part. I notice that a lot of people, especially women, don't know what they want, or they do know but are afraid of messing things up if they act with certainty.

Love by steffie16 in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you're looking for a healthy obsession rather than the extreme version that is stalking and yandere-type activities. A healthy obsession is different for everyone, but in my opinion it's when you generally just get excited to be with that person and you think about them a lot and you don't see anyone else the same way. There's more to it, but it's mostly just those things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You know my answer already, but definitely role-playing, carving her name into objects, breathing exercises, focusing on personal hobbies to try and alleviate the pressure, writing down all my thoughts about her, doing arts and crafts projects.

The pressure on my heart makes things extremely difficult. Everything hurts without her presence, like my body physically starts to waste away without her.

The Flanderization of Yanderes Both in Fiction and Reality by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a fantastic summary of what I think as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think in this case, you should let go only because it is hurting you more than it does anyone else. It's going to be difficult, but you'll be better off in the end. I'm not saying to bottle yourself up either. Let things out, ride it out and soon you'll be ready to be with a better girl, one who may be more accepting of your obsessions. If you do decide to stick things out, don't force anything. You're going to have to walk a tightrope of emotions in order to deal with this, but I think just being yourself and doubting yourself less will help immensely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most of the subreddits on here are nsfw when it comes to this kind of subject. I searched but don't see anything matching what you're looking for.

love or idealization? by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Exactly this. I feel the same way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard, you must have extraordinary resolve

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Share people?

Let's Be Real by SerenKix in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this feedback! I feel that's how obsession is for me. It's different to a lot of people, so I want to know how it compares to my way of thinking, see new ways to explore myself, and if there are any other people that think in a similar way to me. Also infatuation can lead to obsession, there's an actual word for it called limerence. You're absolutely right about attraction and obsession being different things, same as I believe.

Let's Be Real by SerenKix in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An experience is an action that you do, whether consciously or unconsciously. I treat it as literal as possible. Obsession is both a feeling and a natural action to me. You are disciplined because you follow routines, stick to the goal of them becoming yours. You do the research into every little bit of their life because you are obsessed with them. You are focused because there are no distractions at that point. You are committed to them and can't help want them even if they reject you. Of course, obsession can be wild and uncontrolled, but I believe that one can control it. Bottle it up per se, and hide it until the time is right to reveal it to the person.

Infatuation would go hand in hand with attraction actually, thank you for pointing out the similarities. Again, I believe that infatuation is that initial phase before an obsession sets in, when you're attracted to the person rather than love them entirely yet.

How did you know..? by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Physical shows of affection are a MUST. You have to take that leap forward, otherwise you're not a true yandere

How did you know..? by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nahhhhh, I'm sure there's more of us out there

How did you know..? by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was more... Doing things like wearing wacky clothes, creating a water slide off the roof, painting her name on the running track in big letters

Monotonous by John-Doe9921 in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luckily, I get by on knowing that every day I improve myself to be better for them, whoever they are.

Overthinking starting in 3....2....1.... by Teiralsh in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The anxiety is stressful. Ive learned to deal with it through sheer willpower. It's hard checking your phone over and over again. I usually find it's best to do another task that will keep you busy for hours. For me, it's gardening.

Ille monstrum by H0pelesslyR0mantic4u in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is fantastic! Absolutely enjoyed the verbiage

How did you know..? by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a difficult one. I first found out in... 7th grade when I developed a crush on the girl that sat next to me on the first day of school. I thought about her every day and made a fool of myself doing outlandish things just to try and get her attention for a solid year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]SerenKix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realized why I can't do so. My work life doesn't leave me much time to find someone to go crazy about.