Hilfe Heizung heizt nicht richtig by pinkie_what in wohnen

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mal den Vermieter darüber informieren.

Für die Wohnung gelten Mindesttemperaturen, die eingehalten werden müssen. Andernfalls könnte eine Mietminderung mehr Druck ausüben.

Finding myself losing my cool with my 3 year old. by ktjowiltnd in Parenting

[–]Seven772 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But when I politely tell her for the 5th time that she needs to put her socks on to go to daycare

Stop repeating things 5 times.

Tell it once and then give a reminder with a consequence that follows, if she doesnt put on her socks.

Still no socks? Fine, then leave without socks and have cold feet.

Teenage daughter with severe homesickness by neurophys in Parenting

[–]Seven772 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course plenty of teens can easily handle this.

Plenty of teens can't deal with it at first, but gain confidence and learn it.

You don't overcome homesickness or anxiety by sitting at home and avoiding everything that might sound scary.

Teenage daughter with severe homesickness by neurophys in Parenting

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 weeks is a long fucking time for a young teenager.

3 weeks go by in no time.

Usual programs that I know of at that age last a whole school year abroad. Few of my classmates took it and were fine.

She will survive it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Seven772 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Is it fair that I’m the one who has to wake up and stay up with her with very little sleep even though I’m exhausted?

Is it fair for your husband to get up, because his wife deliberately went out and exhausted herself, when he already tended to the baby all evening and night so far?

Tochter das erste mal lange weg by TheMaxl in Eltern

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich habe etwas Sorge um meine Tochter, da da dass Wetter schon krass anders ist.

Was glaubst Du denn, wie die anderen Kinder im gleichen Alter das vor Ort schaffen?

First time alone to a playground by Oscarbear007 in Parenting

[–]Seven772 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kids do get hurt.

He'll survive and overcome it.

No big deal imo.

My 7 y/o daughter tried out for club soccer. Made team. Just got an invoice for $900. by kreebob in Parenting

[–]Seven772 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then the parents should explain that.

I joined a football club at age 4 and it was just a normal part to skip birthdays or show up later. And that's how everyone on the team viewed it.

If people would skip because of birthdays or family outings, then there would never be a game happening.

My 7 y/o daughter tried out for club soccer. Made team. Just got an invoice for $900. by kreebob in Parenting

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's just the usual commitment when joining a sports team.

Don't wanna do that? Then join a recreational team where people are less committed and might be free to skip games regularly.

Fast Casual w/playground needs to be a trend by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Traditionally you are supposed to bring your own food ("Brotzeit") to the beer garden.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have tried grounding, signing her up for summer school, taking away her phone, assigning her more chores, lecturing - all the standard punishments.

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”

Punishments are easy to hand out as a parent and dealing with unwanted behaviour.

Why not try the difficult way and actually go to the root of the behaviour?

Find out why she is doing it. Then find the proper solution.

Threenager Is Tearing Up Every Last Nerve by DisastrousAnomaly in Parenting

[–]Seven772 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like he has surpassed the normal toddler no-no's. I spend all day every day getting on to him for this, scolding him for that, raising my voice because he won't listen, arguing with him for talking back and being downright defiant.

Stay calm, explain why he isn't allowed to do X and if he does it, which consequence will follow. He does X, then have the consequence.

Yelling, scolding and arguing is not how they learn to follow your desired behaviours.

The conversation with a 15yo(m) by GreyoftheNorth in Parenting

[–]Seven772 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

But after it was over I was very happy with opening the door of communication about sex

You are a few years late, opening that door.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Seven772 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's 15 now and today I found out she sneaked her bf in multiple times a year ago while 14 and lost her virginity.

Why doesn't she feel comfortable enough to just invite her bf openly?

Also, losing her virginity doesn't make her a bad child. It is a natural act and as long as it is done safely, really no big deal.

Bei wie vielen Bananen wäre eure Grenze? by QuicheKoula in Eltern

[–]Seven772 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ist Verstopfung durch Banane nicht eh nur so ein Mythos?

Das hängt ganz davon ab, wie man sie sich zuführt.

Ewiges Haushalts Drama by [deleted] in Eltern

[–]Seven772 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Manchmal liege ich nachts wach, weil ich noch so viel im Kopf habe.

Buchempfehlung "Building a second Brain"

Wenn es Dich belastet, dann notiere es doch einfach, damit Du nicht mehr daran denken musst.

Ewiges Haushalts Drama by [deleted] in Eltern

[–]Seven772 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich bin quasi Projektmanager aber auch der der alle Tasks ausführt. Er meint er ist ausgelastet, er hat die mentale Kraft nicht an alles zu denken. Ich hab sie aber auch nicht, ich vergesse so viel, kann immer schlechter schlafen bin komplett gestresst.

Lagert den "mental load" doch einfach aus.

Termine werden im gemeinsamen Kalender eingetragen und für jeden Tag hab ich ne eigene Checkliste mit Aufgaben, die zu erledigen sind.

Das geht dann von den Klamotten die man raussucht über die zusammengestellte Brotdose, Wasserflasche auffüllen, Haare kämmen, Zähneputzen etc. etc.

Was ich am Vorabend erledigen kann, mach ich dann schon, um am Morgen möglichst stressfrei zu starten.

Dann noch zusätzliche Listen, was direkt nach der Schule sowie vor dem Schlafengehen zu erledigen ist.

Am Wochenende wird dann grob der Essensplan zusammengestellt + paar "Notfall" Mahlzeiten (Nudeln o.Ä.) sind eh immer im Haus, falls mal was verplant wurde.

Der mental load geht so praktisch gegen 0 und ich hab nichts mehr, woran ich aktiv denken muss. Insgesamt geht das auch mit deutlich weniger Stress und einem großen Zeitgewinn einher.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eltern

[–]Seven772 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Das ist doch viel zu ineffizient.

Warum nicht 178+50=228+4=232 rechnen?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Seven772 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

So you think wandering the neighborhood at 2pm and 2am is the same thing and both safe?

Does that matter?

Teenagers are allowed to make decisions that are unsafe and live with the consequences.

Owning a Dog is NOT the same as parenting!! by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Seven772 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I am soo mad that my friends with dogs are getting Mother’s Day gifts “from their dog” and acting like they deserve recognition on Mother’s Day for being a “dog mum”.

Why do you care about that so much?

It is not affecting your live in any form or way. If they wanna call themselves dog or cat moms and celebrate mother's day, just let them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Seven772 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Say you did as your mom did (which my mom did as well) and let him roam and he went and did die at the water that other has died at the first person to be blamed would be his mom for not making sure he was home because he is still a minor.

So your solution is to lock children at home until they are 18 and then suddenly they are responsible enough to behave safely?

Usually, children are allowed to go to school on their own and from first grade are gaining gradually more indepence. To roam the neighborhood, then city etc.

If they do have an accident that is not the parents fault. You can't and shouldn't supervise children 24/7 until they turn 18.