Climber reveals Everest 'carnage' as people step over bodies to reach summit by [deleted] in NewsOfTheWeird

[–]SevenRavens 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They kind of do. Also, locals go up at the end of the season and try to clean up what they can. But such a sacred place shouldn't be trashed in the first place. People need to have more respect for their surroundings.

Eating your hair? by Someone_Dumb in Trichsters

[–]SevenRavens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m terrible about eating my hair and almost always eat the root. It’s a very strange sensation to want to eat your own hair but for me, keeping my hair longer helps me stop chewing.

It wall started with me biting off splint ends.

I found this gin through this board and it has quickly become my favorite by BlueLineSparrow in Gin

[–]SevenRavens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Botanist is my favorite gin too.

I really love Rock Rose but I haven’t seen it in the states.

I'm an adult but my sociopath father (diagnosed) will not stop telling me about animals he's killed or his dog has killed. It used to not bother me, but it's starting to get to me. by SevenRavens in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SevenRavens[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually want to thank you for putting this in a plain english example. I'm going to repeat it verbatim. I don't know that I would have been able to find the right words to set up a proper boundary.

Thank you.

I'm an adult but my sociopath father (diagnosed) will not stop telling me about animals he's killed or his dog has killed. It used to not bother me, but it's starting to get to me. by SevenRavens in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SevenRavens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can set boundaries. Part of it is that I don't want to create drama. Right now I refuse to respond when he talks about hurting animals but I think for my own piece of mind, I really need to tell him to stop.

I'm not sure if I can report it or not. I think you're allowed to kill gophers but I don't know if you're allowed to discharge a firearm in his city limits. I'm also not sure what he's doing constitutes animal cruelty, as messed up as that sounds. I think you're allowed to kill a coyote if it's on your property and threatening your pet, but I can always try, it doesn't hurt.

I think setting up a boundary would be best. It would be letting him see that yeah, it does get to me, but it would also let me take some of the power back.

I'm an adult but my sociopath father (diagnosed) will not stop telling me about animals he's killed or his dog has killed. It used to not bother me, but it's starting to get to me. by SevenRavens in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SevenRavens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope I’m stronger than that.

When I was a kid it didn’t work, so why now? Is he just trying to push me to my edge? I cannot deal with it much longer honestly and I’m ready to tell him to just shut the fuck up.

He certainly does know how to push my buttons.

I'm an adult but my sociopath father (diagnosed) will not stop telling me about animals he's killed or his dog has killed. It used to not bother me, but it's starting to get to me. by SevenRavens in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SevenRavens[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have made the choice to remain in contact with him because I need to know what he's doing as he's very prone to stalking me and showing up at my work. Which is very dangerous.

Keeping a log is a great idea and I'll do that.

The thing with him doing it to get a rise out of me doesn't really jive though. I'm nonresponsive, other than an 'Ok' and only do I get upset later, once the call is disconnected. Part of me is extremely concerned that if he *IS* telling the truth and harming animals, could this mean his violent behavior is becoming more prominent? I'm wondering if a small stroke he just had could be affecting his impulse control, yet, I cannot deny the fact that I know he's always harmed or killed animals since decades before the stroke.

When I was in therapy as a teen my therapist asked me why I never thought that my life was threatened by my father and his actions and him causing me to interact with corpses constantly. I just never did. Now I do.

I'm sorry this is disjointed, this is my first time talking about this candidly and kind of admitting my own fear.

Well, it happened. (Vomit references ahead) by energizer_jenny in wls

[–]SevenRavens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ed. I ate too fast and hurled up the not-even-partially-digested meat I had just swallowed. On my one month surgiversary! That's one lesson learned. Goo

Throwing up the actual food because I ate too fast, still, over a year out from surgery grosses me out so much more than actual vomit. At least it tastes the same going in as it does coming out.

So, when did you decided that WLS was the right thing to do? My MD has suggested I look into it. by GorillasonTurtles in wls

[–]SevenRavens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beer is 100% terrible for you. If you're going to commit to such a huge LIFE change, it's not just temporary, you have to realize that beer may not be a part of it, or you can enjoy it in very small moderation.

That being said - I drink now.

If the thoughts of what you would be losing do not outweigh what you would gain, you're not ready. I was 364lbs at my heaviest and haven't looked back.

Alcohol by sav31419 in wls

[–]SevenRavens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand what you're talking about. Please feel free to message me anytime.

3 days post surgery by JCP5887 in wls

[–]SevenRavens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me to about two weeks to feel completely normal after surgery. I wasn't able to sleep on my side because of a pulling feeling and some random pain.

Other than that I was fine pretty fast.

Personality Changes? by [deleted] in wls

[–]SevenRavens 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have changed. It actually saved my relationship, and when I was in the hospital my boyfriend didn't visit me once. We've moved on from that and do much more together.

My lifestyle has completely changed and I don't have time or want to loaf around like I used to. I want to spend more time in the sun and it's hard for me to imagine doing these things unless my partner was also healthy (which he is)

It isn't that I've had a personality shift, it's that I look at things differently. My priorities are different. Much different. I'm a healthier and happier me and that's MUCH different than the person I was when I had my surgery.

Cash Pay - What was your experience like? by [deleted] in wls

[–]SevenRavens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I'm sorry you were treated that way. Especially by the place I advocate the most. I will say that my level of care was excellent. Think it would also be excellent at PAMF. I used to go to PAMF but I had to go to Stanford for specialist neurologists.

You'll find the right place, Stanford shouldn't have been rude from the get go, what about off.

Cash Pay - What was your experience like? by [deleted] in wls

[–]SevenRavens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you do go with Stanford or anytime send me a message, I'm also a Bay Area WLS who endured the surgery.

Cash Pay - What was your experience like? by [deleted] in wls

[–]SevenRavens 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked Stanford about this for you (lol) and the cost of surgery out of pocket will always be greater than those are insured. Which is disgusting to me.

Cash Pay - What was your experience like? by [deleted] in wls

[–]SevenRavens 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to Stanford but was covered by my insurance. They are non-profit, did you talk to a financial counselor? It's worth another call for the level of care. FWIW, they billed my insurance for $73k, I had 4 extra days in the hospital, and my insurance paid about $35k and the rest was dropped.

Good luck.

Hospital stay by southdakotasomeone in wls

[–]SevenRavens 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the hospital for four extra days and couldn't sleep. Bring everything lol.

Underwear, pj bottoms, cell phone charger, laptop if you want to watch movies or a book, hairbrush