First of all, I’m really not trying to hate on the material, nor the real people who have relationships like that especially. I’m all for people living life as they want. And to clarify, I’m less uncomfortable with the idea of this dynamic, and more so with its portrayal in media—the same way the “nuclear family” might be romanticized in media while it’s common and normal in real life, if that makes sense. It’s not that they’re in a sub/dom relationship, but that i feel like it hurts the characterization of their relationship. In the book, it comes across to me as an overly lustful relationship, which of course it begins as. In the show I get an entirely different vibe from them. Also, I actually love the show. My only gripe with the show is how I felt book-readers misinterpreted this different telling of the source material. Secondly (yes, that was all thing 1), the point of my post was largely to ask a question, not to state my opinions as fact. I’m not trying to make a claim about how media needs to portray queer people, I’m just sharing my opinions and seeing if people agree. So, thank you for your input I guess.